my daughter stole for a store at the mall when i dropped her off with her Friends and i have to pick her up?

Question

At the mall

how should i punsh her

spanking

time out

grounding


what plz help

Answer 1

First step - SPANKING

Next a written and verbal apology to the store owner/worker.

Then a trip to the police station for a talk with some officers about how wrong stealing is, and where she will wind up, if she doesn't stop.

Last 1 week of grounding.

That should about cover it.

Answer 2

Depends on how old she is ... If she is at the mall with her friends I would think she is a little too old for spanking and a time out.. I would say grounded and you should have a talk with her. Maybe also make her pay back the price of the item or just give the item back.

Answer 3

From your list of punishments this child sounds much too young to be at the mall alone. The real question is what punishment should be found for you? With all the kidnappings and kids running off with people they "met" online who would let any child under about seventeen loose in a huge group of strangers.

For the stealing making her apologize is always good for making an impact on her and grounding works IF you follow through with it. If you say she's grounded then send her off alone with those "friends" in a week then you've really only shown her that there is no punishment, why not steal again. Good luck hope this makes a good impression on her before she can make any real trouble.

Answer 4

umm, if your daughter is old enough to be at the mall by herself (without your supervision) I'm quite sure time out or spanking will not help her. Quite possibly, she'll call the cops crying child abuse. You should make her return the item to the store and ask how she can make restitution. Pretend she'd had to go to court and have a judge lay down a "sentence" on her. Personally, I would have the mall call the real police and take her in a ride to the station....scare her a little bit. Then take her to return the item, etc.

Answer 5

Make her walk into the store she stole from, give the item back that she took, and hopefully they won't punish her also. I would take away things she enjoys, no more hanging with these friends because they are a bad influence, and ground her. Make her think about what she did wrong, and why she did it. I would also make her write the owner of the company and tell them what she did and why she shouldn't have done it. Explain to her, that not only did she steal from the store, she stole money that was given to someone to make that product, and to delivery that product so it would be there!

Answer 6

I'm 17 and I know what my mom would still do and what I will do if I have children some day. My mom would wear my bottom out then take me to the store and apologize to the owner or manager and make me with my allowance pay a higher price for the items than they actually cost to began with. Maybe make her pay a higher price for the item with her own money. The price is always higher for stealing than working for something. Let's just say I know from experience

Answer 7

Take her to the store to return what she stole and let her apologize to them for doing this. Talke to her about why this is not okay and "we" don't do this sort of thing. Ask her how she would feel if her "favorite item" was stolen? Use this for a lesson time. Very valuable.

Answer 8

First, make her return whatever it was she took, and make it a very big lesson to her never to do it again..I did that with my son when he was only five..He took some coffee beans from walmart...I made him put them back, then found a manager to play along with me...I asked him what would happen if a child got caught doing this, and he said they would have to call the police, etc...He has never done it again..But your daughter is older...I would say no more new clothes for a while, no more mall, and she cant hang out with whomever she was with when she did it..

Answer 9

I personally would have her: 1) write an apology letter to the manager and the mall. 2) Ground her (particularly from stores and those friends) 3) Get her help...

Answer 10

She obviously has to accept whatever legal punishment may be coming her way.

You should also have her return the item(s) or work to pay for them, if they cannot be returned or re-sold. She should apologize in person to the store manager & offer to work to make up for any time loss or inconvenience she caused. If not at the actual store, then in that person's personal life.

She's also wasted your time, making you come in there & deal with this. She should 'pay you back' your time by doing extra things around the house.

Finally, she has clearly proven that she is not responsible enough to be at the mall without adult supervision. She will have to be supervised at the mall until you can trust that she has learned how to behave on her own and why it is wrong to steal.