2007-07-31 02:33:45 · 18 answers · asked by Eric Chua Yanshan Maynas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I give my girlfriend a sense of security both through my words and through my actions. She has already heard that I love her, but I also reinforce that claim with the things that I do with her and for her. It does not take much to convey your love for someone, even the slightest thing is enough to let him or her know you love and appreciate him or her. For example with my girlfriend, when she is having a bad day or feeling a little down, a simple text message that tells her I love her or that the rainiest day can never dull her shine is all she needs to hear to lift her spirits.
I always put her before myself and she knows that and that keeps her secure. Whether it is something as small as lending her my jacket when it gets cold outside, to staying by her bed everyday for that week long ago when she had the flu, to even just holding her hand when we walked down that dark street one night in a not-so-great neighborhood. These seemingly insignificant things, no matter how trivial or how small – coupled with my reminders that she is what makes me better as a person; and my blessing that she loves me and I love her is what gives her a sense of security. Cheers!
2007-08-03 03:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Answer-Me-This 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sense Of Security
2016-10-06 22:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't. A sense of security comes from within. She must first feel secure about herself and about her relationship. Maybe something in her past keeps her from feeling secure. Is she missing self-confidence? does she have a problem with trust? has she matured, or is mature enough for a relationship or more? she should seek out a professional (you can't say that to her though or for sure that would cause a split) and see what it is in her background that keeps her from feeling secure.
Some people because of the way they were brought up feel secure in materialistic things, some feel secure with wealth, some feel secure only if things are going smoothly, some feel secure if they have only themselves to depend on, some feel secure if they become clinging vines, some feel secure after a long time of loyalty (in that family, theirs, yours, or the family having their own children) makes them feel tied down and secure, still others feel secure when they have lots of family around or communicate with family a lot....who knows what their reason is....but communication is the key.
2007-07-31 09:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sense of security is a myth anyway.. Life does not offer any security. Life is to be lived on spontaneousity.. So, u cannot give your gf a sense of security. that has to be inbuilt in her based on trust.
2007-08-02 14:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by Neo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriends are interesting creatures. All of which you think that you know is reversed on each encounter.
I tried for many years to understand why my gf felt so insecure. (Maybe it was my stunning modelesque looks - lmao)
And to this day I do not know the answer. We're getting married in under 2 months and I'm sure she feels like I'm going to leave or something.
It frustrates the bejesus out of me.
2007-08-01 22:50:53 · answer #5 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be there. Security comes from knowing, no matter what happens, you'll always be there. Security also comes from sharing personal parts of yourself. Stories from your past, something you think about, but don't tell just everyone. Sharing something that is just between the two of you.
I was thinking about this question this morning and had something I wanted to add. Pay attention to what is important to her. If she feels you "scoff" at what's important to her, like it's silly for it to be important to her, that will not only make her feel sad, but also make her feel insecure. If it's something she needs/asks you to do that is important to her, and you blow it off because you don't think its important, that will also make her sad/insecure.
2007-07-31 05:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lady M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If want to feel secure in a relationship, what will be your desire from your girl friend ? You try to give her the same thing you desire, never try to assume she likes this or desires this, How you feel for yourself, you try to give it to others. You know yourself better than anybody else in this world.
Have you heard the saying : do unto others what you want to be done unto you., these are old words of wisdon
2007-07-31 20:12:00 · answer #7 · answered by Syed M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the trouble with b/f and /g/f. G/f always find in secured as boys are generally not devoted ,honest and loyal in sex matter and that create insecurity. Let boy should act in letter and spirit.
2007-07-31 03:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how pretty she is, tell her you love her. If she feels jealous, re-assure her. Don't lie to her and if she asks you a question about somehting, answer it the best you can. If you get into a fight, don't clam up, talk out the issues with her.
2007-07-31 02:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Win her trust. Be there WHENEVER she needs you. Just these 2 fomulas but theres a catch to the 2nd one. Not easy.
2007-07-31 03:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Vico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋