Who's 24 and my ex is 25 going on 26 and I'm only 17, they go to bars together and other places that I couldn't go when we were together. I really miss him and even though he says they aren't serious and that if their relationship doesn't work out he would come back to me, I think they're getting close and it's not just about the sex anymore (she puts out). I don't know if I should wait around for him, I really love him and he has cheated on her with me many times (no sex though) so that's why I'm still wondering if he even likes her. I just hate it because I think they have more in common. They got to bars and clubs and do **** that I can't do yet so he probably has more fun with her. My friend told me to just forget about him and completely shut him out because he just wants to have his cake and eat it too but the problem is that everytime I see him, it's not like he tries to stay faithful to her. Even though I kinda have him, I just want him for myself. What should I do?
2007-07-31 01:57:20 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW, he tells me I'm his number 1 and whatever happens, I will always be his number 1 but I wanna be the only 1 not just number 1....
2007-07-31 02:03:32 · update #1
Personally, i'd try to move on, hon.
I know you're upset and in pain, because of what you said here...and you're not abnormal because you miss him....
your ex boyfriend obviously wants to "play the field" and expects you to sit.....and.....wait. He says if the relationship doesn't work out, he will come back to you?
Please! Don't play second fiddle. I know you'd probably rather have him back, but do you really want someone who will come and go and leave your heart hanging time after time?
It's not the new girlfriend he's intersted in (obviously because he is seeing more than just her), but variety. He's not ready to settle for one person right now.
I agree with your friend... try to move past this guy. It takes time to get over a relationship, but with the support of friends and family, and keeping yourself busy doing things YOU enjoy, time will heal.
I am sure there is someone out there who wants just ONE girl, and someone who will be special in your eyes... these things take time...
take care of yourself, ok?
sending hugs!
2007-07-31 02:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, Your friend is right. Just forget about this guy, He is BAD NEWS !!! He isn't being faithful to you or her, so why would you ever expect him to be? I wonder how many other women he is messing around with? Why would you want a man who obviously has no respect for you and who is USING you for his own selfish needs . Even if you put your foot down and demanded that he stop seeing her, He would agree with you and just be a lot more subtle about seeing her and he would start lying more to you .. He is leading you on, and he's not about to leave her or any other woman for that matter. You need to have some self esteem and dump this loser !! He claims to love you with his lips,yet he stabs you in the heart by having a sexual relationship with another woman. I hate to tell you that that isn't love, So why do you want a man that doesn't love you the way you deserve to be?? Would you ever truly have this man for yourself?? Wouldn't you wonder what he was doing while he was away from home?? He has cheated on you many times with her, So what's to stop him from cheating on you if you ever had a exclusive relationship with him?? Or worse yet married to him?? To have a succesful relationship you must have Communication, Courtship ,Courtesy ,Honesty & Trust.. Sweetie, he has the communication and courtship parts down real good. But he has thrown honesty and trust right out the window, and he isn't being courteous to you or your needs, now is he? My advice to you is to dump his sorry butt and find someone who can respect you for the person you are and will love you honestly in a relationship. Don't you think that is something you deserve? I hope that this has helped you and I wish you well in the future !!
2007-07-31 02:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all your only 17 and he's 25. Of course he's going to have more in common with her since she's 24. That dog is playing you because you're young & inexperienced. Wake up! I can't believe you are willing to wait around for someone that already has a girlfriend. What is wrong with you? Are you that blinded by lust that you don't see that you deserve better? Get some self confidence and stop seeing that 25 yr old man before he gets arrested. Take your friends advice because if you did take it you wouldn't be on here with this nonsense.
2007-07-31 02:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I'm a little confused. Why would you want to get back together with someone who admits to lying, someone who started a relationship right after telling you he wasn't ready for a girlfriend, and who insults you. Forget about the ex... move on! You may cry for awhile... love hurts. But having a crappy boyfriend is even worse! Tell yourself that you deserve better and then go look for better!
2016-05-18 22:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should grow some self esteem and find someone a little more on your level. I'm sure he does have more fun with someone that can enjoy the things he enjoys. Why are you just sitting around waiting for him to come back to you? He doesn't sound like a prime catch anyways. If he cheats on her, he probably cheated (and will cheat) on you. He knows that he has control over you and that he can do whatever he wants and you will still be there waiting....
2007-07-31 02:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, i'm glad he found someone his own age, I couldnt imagine being with a 17 year old as a 26 year old. Second, he is playing you, using you for backup in case his new relationship doesn't work, he'll have you to fall back on until he meets someone else. Stay away from him, and chalk it up as a loss. Find someone your own age who will treat you with respect and give you the attention you deserve.
And about him not staying faithful to her with you..thats a load of crap, HE IS WITH SOMEONE ELSE, so not being faithful to ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND doesn't mean he wants you. If he did, this wouldn't be happening. Please stop being so naive.
2007-07-31 02:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by catrina230 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy!! You are in different places in your life. If he's cheating on her with you, why do you think he would or has been faithful to you? I know it hurts and you love him and all that, but you're only 17, there is a whole world out there waiting for you to explore. You will meet someone who doesn't make you feel miserable, jealous and guilty.
2007-07-31 02:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by sheraslips 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the age difference at this point is too big. Ten years from now it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but right now he is too old for you. If you think he is not having sex with anyone else then you are fooling yourself. Move on with someone your own age that you have more in common with. You will get over him, I promise!
2007-07-31 02:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You sound lonely and like you have nothing to do except to think about this guy? (I ask that as a question)
I think it might be helpful for you to try to find another guy, closer to your own age. I am not sure where you live but here in the United States it is illegal for someone your ex's age to date someone your age. We believe here in the US an older man can mess with a younger girl's head --- which is exactly what is sounds like this guy has done.
Please don't get me wrong, I am not upset with you. I am upset with this guy.
I wish you a world of happiness - with someone who will treat you right and who will be a little closer in age.
Take care of yourself !
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2016-02-11 00:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋