2007-07-31 02:35:26 · 33 answers · asked by Eric Chua Yanshan Maynas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
of course you can. I have done that with a girl who I dated for 4 years. it's hard no doubt but a time comes when you look back and laugh.
2007-07-31 02:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I had two relationships that lasted two and a half years each. As much as I loved even my high school sweetheart, it didn't last over 2 years, either.
Acceptance is the key. No matter the reason for the breakup, you must learn (sometimes the hard way) that we cannot "make" someone love us back. And we also just may decide that no matter how much we love THEM, it is just not worth being treated disrespectfully.
You are at the beginning of a learning experience about love. Yes, I believe you truly love her. There's no doubt she will remain a wonderful memory. (We tend to forget the bad, you see.)
HOWEVER, after all this....
You never said why you were needing to give her up.
Whatever the reason, if you feel like you'll never love or be loved again, I can assure you it will happen.
Good luck. God bless.
2007-07-31 02:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by C Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the two people have been very close, and especially if they had been intimate or continually intimate or had even been close to each others families, then you would still always keep them in your memory and maybe for a long time keep them on your mind even if other people have come into your life. But remember that relationships are not marriage. Marriages promise more. Don't confuse the two.
Relationships are a time to make determination if marriage will happen. Sometimes they work, sometimes they work well, and sometimes they don't work. But always remember that living together is not to be experienced unless or until marriage because dating is what gives you the building blocks to determine if something permanent will happen. In living together people "think" it's like a marriage when it is definitely not. We always remember our first love
2007-07-31 09:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not how many years you have been together. Its the so so so much that puts you in a dilemma. If I love someone that much, even 6 months is hell for me. Of course I wont ever give her up so easily but if it ever happens, it would not be easy to ever give up on the memories part. Until such time, if we do not keep our doors open, we will never allow someone new to come in and let the old one get out. We tend to cling to something we treasure even if we know its not possible to make it a reality again. Thats what it called selective memory.
Dont learn through mistakes. Learn from mine because it is a very expensive lesson. If you come to that stage, Let Go.
2007-07-31 03:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by Vico 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love has physical and emotional existance, when you see a person, you get chemical reactions in your physical body, you dont get this for other faces, this is actually a face printed on your subconscious.
I dont think you will ever feel the same reactions again, you may feel intense reactions for others but the reasons and emotions will be different, because each one of us are unique human beings, no other person can be equal to each of us. We are different and unique.
That way you cannot give up, but love is not a possession, keep or give up, it is a 2 way relationship, sometimes MIND must become master of our feelings and emotions and MIND makes decisions on its intelligence.
Hope you get some idea about answer to your question
2007-07-31 19:59:25 · answer #5 · answered by Syed M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because she has to want be with you and be in love with you ! There is no point in being in any relationship if it is only one sided if she wants to leave then you must let her go....Life will go on sure it is going to be painful we all know that..... but soon enough you will pick yourself up and become happy again. Things never work if there is no love and you cant make someone stay becuase if they do then it will only be out of pity and no one should want that no matter how much you love her.Wouldn't you rather know she is staying because she does love you, and because she does want her future to be with you!....Your still young and there will be other loves yet to come and whilst you think she is the one now .....can't you see as sad as it maybe for you that she for whatever reason wants to move on..... hope fully maybe once the storm has come and things settle after a while it maybe possible for you two to remain friends , but for now you need to let go and start to heal yourself!...Remember you can not make someone love you nor can you make them stay...... SHE should want to love you and want to stay of her own will no matter how much you beg or try to change if she wants to leave she will....... sorry Eric if thast seems harsh but just telling you how I see it!....
2007-07-31 13:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know from personal experience how hard it is to let people go, but I also know that trying to hang on only makes things worse.
If she wants to go, let her go. The pain will be unbelievable, but it will get better in time. And I will tell you a secret: just because you let someone go doesn't mean you can't keep a place for them in your heart. People move in there, and make a place for themselves, and they tend to stay on, even long after the person is physically gone from your life. You may love her for the rest of your life, and that's perfectly acceptable. You will find that the human heart has a huge capacity, and that your love for her will not interfere with your love for others who come along if you don't let it. We can truly love more than one person.
Be well, and be at peace.
2007-07-31 10:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends with how strong and tightly this "love" binds you.
For example, if you FEEL you love her.. but it just turns out to be platonic, or maybe you're confusing lust with love... then... yes.. you can leave her to find something else that you're looking for in a second!
But if you truly truly love her.. and that even explains why you've been together for 2 years straight... then... no... you have found what you are looking for and your heart cannot tell you otherwise.
All these people saying "yup! of course! i did that once!" and what not.. are just people who didn't really know love with the person. Even if they felt the "love" .. there was just something there that stopped it from being completely genuine.
It all depends on the type of "love" you're ferring to.. :D
2007-07-31 10:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by Yo Dawg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes u can. I believe that every relationship has a limited engergy to be used. It is upto you how long u can use this. once the energy is used then the relationship is more of a bother than a pleasure.
Relationship lasts only if it brings up a growth for both otherwise it is just a burden, so it is time to leave when it is burden time.
2007-08-02 14:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by Neo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married before twice and had to give up on those 2 marriages because of my spouse leaving me first...
Sometimes love does not keep you together and you must give up no matter if you like it or not...
This is just a fact of life...
You will learn to love again and be happy again when you learn to heal...
2007-08-03 02:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's not up to you to decide. Even though you love her so so so much, but if she doesn't love you anymore, then it doesn't matter whether it's 2 or 20 years. It won't work. Unless you're married with kids. Then your priorities will be different.
Love her, let her go. It will hurt, bad. But it won't hurt forever.
2007-07-31 04:33:39 · answer #11 · answered by ©act⊍⊍a® 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋