I'm going to a funeral wake tonight. The guy is burying his wife of 58 yrs. What do I say to him? Do you know of any verses in the Bible that would be comforting?
2007-07-31 03:32:28 · 13 answers · asked by Jennspur 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
"I am so sorry for your loss. She was a great lady (even if she wasn't, he could use the kind lie right now). Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you."
That's it. Do not tell him to take comfort in the fact she is with God now. This seems to be a Christian favorite, and let me tell you, at that point in time, the people who lost someone don't care. They want their spouse/friend/parent/child with them, here on earth.
2007-07-31 03:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by mikalina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Is there anything I can do for you?"
and
"Your love for each other is such an inspiriation to all of us. I hope that someday, I will have a marriage of 58 years like you had."
Then write on your calendar for November 1 to send him a lovely card telling him you are remembering him and his loss (with prayers, if applicable) and say again what an inspiration his marriage is to all. You can say it would be wonderful if all marriages were as long and healthy as his and that you miss his wife also, so you know he must feel her loss even these months after everyone else has moved on.
That's the hardest part -- still missing your spouse after everybody else has made peace with his/her passing.
2007-07-31 04:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't reference verses from the bible. A wake is a celebration of one's life. It is a time for people to come together, and remember the good things about this person, and laugh. Sure, they'll be tears, but try to remain upbeat, yet sympathetic. Tell him about a funny thing that his wife had done, that will allow him to smile for a moment. After all, this gentleman lost the love of his life, and he deserves to feel a moment of happiness, and not deep grief - and if you can make him feel happiness for just that one moment, he'll never forget that - and cherish the words that you have said about his wife.
2007-07-31 03:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by momof3anglz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a whole lot you need to say.
People hurt, they know all the stuff about "she's in a better place' etc. They really just need to know you are there, you care, your are supportive.
I think the best things to say are how much you cared for the deceased or even tell them something special you remember about her.
The important thing to do is remember to call him in a week or two. When all the fuss is over, then the real pain of the day to day loss will set in.
2007-07-31 03:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with leaving the bible verses to a member of the clergy. Instead, try to recall a story about a kindess the woman did for you or a incident that made you both smile. Mention something like that to the husband to let him know that she will be missed by more people than just himself.
2007-07-31 03:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by 5gr8k9s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For my grandpa's funeral I wore all white to simbolize peacefulness and purity. White denims and white t-shirt. Me n my sister have been the only ones. U could additionally positioned on black like a dress or standard blue pants an a black shirt. in basic terms positioned on what's delicate. Alot of persons wore standard outfits. If u choose u prefer to dress exact then positioned on a protracted black skirt with apartments and a black shirt. At my grandpa's funeral, a mexican band got here and performed a song for him. this is the way it went down.
2016-12-11 05:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you know this man is religious, I would avoid bible verses. I would express sorrow for his loss. If she was ill for a long time, you could say that she is at peace (but NOT in a better place) or that she's no longer suffering. Let him know that if he needs a shoulder to cry on or helping hand, you are there for him.
2007-07-31 05:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by VeggieTart -- Let's Go Caps! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Psalm 116:15 "Blessed in the sight if the Lord is the death of His saints"
II Cor 5:8 "to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord"
2007-07-31 03:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The scripture in 1 Thess.4:13 is sometimes comforting for those who have lost a loved one. Regardless of what anyone else says, we should always comfort those who have lost someone by giving them hope of seeing that loved one again in heaven someday.
2007-07-31 03:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i usually leave the bible verses for the minister. if you knew her well, i would tell him i was sorry that she has passed on and that i was going to miss her. and then tell him how nice she was, or something else good about her. if you don't know them very well , i would simply tell him i was sorry for his loss, but that he would see her again someday.
2007-07-31 03:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋