how to treat with kids always watch tv and disobey me/have no interest in study and donot do household work?

Answer 1

I assume you are the parent here? Turn off the TV, tell them to get off their lazy butts and help around the house. You say they do not obey you....show them some consequences when they don't. They are treating you like a doormat and you are letting them get away with it. Make a weekly list of what you want them to do around the house and decide (with your spouse backing you up on this !!) what privilgies you will take away if the tasks are not done. You've really gotta get a grip on them, or your life will get more miserable with them.

Answer 2

Kids appreciate structure in the home. Have a plan of action for the structure in the home. You may have to make up some rules and consequences and make sure the kids follow that. Place a list where everyone can see them. Have each kid with a responsibility for helping out in the home. The reward can be a trip to the library or a fun day at the park if no rules are broken. Management by you will give you the power to run an effective household where your kids will be appreciative.

Answer 3

How old are the kids...maybe you gotta sit them down and make all of you a weekly/ household -chores schedule and you all take your parts....like doing dishes will be done by.... and cleaning bathroom....etc. etc. maybe at the end of month you can pay LITTLE rewardance fee.Also concerning TV you gotta set strict rules,like only 2 hours a day and let them choose which SUITABLE programs within your chosen time-zone they would like to see and ONLY after they show you their done homework.....I know its tough Im a single mum with a pre-puberty 9 year old who also doesnt wanna.....but NOW she does.As for any kinda studying maybe you could do some together in weekends and afterwards you could do something nice like go to a park,go biking or get some icecream,be creative ALWAYS

Answer 4

Hi Kumud,

Are you a working mother? How much time can you spare for the kids and how old are they? I saw another question from you about the drinking habit of husband? Your solution depends upon all these factors. But let us make a good beginning and watch the improvement.
- Be patient and do not through all your anger and frustration on the kids.
- Make it a point to spend quality time with them and even encourage them to watch TV with you. Channels like Animal Kingdom, Science topics and even some funny commics (even if you are not interested) Share their joy. But make it a condition precedent that all of you will watch TV together and they will thereafter concentrate on studies.
- Avoid your sitting and watching TV during prime time and make them to sit and study.
- Answer their questions with a smiling face and reassure your support always.
- Encourage your husband also this way and make him to sit with the children while they are studying.
- Take them out for a holiday and use the time to talk to them about time management, values of life, how to select good friends etc.
- Overall please make the home a place to live and not to show once authority over others.
Success is yours and you can see how the kids co-operative with you.
Making children participative is not a child's play. We need to work on this.
Cheers

Answer 5

Better discipline your kids while early so they would know what their responsibilities are at an early age. Once they get stucked to tv you can't stopped them right away from watching. If you can put your tv in a room or closet where there is locked so that they can't open it until they haven't finished their specific duties. Explain or tell them nicely that they can watch certain time if they do their duties.

Answer 6

They are taking advantage of you. Just turn the TV off and make them EARN their time that the TV is on. Of course, you probably have been letting them get away without doing anything for so long perhaps they will never change. I would be very strict and stern with them and when they need it, and when they disobey lecture them, separate them, and make them as miserable as you can. Make them help you cook, clean, and earn their way no matter HOW old they are.

Answer 7

Work it with a chart of whats expected, or if they have TVs in their rooms take them away. Kids will push and run over you if you allow(I know). Let them know that you want them to have enjoyment, but not all things in life is easy, they need to get the chores, school work etc. done first. And most of all show you respect. If now they can suffer the consequences of no TV, games,etc.

Answer 8

Are these not your kids? Disconnect the tv completely and move it out of the house if necessary. Talk to the kids about what is expected of them and what will be given to them in return. If they aren't going to assist with the house then stop doing anything for them. Make them wear the same clothes, take away any privledges they have. If they slam the doors remove the doors. If they can't make the bed take of the blankets. You should have instilled these values in these kids long ago. If they are step children you must work with your spouse as a united front to make changes in their lives. Start with a plan and stick to it.

Answer 9

First, take away all things that mean the most to them, TV., video games, allowances, any priviliges, etc until further notice. No work, no help around the house-no clean clothes, real meals etc. Put them in their rooms with nothing to keep them occupied.

Answer 10

Take the TV out until they can learn that they have to pull their own weight. Sometimes tough love is the best kind. Start taking things they enjoy away until they learn their lesson hopefully that will eventually work.