a typical argument-
me- why dont you want a cat?
mom- because i dont want one
me- i know that, but why? you said yourself that i take really good care of my current pets. so why cant i get a cat? i scoop the litter box every other day and feed the cat we have now, plus i clean the frog and snake tank every other day too.
mom- because i dont want another pet we have too many animals and i dont like cats.
me- thats not true (i almost got a parrot but changed my mind because i might need to live in an apartment and they would be too loud for that)
mom- quit harassing me about it, you just keep asking for more and more and more and you arent grateful for anything you have now. we already have a cat and shes perfect-
me- except for the fact that she doesnt like people
mom- WE DONT NEED ANOTHER. MORE CATS ARE MORE POOP AND THEY FIGHT AND PEE
me- we already went over this, I am cleaning the litter box and feeding the cat. I pay for every aspect of it. i dont understand why i cant get a cat...
2007-07-31 04:52:12 · 17 answers · asked by Marie 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
then she explodes some more about how im harassing her and i give up; im in tears at that point
i want to rescue a cat because rescues are flooded with cats
im not even asking for one for RIGHT THIS SECOND, maybe next year or the year after. but noooo, shes shutting me down at the idea of getting a cat and she doesnt listen to anything i say.
she just keeps repeating "quit harassing me" and "i dont want a cat" and if i ask her why, she just says "because i dont want one" and its impossible to explain to her why the reason she doesnt want another cat wouldnt be a problem because she doesnt say why, she just says no.
the only reasons why she would possible say not would be because she would be afraid that they would fight (we had a cat who died a few months ago at age 22, so my 2-yr old cat would play with her tail and drive her nuts, but if i get a younger one, they probably wouldnt fight. i can always take my cat to the shelter to see which cat would be the most compatible with her.)
2007-07-31 05:00:23 · update #1
also shedding and pooping and money are more excuses, but i have saved cash for over three years and i scoop the litter box already, its not her concern. those are just excuses because she "just doesnt want one" so much. and there are things you can do to make shedding more tolerable.
2007-07-31 05:02:43 · update #2
Thank you for wanting to give a homeless cat a forever loving home...however, it is your mom's house. She is perfectly within her rights to impose limits on how many pets you can keep there. Take your wonderful energy to your nearest shelter and volunteer. You can help others find the perfect cat by spending time with the ones up for adoption and enriching their lives while they wait. And your responsibilities there might actually help convince your mom at some point in the future. If not, when you have your own place, I'm sure it will be filled with much love and happiness in the form of many cats. Just make sure you have the money, time, and energy- don't get in over your head. Good Luck- you will eventually have exactly what you want.
2007-07-31 05:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by howldine 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If indeed you are doing all the work a pet requires, then you are right and she's wrong. Of course, she has a say (the final one, actually) as to how many pets live in her house. So i am afraid you have to live with it. What you can explain to her is that a second cat would distract the first one more, and they would have each other for company. They would probably learn to get along. Taking your cat to the shelter is not necessary, just bring a kitten and introduce it to the older cat gradually. Also tell your mum that you would only be replacing teh cat that died. However, it seems that your mum has already accepted too many pets (frog, snake, etc.), and she probably deosn't even want those, let alone getting a new one!
2007-07-31 05:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your mom might still be in mourning over your old cat. Some people just don't want to replace a pet for a long time.
Accept the fact that now is not the time to get a new cat. If you want to help feline kind see if you can volunteer at a shelter, or get involved with spreading the word about spaying and neutering
2007-07-31 05:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by LX V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It IS difficult introducing a new cat to an existing one. The one you have now can become jealous, depressed, and desctructive.
Plus kittens can be quite destructive. You said you might need to live in an apartment - why don't you get a cat of your own at that point? Why do you need one RIGHT NOW?
I don't think there's any way to convince your mom to change her mind. Your best bet is to just roll with it, and wait until you're out of there.
Edit:
I understand cat shelters are overflowing, but they always will be. Also, your mom's position is NOT unreasonable. I have two cats, and I love them to death, but I would NOT want another one. And you CAN take your cat to a shelter to play with other cats, but that doesn't mean it's an accurate gauge. Your cat may act like it's best friends with another, but as soon as that other cat comes into your cat's territory, it's an entirely different story.
And you may have cash saved up, but do you have enough to replace your couch should the new cat scratch it up? I paid $1,200 for my couch...how much do you have saved up?
2007-07-31 05:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by David V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can relate!
Looks like you have every answer in the book on this question so I don't know how I could help. Just stay clam.
If you are getting your own appt you could then get as many as you want. Whenever my mom says no no no more animals-that always cages when she sees a cute little kitten who really needs a home! I usually end up getting her to agree on the spot- like if were at a store and someone is giving away free puppies I go LOOK MOMMY! Puppies! then she'll say "Ohhh! Its soooo cute" Then she might blame it on dad. "Dad will throw a fit if we brought an animal home."
Cats sometimes like it better alone. Mabey you could volunteer where you could work with as many animals as you wanted!!!!
2007-07-31 06:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by YaYa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line is its your moms house. and Even if you are reeeaaallly reliable at taking care of them, she is ultimatly responsible for the food bills, vet bills and anything else they need finacially! So just be happy that you do have quite a few pets. Some kids don't get any! And when you grow up and out of your moms house you can have a managerie!
Give mom a break!
2007-07-31 05:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by tutis000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont really think there is one way to convince her because im going through the same thing with my dad only i want a puppy. i think if u do a lot of research and dont bug her about it constantly and like earn money and do more chores and prove 2 her u can handle the responsibility maybe she'll change her mind.
2007-07-31 04:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by ashley <3<3<3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her alone about it and act really nice to her. Do extra things around the house. Surprise her and make her happy. After a while she will feel so bad that she will have to change her mind. But Don't keep asking because that will just get her more and more upset
good luck ;)
2007-07-31 05:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you cant convince your mom to get a cat then you can ask her if you could get a ferret now you may say ewe a ferret they stink they are but just like kittens they just never grow up they love to play chase and hide and go seek with you and bond with you but just like a kitten or puppie you have to take a great deal of time out of your life to care for them.
2007-07-31 06:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by vet and pet expert 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up, move out with your pets and you can do whatever you want. Believe me your mother will be considerably less insane when you and the animals are gone.
2007-07-31 05:53:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋