We normally spend time each other 3 times/wk, now it's twice/wk and granted before this spree happened, we spent time almost everyday for 2 weeks. Should I leave him be? He does tell me in advanced that he has plans with his friends, either a week advanced or whenever he's invited. We've been together for a year. Do you think he freaks out about his personal space? We never had arguments/fights until recently, just little arguments-mayb it's that time of the year?
When I asked him why he go out so much, he said he would like to enjoy the summer, because it almost ends. I am now packing up my schedule to go out w/ friends as well. But I want to spend more time w/ him. Should I wait to ask him, and see?
Male opinion is strongly appreciated!
2007-07-31 03:12:05 · 9 answers · asked by cnfused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing seem to change when we're talking on the phone or when we're together. I guess, I wonder, he never plan our time together ahead of time anymore. He'll just call me when he's not out w/ his friends and ask wht time dinner/ or what we're doing, etc.
Is this something I should worry about?
2007-07-31 03:17:06 · update #1
Play the same game. When he calls and asks you what time for dinner, tell him, Sorry Honey... I am going out with my buddies, maybe tomorrow. -Don't be available at his convenience. Show him that he can't have you when he wants to. -Be strong!
Let me tell you what I did to my guy.
He use to spend time with me everyday until his old buddies started coming around to invite him out, and like a lady, I said sure even though it bothered me. I didn't show it.
It got to where he asked me if he could have 2 or 3 nights out of the week to hang with his buddies and again, I smiled and said okay. What ever you want to do. He scratched his head wondering why I wasn't angry. When he went out, I went out. It was fun too.
Several weeks went by, it was hard but it became natural to me and it didn't bother me anymore. It got to where I started liking my freedom. That's when I asked him for 4 or 5 days to hang out with my buddies and they just happen to fall on the days that he would spend with me. -Whoops.
His eyes got big, and he didn't appear to be expecting that one. "He met his match." He couldn't believe he had a woman who enjoyed hanging out with her buddies too; way more than he did.
When he seen that I hardly had time for him and how I put him on the back burner made him think twice. He stopped going out with his buddies and started asking me to spend more time with him. I said, "But I thought we were having so much fun...?"
To make a long story short, that's how I ended that crap.
When you want to be with them they tend to push you away, but when you give them a taste of their own medicine, they don't like it.
I may get some thumbs down for this, but it would be from the men that don't like my way of dealing with men who like playing games. They would say that it was the women who like playing games but I beg to differ because it is usually the man who started the games from the beginning and they don't like getting beat at their own games.
2007-08-07 17:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is he on vacation or something? I, for one, would never do this to my woman. Sounds to me like he is more interested in his friends than in you. If you're ok with that, then fine, but most women would not put up with this. If he is freaking out about his personal space or something, then he is not ready to be in a committed relationship. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Make your decision based on his reaction. If you have to let him go, though, then do it. You deserve better. Good luck!
2007-07-31 10:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello cnfused,
please dun keep on bending for his whims. is he serious abt you? sit n talk... a man's talk. juz the truth n practical stuff. dun let your emotions to hamper your mind....
do tell him that YOU NEED ATTENTION too.... if his friends take the major portion of his time...then you need the best part of his time IF you are thinkin abt gettin committed to him.
maybe you can sugar coat the whole action. try gettin romantic n slip some notes on his mirror. convey it sweetly tat he is forgettin you. if he is still blind to all this...take the first course!!!
all the best sweetie!!
2007-08-08 10:03:47 · answer #3 · answered by smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he does tell you what he doing and who he's doing it with, on the other hand, something may be missing in your relationship to cause him to look elsewhere for entertainment? Take a good look at your life with him, weigh it out, may be time to move on. Best of luck.
2007-08-08 07:11:59 · answer #4 · answered by janet r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea I dont blame u for getting mad at him, basically all u gotta do is start going out with your friends, like he is doing, and you will grab his attention.
2007-07-31 10:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by Sweeetboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Evonne! That's what I'd do to my man if he started that stuff.
2007-08-08 00:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Irene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he loves spending time with you. if he loves you, he would love to be with you instead of his friends.
2007-08-08 03:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD SPY,FOLLOW HIM ON HIS GUYS NIGHT OUT.HE MORE THAN LIKELY DOING SOME THING THAT HE SHOULD NOT BE DOING.BECAUSE THAT'S HOW US MEN ARE WELL ALMOST ALL.
2007-08-08 00:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u like : QUEEN CONTROL
2007-08-08 05:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by cctt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋