i am not with my family, they hated me a lot because i am such a failure.. i grow up in a cultured country wherein family is a group where in members must not seperate even grows older. my father hate me because i hate her new wife...
my sister hate me because i dont follow what she want from me... i dont even have a job knowing that i finish my college with Bachelor of science in Nursing..
pls.. am i bad...
2007-07-31 04:27:17 · 6 answers · asked by eil ashti 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No, you're not bad. You're not a failure. You're a woman who is getting her degree and is learning that sometimes being true to yourself might mean disappointing others.
That's not to say that you can't make room for improvements. You can improve your relationship with your father, for example, if you can find a way to make peace with your stepmother, or just be able to accept her. I doubt your father hates you -- he's just angry that you're trying to compete with the new wife.
Sit down with your sister. Hug her. Tell her that you love her, but her path is not the right one for you. Tell her what you admire about her, and ask her to respect your path.
Hang in there and finish that degree!
2007-07-31 04:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by KatJones37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the US, if you are a failure, your family helps you once or twice before they hate you.
Just because this family structure is your culture, doesn't mean it has to be that way. In other cultures, the children leave the parents as soon as they are able.
The step-mother issue with your dad is very common in the US. Many children choose to live with the other parent, or with grandparents or friends because they hate Dad's wife.
It's nice that your sister has goals for you, but for her to expect you to follow them without deciding in your own mind is wrong.
I don't know your country. But if you are unhappy with your family, I would complete my bachelor's degree and leave the country and start a whole new life with people who don't hate you, who are willing to accept you the way you are. The demand for nurses here is tremendous. A while back, if you accepted a job with a certain hospital, they would give you a car as a thank you.
Nothing you have done is considered "bad" in the US. If you were killing someone or breaking their cars or robbing a bank, you are bad. Even if you are abusing alcohol or drugs, you may be considered bad. Not agreeing with your family is not bad. Leaving your family when you are ready is not bad.
Texas Mom
Debbie
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2007-07-31 11:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a very cultural thing and hard for me personally to naswer. If you and I were from the of the same cultural background, then I would say "no".
Honestly, this life is the only life we have. To spend so much time allowing others to beat you up about your choices and your feelings that you cannot stop even if you tried as well as beating yourself up by listening to their opinions of you is wrong in any culture.
My advice would be to go see a religious figure from your cultural background to seek guidance. If that is not an option, talk to someone who is within that culturla background to get some insight and help you heal yourself.
Go get a job even if it is volunteering in your chosen field, or something because you need to begin to help yourself.
Be strong and good luck
2007-07-31 11:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by nomming 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! You are responsible for yourself, so stop trying to blame others for how your life is going. Get off your butt and find a job! Ok, so you are not with your family and you don't have a great relationship with them. That happens to a lot of people. But sitting around whining about it is not going to get you anywhere.
You, and no one else, is responsible for what you do with your life.
2007-07-31 11:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sally G 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
no ur not bad
2007-07-31 11:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u jobless
2007-07-31 11:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋