me. He got scared and back away. He then ask for his space. But when i ask he said things are moving to fast. He want us together but want things to slow down just a bit. What should I do. Break up with him? Or stay
2007-07-30 21:01:43 · 17 answers · asked by Nek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Nek, If he didn't run away with his mouth screaming he is worth hanging around for. Men feel trapped when a woman thinks they can move in and become a real couple. They get cold feet even if they have deep feeling for you. Give him his space and slow things down for him. Let him think he is the one in control of eveything. Don't worry in time things will work out..
A Friend.
poppy1
2007-07-30 21:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by poppy1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 months is slightly more than 1 year. If you are getting a new place, you should try living there alone and see how you like it before asking someone else to move in with you. If your relationship is not moving fast enough for you, but moving too fast for him, maybe you should give him more space and find someone who will be more serious about a committed relationship with you after a year of serious social dating. Best wishes..
2007-07-31 04:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should listen to him. He said he loves you but you are just moving too fast. Let him cool down and don't bug him for a few days and act like you are busy if he calls, or better yet just don't answer. After a few days he should start missin ya and if he asks why you haven't talked to him tell him that you thought he wanted space.. don't be too pushy with him and maybe he will move in eventually but don't ask him again.. wait till he asks you if he can move in. If he doesn't ask I would say that you are with a guy who won't commit and you need to leave before you waste more time.
2007-07-31 04:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're expecting too much from him.... he's not ready for a committed relationship. [marriage] And why did you invite him to move in with you?! Hope you haven't been "puttin' out" with him Hon. A girl may be able to "get" a guy by giving him easy sex, but it will never keep him. The relationship is not that serious from his perspective. Once you get moved in and settled, etc., he'll want to start coming around now and then......I'll bet you 10 bucks!
2007-07-31 04:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes not comfortable moving in with you dont force the issue. If things are good between you, why ruin it. If your not even engaged then you shouldnt be living together. Us unmarried guys like having our space. If you want to break up with him because he wont move in with you, then you shouldnt be together in the first place.
2007-07-31 04:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by bludvl27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is right... dont try to tie things down too fast. Both of you need private space.
If you are getting on fine with him now, I suggest you keep it that way. It is not easy for 2 peopple of different background to live together. Conflicts will arrise and jeopardise the relationship if not handled properly.
2007-07-31 04:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him! Just because he wants things to go slower doesn't mean you should leave him. He sounds like a good guy, 15 months isn't that long of a relationship especially to be living with each other.
2007-07-31 04:08:55 · answer #7 · answered by Dorphinoct 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should stay. Moving in together may seem okay for you but it probably isn't his thing just yet. If you love him and love you just as much, he will come around. Be patient girl. Blessings.
2007-07-31 04:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by kortney E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont find that to be a reason to break up i mean if hes that good enough that u wanted him to live with u im sure hes wonderful but i mean if he wants things to slow down then thats the best thing u can do i know i would want to ruin my relationship wit my bf because he wanted something to chnage and i ignore it like i didnt know
atleast he told u he wants things to go slow unlike keepen it from u hes given u a hint
dont let him go over something he wants alittle diff.
2007-07-31 04:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay and back-off. YOU might think you are grown enough to make this step but he might not be. 15 months is not long enough to know ANYBODY enough to move in with them. As you get older and these places you live go on YOUR credit, you'll be more careful with who you live with.
2007-07-31 04:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by topofthefoodchain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋