why am i always angry?

Question

i am always angry for no reason... well no good reason.. the dumbest things make me so angry i cant control it sometimes.. i have hit people before and i have broken alot of things.. i am super sensitive and defensive... i take everything the wrong way.. i have really crazy mood swings .. and i worry all the time about stupid stuff.. what should i do? any tips on controlling my anger or mood swings?

Answer 1

obviously this comes from a deeper issue, or issues ... it probably has something to do w/ something or things you experienced when you were younger ... unhappy or troubled childhood. you need to dig deep for this one ... and learn to let go of your past. NOT EASY, but if you want to lead a happy successful life w/o all the anger & what the anger causes you to do, you have to let go.

it may really help to talk to someone you trust.

Answer 2

First of all get a complete physical, to see of there is something else going on here.

Be careful what medication you takes. I have found that decongestants and many other over the counter medications can make people "Irritable", they say so in the fine print. I used to get get angry for "no reason", but only when I was on taking decongestants. Now I only will take them at night before bed. Who cares if I am angry while I am asleep!

Are you under the influence of of someone who is holding you back?

I used to worry so much, I got the hives. I read a book, called "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie, and it put things in perspective for me. I spent 29 cents for it at a used book store. Best 29 cents I ever spent, I am sure it is more now...

Do you really take everything the wrong way, or is someone using veiled insults? Some people have a tendency, to think it is okay to joke arround with their friends, by playfully hitting and roasting them. If someone is doing that to you, let them know how bad it is, but you don't have to get angry.

As an old friend of mine used to say "It is better to be pissed off than pissed on".

Answer 3

I used to be that way too, and I didn't know why because I have a good life and a super great husband! It turns out that even though I thought I ate healthy, I cannot tolerate sugar or sweeteners or things like white bread. At all. It makes me go from hyper-happy to suicidal. I'd go from normal to crying in 5 minutes. Or calm to raging over nothing. Once I quit sugar and changed my diet, I am a different person.
And not only that, my stomach calmed down, my skin is much better, and my PMS is down to 1 slightly grumpy day and 1 day of "nerves".

I still take supplements due to some other issues I had, but quitting sugar, sweeteners, white bread and Pepsi changed my life.

Answer 4

maybe you're not contented with what you have and what you are..... "soul searching" is the best way to study yourself. Or maybe the factors that triggers you to being angry are really a pain in the ***. if you get angry easily, it affects you relationship with all the people around you.... you're not the only one affected so better do look at things in a more positive way,,,,, or do what i do, when people they make you fly off the handle, breath deeply and think first before you do something, you might end up regretting it if you don't think first..... GET EVEN!

Answer 5

Experiencing anger is extremely dangerous to your health. It causes your adrenaline and blood pressure to rise up at above normal levels. Moreover, you could end up hurting someone or doing something that you will regret later on.

Here are 7 fantastic tips to help you be the one in control of yourself, and not the hazardous madman called "Anger."

1) Relax and visualize.
Calm yourself down. Take a deep breath. As you exhale, imagine all those bottled-up fury come out of your nose and mouth. Release it and be free. Repeat this step over and over until you feel peace inside.

Then visualize being in a place where you feel most happy, calm, and relaxed. It may be a place like a beach, garden, scenic locations, or anywhere else you might think of. Just imagine being there and inhaling the essence of your serene environment. By doing this, you will not find it hard to attain inner peace.

2) Pour out your anger to safe outlets.
You had a big quarrel with your former friend. He betrayed your trust. You want vengeance and you're raving mad.

Hold it. Restrain yourself.

Try your best to get away from him as far as you can. You don't want to hurt anyone. Anger can possess your brain into doing something that you wouldn't dare do before.

How do you then release your anger if you can't restrict it anymore?

Buy a punching bag, then pour out all your rage in it. Punch it, kick it, strangle it. Imagine the punching bag is your enemy. When you're done, you will feel a sense of satisfaction. You may even punch and kick through thin air if you desire.

Another way to release it is "SHOUT!" Find a distant place where you can be alone - a place where no one can hear you. At the top of your voice, yell out loud "Aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhh." You can choose any word you like as long as you release all those angry demons out of your chest.

3) Forgive and forget.
Nothing could ease your mental and emotional pains better than by forgiving someone that has hurt you in the past. It is very unhealthy to burden yourself with unnecessary torture brought about by unpleasant memories of other people's demeaning acts.

Moreover, if they have taken something important away from you, would it make sense to also sacrifice your health and lifestyle? Of course not.

4) Exercise.
Engaging in exercises increases your endorphins. Your angry mood could miraculously change to a happy one if you get involved in exercises that you enjoy doing.

5) Have a circle of "sponge" friends.
Do you feel relieved when you voice out all your problems to close friends and relatives? That's the power of voicing out your inner feelings.

Always have someone to talk to when you're down, when you're depressed, when you're mad, or in any other occasion when you feel you have to get the thorns out of your chest.

6) Listen to soothing music.
It calms your soul. A 20 minute session of listening to relaxing music while resting comfortably could soothe the upset spirit. Take deep breaths often.

7) Pray.
Deadly consequences arise when people could not hold back their fury. Ask for guidance that you will be able to control your temper. Prayers bring inner peace to those who ask for it.

Answer 6

It seems to me like you have a behavior disorder, there is a lot of treatments and help you can get to take this into control, Why you don't look for locals in your are for some help, local yellow pages could be a good start. You don't have to live like this, do it for you and the ones you love. Good luck.

Answer 7

You really need to supply a little more information about yourself;

Your age, diet, do you have children (any recently?). Take no notice of people telling you it has anything to do with your past or relationships - this is hormonal or diet related. I would take 5-HTP to chill - fantastic stuff, no side-effects, completely natural.

Answer 8

omg lol but i had to answer a question similar to this y black women always angry

Answer 9

Your bored. You need to take control of your life and keep occupied.

Answer 10

I think it could be PMDD.. or it could be more severe than that. Make sure you go to a doctor soon- it's worth getting checked out.