i often have to consult the IT guys at my work about projects. the one who is on my floor was obnoxious and condescending initially, then i told him off and he said he was trying to be "oddly" funny and he's just like that. since i started, ive always caught him checking me out and he was nice after that. then we were kind of jokey, friendly with one another. it was sort of flirty and he would blush, trip. yesterday, i went over just to say hi, because i was on break, which i never do, and he was totally obnoxious/weird. he was like what do you need. i said i came to say hi. he says hi obnoxiously. i say, you're giving me a mean look. he gets flustered and starts talking about the color printer. i get curt and leave. i didnt say hi the rest of the day but he kept looking at me when we passed each other. cant make out how to act with him? should i just avoid him? he is 43 (i am 25) and english and always stares at my boobs/butt in addition, which makes it evenmore weird.
2007-07-31 03:16:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
The only reason he keeps staring at you is because you respond to him when he does. I'm sure the guy is hoping you will ask him out to dinner or go on a date with him, BUT HE IS 18 YEARS OLDER THAN YOU. That's ridiculous! He is too old for you. You were 17 when he was 35. He will be 60 when you turn 42. I don't think you want to spend the rest of your life with a man that much older than you. Yes. I think you should avoid his advances, and he should look for someone closer to his age. He will stop staring at you as soon as you stop responding to his advances. I can assure you of that. He is not the CEO of a large corporation. He does not own a mansion and a yacht. He is simply a co-worker who keeps staring at you. Think about it. You say that you're a slim, attractive 25-year-old. I'm 35 and single. I would probably stare at you too. You seem to be certain that this guy has not stared at other women, but I think that's highly unlikely.
2007-07-31 14:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck are you doing? If you offended by this guy, why the hell are you trying to start a "friendship" with him? From what i read, seems like you feel like you are the guilty party. Don't do that, screw him! Just do business to business thing, you don't need his approval or his friendship. If he gives you hard time and acts like an *** when you need something to get your job done, than report him immediately and say that he is making the working environment very uncomfortable for you. Don't take any chances. The more you wait and be nice about it, the more obnoxious and idiotic he will act towards you.
2007-07-31 03:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The instructor shouldn't have even let her begin the lab in that attire. Kicking her out and giving her a zero after the fact is retarded. I don't think it's rude to stare, given the circumstances. How often does a boob pop out of a shirt in a chem lab? You should have said something and helped her quickly pull her top over her breast! It obviously must have all happened very quickly so forget about it.
2016-05-18 22:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by alejandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you've got double-standrads issues (i.e: it was OK for YOU to tell HIM off when he tried to initiate contact, but the minute YOUR contact is not received so kindly you take it personally.) Maybe he was not in the right mood at the time, or maybe he just doesn't like you that way (he might like your body, but that's it).
If you feel he is as rude and obnoxious as you claim, then why are you wasting your time in initiating contact with him to begin with (which is something you 'never' do)?
The time that you "told him off" should have been the end of it, and it sounds like it probably was. Maybe he got the hint. But the minute you initiated contact, this was all on you now. Maybe he feels that YOU are obnoxious/weird and doesn't know how to make that clear with you without "telling you off"
2007-07-31 03:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by vanessalaclaire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so he stares at your boobs, and is weird but you're still giving him the 'time of day'?? Why even bother? He's a bit old for you too. I think if I were you I'd just avoid him and search out someone with a few better qualities.
2007-07-31 03:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should act polite & professional & get back to doing your job. Understand that, even though you're on break, he may have things to do - just like you may be busy & not have time to chat when he's on break.
The staring problem should be discussed with your manager or HR department. It's not appropriate for a workplace.
2007-07-31 03:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by ill_be_phd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've asked this same question in ten different ways in the last week. We get it, you're young and cute and the old guy is checking you out. If it bothers you, look him in the eye and tell him that the next time you find his eyeballs in your cleavage you're going to HR. If it doesn't bother you, ask him out to lunch. It's not all that complicated.
2007-07-31 04:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what type of relationship you're looking for with this guy, and you're probably mystifying him as well. Guys are like that. And as for him checking out specific body parts, if you don't care for it, you should stay away from him.
2007-07-31 03:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female, I look at other women's boobs too and their bodies too. Ask yourself if you have been revealing your tempting parts. If so may be you have to wear the Muslim dress and cover yourself real well so that there is nothing much to be desired.
2007-07-31 03:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Dolia 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋