Why do the relationships I get into always fail within a few years?

Question

Does anyone else have this experience or is it just me?

Answer 1

Your defining it as failiure , all relationships come to an end always just treat it as the end and move on to someone else .

Answer 2

How old are you? If you're in your teens or twenties, then you're still going through major life changes every few years: college, graduation, career changes. It's normal for relationships not to evolve along with you, especially if your partner is going through the same thing.

If you're older and more settled in your non-romantic life, it could be that you're just not paying enough attention to factors that would make a relationship last. Try and identify what your exes had in common that made the relationship fail. If the determining factor in the breakups has been you, take a good hard look at your personality and see if there's anything you need to work on.

Answer 3

Count yourself lucky you last a few yrs!! Mine don't get past the 6 month mark!! With someone new now so hopefully it'll work out.........trial n error i suppose.
Do you notice any recurring patterns within these relationships. I mean i can pick out 2 of my ex's that had the same problem with some of the stuff i do. Thats when i started lookin at myself and seeing what i could do to improve myself x

Answer 4

Well maybe you should try ti review all the past relationships you've been into and you would be able to know why its always fail within a few year

Answer 5

I think it's very common.
We have so much choice these days, and with that choice comes expectations. I think a lot of us expect a partner to satisfy all our needs - which is completely unrealistic. And because everything is so 'throwaway' nowadays, we often make the mistake of believing that someone else will be better (rather than working on our current relationship).

Answer 6

Either you haven't found the right person yet or you're (both) not trying hard enough to keep it going. Relationships are much harder work than most people think. The lusty, honeymoon phase WILL fade, and then you have to constantly work to keep desire alive. There must be compromise and support every single day. It's a staggering amount of work but it's sooooooo worth it. :)

Answer 7

Try some different tactics. My boyfriend has had the same problem to a degree and he is being much more cautious with me and taking his time. A relationship is a journey and sometimes it's better to take it slowly rather than race to the finish line. Sometimes things just run out of steam if you rush things.

Answer 8

I've had 2 serious relationships that both ended at exactly 2 yrs and 4 months - very worrying

I'm been with my fella now for 20 months and I'm determined it won't happen again.

every relationship takes a little give and take so compromise is my secret weapon this time

Answer 9

This happens to a lot of people, a lot of the time.

If you compare how many times this happens to how many successful marriages there are, it could be argued that the relationship of a few years is far more common.

Answer 10

Its infuriating when you find that every woman wants to be treated differently isnt it? One wants you to be gentle (but she wont tell you) by the time you figure it out she's off and running....... so the next woman you meet you treat her gently and it turns out she really preferred to be bashed around and treated like crap? WTF? she takes off into the wild blue yonder, then the next one you meet wants you to have sex only once a year, or she plays hard to get for so long you give up on her, the next one turns out to be an undiagnosed schitzophrenic or even worse, a druggie or lush, so you cant live with that so you leave her asap, then the next woman you meet wants to screw like a sex mad rabbit every 20 minutes, but by then youve been so ground down by life and all those demands you just say. "To hell with all that malarcky Im gonna be a bachelor forever"