First Love Returns - but She's Married?

Question

She's coming back for a baptism this week. She was the first girl I ever kissed and I even burned her initials in my arm. I became a widower 2 years ago and am very lonely and also miss the physical side. She is 12 years younger than her husband. She was working in a factory and I get the sense she saw him as a way out. We've talked on the phone and though we have not said it directly we both have hinted that we would be "together". It was actually an unrequited love on my end and not having her was always a regret. We were both 14 when she moved away. That was 20 years ago. I've lost my whole family over the last 5 years. I know its wrong and its ridiculous to look to "Yahoo Answers" for justification, but I'm just curious what people think. We live 2000 miles from each other. I really just think I deserve just one night of happiness. Her husband "should" never find out. He's the only thing stopping me as I would not want him hurt.

Answer 1

Ouchie, been here before.... Ether way buddy there is no simple answers were I'm concern. What were dealing with here, is a man who has lost his purpose, and a women who thought she found it. A husban that apparently doesn't fit the bill. And a lost family that someone ether neglected, abused, or was neglected or abused by. So a big twisted mess. My advice is about thriving in situation like this but it would seem your more or less looking to just survive your bout of misfortune. Becuase had it been different you would of been looking for more then just a night. And also you would realized something like this can't just last one night.... good luck....

Answer 2

Sorry to know what you have gone thru. You are in a vulnerable position and thought that the one night with your first love would give you happiness. Unfortunately, it doesnt. Why dont you try to spent some of your time getting involved in charity work? It can be fulfilling and it gives you a sense of purpose in life... that you are able to make a difference in somebody's life.

Would you rather be ignorant and go for a one fling and end up getting hurt yourself or to others. I would rather say, making that sacrifice instead of regretting it later when 3 people get hurt in the end. You know it is wrong, in the first place.

The right woman will eventually come along. Be patient and have faith. YES you deserve happiness .... but by not doing the wrong thing.