Only 9% of Mormon marrages that are sealed in the temple ever end in divorce. while almost 60% of all marrages that are non Mormon will end in divorce.
And the number is going up!
2007-07-31 02:48:13 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Amazing how many people think they know what LDS marriages are like - if you really want to know, ask people who are in one, or who have been in one.
some huge misconceptions to correct:
My husband has never told me what to wear, eat, or controlled those stupid details of my life. We make all major decision (such as financial) together, and let the details belong to each of us.
- I've never been abused - the truth is the only one that's been slapped is him by me (man I felt terrible for that one).
- Church leaders have said divorce is a good thing for situations of abuse, they just strongly discourage divorce for selfish reasons like just saying "I fell out of love."
- The only "bedroom counsel" I've ever gotten was to make sure we were both comfortable and to have an open dialogue about what we were comfortable with.
- My sister was divorced from a temple marriage, she got full custody of her children (women usually do in the U.S regardless of religion), and she was married in the temple again to a wonderful man who's been a great father to her children.
- As I've said before I am proud to be my husband's "most precious possession" because he is my most precious possession. We belong to each other - that's what's in every wedding vow I've ever heard; remember folks "to HAVE and to hold..." If people are so afraid to belong to someone, to trade some independence for interdependence, then they'll never know the full joy of true love.
2007-07-31 03:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by daisyk 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Bill Maher recently said, "Each of the presidential candidates have been married numerous times or have been involved in dealing with marital cheating so that kind of makes them all look like polygamists of one sort or another.
Ironically the only one who is monogamous is Mitt Romney the Mormon!"
I live in Salt Lake City Utah. I am not a Mormon but I still cringe when misinformation like saying that Mormons have more than one wife is spread in the media.
When will they ever get over that one? Biblical patriarchs regularly had multiple wives and we don't hold that against them. People in parts of Asia and the Middle East still have multiple wives and no one is laughing at them. Why are they not funny but Mormons are? I don't get the joke
2007-07-31 03:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
No! The ones who are practicing polygamy now.. are not following the teachings. Polygamy was stopped a few hundren years ago. Mormons (LDS) are not associated with the people who practice polygamy.
2016-05-18 22:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by blanch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must be tired... all of these smart negative comments are getting to me.
Penguin, my husband is an angel and he loves me better than any man on earth ever could... true, I abuse him, shame on me (not that I feel very ashamed... just sorry sometimes, for hurting him). But he is always kind and devoted and unselfish. The majority of Mormon men that I know are like him (including his father).
honey... what makes you think divorce is a woman's prerogative? What about the poor abused Mormon husbands, who are so gentle and loving and put up with all that crap from their hormone-crazed wives (such as myself)? Your assumption is female chauvinism.
Mormon women are some of the most empowered women on earth (myself included). I read some statistics the other day that said that of every Christian religion in the US, Mormon women are the most educated and had the highest % employed in professional capacities. Atheist women were more so, but I think it goes to show that Mormon women are not the oppressed people that some people would like to believe.
I choose to stay with my husband because I am committed to my personal integrity. I could have divorced him in my 2nd year of marriage, when he was driving me bananas with his "stupidity" (ie not understanding my needs) and then I would have lost the man who became my best friend in the whole world, and broken my children's hearts as well.
Added: LOL, divinity... er, no reason at all why not. We're not guided by leaders about any of our bedroom activities. Whoever told you that was having a lend of you.
2007-07-31 03:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Wow it's amazing that so many people know more about the LDS marriages then we do who are members. I think instead of getting our information from people who are trying to destroy others we should get our information from those who really know. Those members who abuse their wives and act like they are superior are not following the doctrine. They often leave the church because the church does not allow them to continue treating their wives and children so poorly. As for the person who said women are not allowed to remarry after divorce they are mistaken. I have known women who have divorced then were remarried to another person and often are later sealed to them.
2007-07-31 05:42:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I have always wondered this. People say men need variety and that they need to have different women or whatever yet they think polygamy is wrong. People must like the idea of throwaway sex better.
Not so much as funny, maybe ironic or interesting.
Great questions JD.
2007-07-31 16:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by fishcan'tseewater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how so many people question your statistics on marriage and divorce, but most often lack the credibility whenever they have anything negative to say about the LDS church.
Keep up the good work.
gw
2007-07-31 05:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the stats, but it is true that Mormons who are married in the Temple have better odds of staying married.
I was married in the Temple nearly 10 years ago and we have yet to have our first fight. It's easy to get along when you have the same view point in life and are committed to one another rather than to yourself.
And - NO - I'll disagree with the other answer that my marriage is "abusive".
Colorado City Mormons are NOT LDS Mormons. They are their own polygamist sect. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints does not believe in polygamy. Colorado City folks do not have a Temple to go to and are in do way affiliated with the LDS Church.
2007-07-31 02:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Regina T 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Who makes fun of Mormons? Are you one?
I know many who haven't divorced, been married for30, 40 years. So what is the point of your question? Does it really matter?
What percent have repented and are born again, I think that is more important?
I don't see anything funny.
2007-07-31 02:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just keep doing your thing, JD. Don't listen to these folks.
Edit: And for the record, I've been married to my husband for the past seven years. He has never abused me, and he has made me feel cherished every day we have been together. The notion that "Mormon" women are merely submissive, merely makes me laugh. We are no more submissive to our husbands than a cat is submissive to its owner.
2007-07-31 02:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by socmum16 ♪ 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋