ok, im goin tell you the truth im actually a 13 yr old girl .all my past questions are true .but i need help my mom is dating this man and he likes to play hit and everything. and he played slapped me not hard at all and i told him im was goin to tell my mom. as in a joke and he said who do you think she'll believe me or you and i told him she was going to beleive me .i asked her and she said HIM .it hurt me so i started to get watery eyes and she told me go and cry. am i makin a big deal or does she not like me? i know she loves me but doesnt like me.
2007-07-31 03:09:38 · 8 answers · asked by kissyprissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
((Hugs))
If this man is hitting you -play or not- you have to make it clear to your mother that he is. If she doesn't believe you, it's up to you to a) prove it, and b) protect yourself. Play hitting has a bad tendency of turning into not playing anymore.
Talk to your grandparents, dad, aunt, or uncle about it. Tell them your concerns that your mom is putting her new boyfriend above you, and believing his lies over the truth you're telling her. This could escalate into him convincing her that you're a lying little brat, who just wants her mother all to herself.. and you don't want that.
Absolute worst-case: are there other relatives you can live with? Your dad, maybe grandparents? Tell your mom that it hurts you that she doesn't believe you and that her relationship with her new boyfriend is apparently more important than her relationship with you. Then tell her that you've asked _____ if you can live with them, and they've said yes or "if you want to," and you'd rather live with someone who wants you around.
Or, you can be all sad, and crying, and tell her that you feel like she doesn't want you around, and that this new guy is more important to her, and maybe it would be better if you stayed with aunt Rose or uncle Bob for a while. (big sob here). That you don't want to be away from her, but that she doesn't seem to want you around anymore.
I don't mean to tell you to be dramatic, and say things that aren't true.. it's just sometimes you have to present your case differently to get the message across.
Good luck.
2007-07-31 03:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by customfordgirl79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there are not alot of 13-21 year old girls that really like their mothers, so that is normal. Those are hard years. I have to say though that your mom taking her boyfriends word over yours is a bit alarming.
I would advise you to stop all this "playing" with your moms b/f. Just tell him that you would rather not anymore since the playing becomes a bit rougher than you'd like it to be.
I am also going to tell you that if he ever does become physically abusive towards you and your mother doesn't beleive you PLEASE call the police.
I am a mother of three girls and I just can't fathom taking another mans word over my daughters especially when they are/ or would be telling me that they are being hurt. Feelings shouldn't be so easily dismissed. I also am going to say that if you are doing this for attention to stop, there are other ways to get your mothers time and attention.
If you want time with mom, ask her to sit down and have a talk with her, ask her if she'd mind spending a day with you, just the both of you and going and doing something special. If she turns you down, just realize that the problem is with your mother and not with you. I pray that she will hear your cry and listen to your heart and make some changes. GOD bless sweetie.
2007-07-31 03:26:31 · answer #2 · answered by dixi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom seriously and secretly about that man your mom is dating. If your mom trusts you she'll believe in you not because you're just making stories. If she can make her own observations secretly she would know it just to find it out if your telling the truth or not just in case. Just tell your mom that your doing this for the good for both of you because you care for her that much. Tell her while it's early so that sooner or later it won't reach to the point that you'll have misunderstanding because of that guy.
2007-07-31 03:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by ☺ĦЄŖ§ĦЄ¥☺ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is very sad. I think that your mother does love you, but sometimes women will side with the men in thier lives instead of thier own child. She may not realize how much this upsets you. Try talking with her. If that doesn't work then talk to an adult that you can trust. Maybe find another adult family memeber to stay with for awhile.
2007-07-31 03:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by chyna1258 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom once more that he is play hitting you and you don't appreciate it. If she doesn't listen, find an adult you trust to tell - perhaps a school counselor, a religious counselor, a neighbor or a friend's mother. Keep telling until someone believes.
2007-07-31 03:18:04 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and if that doesn't work, then find some other relative to live with
2007-07-31 03:13:58 · answer #6 · answered by Philly_Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man has no business rough housing with you. Tell both of them you want it to stop. That means you have to stop encouraging it.
2007-07-31 03:31:39 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh i hate that part, whenever moms start dating all she can think is him & him its like she don't care about her own child its a shame
Thanks God my parents have been married for 25 yrs & i never had to go throw this kind of crab
2007-07-31 03:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋