Basically if you're friends with a guy, in the sense that you're really close emotionally - tell each other stuff you wouldn't tell anyone else and all that, is it possible to ever go beyond that to a relationship? Or once you've been friends for ages do you just end up being 'stuck' there?
2007-07-31 01:48:18 · 21 answers · asked by Volcano Grrl (aka Emby) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Basically, I've known this guy for about 10 years - yes we do have a history, we dated when we were both 18 for about a year or so. Ending it was a mutual decision because we both felt it had become intense.
Since then we've had discussions where we've both jokingly marvelled at the fact that we're still single. He's told me how precious our friendship is so I wonder if that's a way of basically saying "Deal with it! We're only ever going to be friends!"
2007-07-31 01:56:53 · update #1
We do have quite a complex relationship. There's been many a time when I've been close to revealing the true extent of my feelings, I wonder though if for him it's a case of he doesn't want me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me either - he's joked about setting me up with his friends, then backed down because "they're not really your type"... Plus, when I did meet one of said friends and was chatting away, he then started interrupting with the "hey, do you remember that time when we went... did... etc, etc."
2007-07-31 02:09:38 · update #2
Yes it's possible... For the most part guys cannot be just friends with girls..
Chances are he's hanging out waiting to make a move and never getting the courage to do so.
2007-07-31 01:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The norm in most relationships is one person is really in love with the other, and the other only wants friendship.
Occasionally that changes, but if you sit around putting energy into wanting it to change, you'll pressure the other person and it'll fail.
There's nothing wrong with the fact that some relationships never move beyond friendship. It's normal and you need to develop other friends to find someone who wants you as much as you want him.
2007-07-31 01:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 4 U i hope so but back in HS I had this one freind that i soon had strong feelings for and it never went anywhere no matter how much i shared. In the end right before she graduated all i got was a hug, my *** squeezed, and i love you then she ran off to the parking lot to meet her bf.
The same bf she had since i 1st met her, the same bf i sat there and listened to her compalin about for 3 long years :(
I need a drink!
2007-07-31 02:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by myugenjin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my girlfriend and I were close friends in highschool -- never dated or anything -- then after we graduated, she went to the Marines, and I went off to college. Two years later we reunited, and started hanging out. We crossed the 'friends zone', and we've been together for 4 years. She's the one I'm going to marry.
2007-07-31 01:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not if the other person has the same feelings then the relationship can move on. Just ask and if not and you are as close as you say it will not hurt you friendship.
2007-07-31 01:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's very possible to move beyond the friends zone. especially if you tell each other everything. the people that make the best couples are the people who share themselves completely with the other person. don't just jump into it, you don't want to ruin what you have, but maybe feel out the situation to figure out if he feels the same way.
2007-07-31 01:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is wise to move on from being a friend to a boyfriend if your that close i dont think it would work and you would propably end up losing your friendship that what id be more afraid of.
2007-07-31 01:53:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yh, break the frenship barrier, uhav to admit the way u feel, or u will never know if he feels the same, but i bet he does, everyone wants to love someone they r close 2, just make sure he treats u rite.
2007-07-31 04:43:22 · answer #8 · answered by oldertibz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ofcourse once ur able to emotionally share eevrything with a person it means you r having enormous trus t on that person when trust develps to a height you will be falling in love
2007-07-31 02:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by galin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u can go into a relationship
u prob trust each other more thn ny1 so itd be a good relationship
start flirting insted of just tlking, mebe he will catch on and ask u out
2007-07-31 01:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋