He says he told her that he just wants to be friends and that because of that, I shouldn't have a problem with the situation. We broke up over this yesterday. He is now screaming that I want to control him and he should have a right to have any friends he chooses, and if I really trusted him, I would have no problem with this, even though this married woman has come on to him!!! Wouldn't any girlfriend ask him to give up this relationship?? Isn't he showing an incredible lack of respect to me, not to mention the woman's husband, by continuing to be friends with her after she has come on to him? We are over, but I need reassurance from the people out there that I'm not being over controlling!!! Thanks!!
2007-07-30 23:23:18 · 13 answers · asked by SieraRose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey you made a very wise decision. That kind of thing is very immature in my book. If my girl really felt uncomfortable with my interactions with a certain girl i would drop it in a heartbeat. It is not a matter of being controlling or not, but it's the fact that he probably likes the attention and will mostly hold it over your head . Who knows how many other "friends" he has. It's extremely late and i'm tired so i hope that made sense, and i hope that comforted your decision
2007-07-30 23:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Clown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally think that he is being disrespectful. and obviously if she is letting another man know of her attraction for him she has no respect for her relationship or yours either as well. I'd automatically be concerned with her motives for such an action. There is nothing wrong with having friends, no, but in this particular case I really don't think he should be going there. I also don't think though that you should break up with him over it, I don't think you should let her get in between the two of you. He obviously made clear to her HIS intentions so you have to remember that he might not be totally aware of the fact that she might have something else up her sleeve. Us women can be very manipulative and a guy won't even know it!
2007-07-31 06:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would he feel if you were the one that was "friends" with a married man that had come on to you? My guess is that he would have done the same thing that you did, and expect you to respect his feelings. He did not respect your feelings, so good bye!!! I have a feeling that he is probably having an affair with her, and that is why he was so insistent on continuing the friendship. You haven't lost anything. It is his loss. Find you a nice guy that will respect you, and not play you for a fool!!!
2007-07-31 06:31:54 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you were both right,i am sort of like the married woman in this situation.Only i didnt "come onto" to him,I only told him I was quitting the f/ship because i was developing feelings for him etc.Suprisingly he started contacting me more than before? I dont know whether his gf knew or was bothered by this??I dont think its fair to her so dont talk to him.I think it must just be an ego boost for guys knowing some girl likes you.
I think you should trust him,I think he is really just doing it for his ego not because he likes her.If he liked her he'd be with her! simple as that :-)
2007-07-31 08:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by rusalka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A agree with you, I am in the same situation. I feel that it is a total lack of your feelings on his part. I feel he should decide who he wants more, her or you. there is no....having your cake and eating it too. We all know how these types of situations he is in end up. He sleeps with her and then their are two broken relationships.
2007-07-31 06:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Gary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its both so he should respect you and you shouldnt control his friendship. If she came onto him and he said Just friends I have a hunny then you go and think something is going to happen. He has respected you in telling her no just friends and you have violated his trust in whome he chooses to befriend.
2007-07-31 06:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by curious6710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up is not the only solution. Just first try n make him understand that y he should not do this. What you feel on the matter. If he still go on. Then you should lead your way
2007-07-31 06:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You completely answered your own question. He is being very disrespectful. And now you don't have to deal with him anymore.
2007-07-31 06:26:22 · answer #8 · answered by donellew2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, breaking is not the proper solution for this..
talk with him and try to find out were you are lacking...
take care
2007-07-31 06:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by suman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you bf is a natural cheater, look for some one else... ahem ahem
2007-07-31 06:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by Gwapings 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋