I have to get this off my chest. I'm 23 and free to choose who I will date. This man is wonderful to me, and treats me like a queen. He understands me, I understand him, and we are very comfortable with each other. His children are four and six years old with no mother in their life, and I'm just as comfortable being with them as I am with their father. I hate being stereotyped where people assume I am looking for a father figure because somehow I'm emotionally weak??? OMG! That is not the case. I'm not stupid. I'm talking about a REAL reason why a friend would stay angry with me, because so far I don't see any REAL REASON why they would, or should stay angry and isolate themselves from me??? That's manipulation to me.
I couldn't care less what people think about who I prefer to date. I can understand why my friends they think he's too old for me for many reasons, but that is NO REASON to stay angry with me. What is that proving? That they're really not my friends at all!
2007-07-30 19:50:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
REAL FRIENDS would support me. I hate this, and I needed to VENT!!
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :(
2007-07-30 19:54:08 · update #1
Most people mature enough to seriously spend time with a 46 year old father of 2 small children wouldn't need or want the approval of their high school friends.
Are you simply playing with this reverted teenager's heart? He is seeking a mother for his little ones, no doubt about that. If you can't see yourself marrying him and truly mothering those children instead of focusing on your own 'comfort' around them, then let him know, only see him WITHOUT his vulnerable little people, and continue sharing too much information about your dating habits and having immature snitfits over trifles like your friends' opinions.
If you are serious about him and his ready-made family, I suggest you invest in child-rearing books and prepare yourself to be a full-scale adult and put childish attitudes and activities away.
2007-07-30 20:03:04 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age should not stop you from being happy. They need to get over it, If you two are happy together go for it and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. You dont choose who you want to love it just happens, Good on you and if you get along with the kids aswell that is even better it would prob be good for them to have a mother figure in thier life and it sounds like you care alot about the kids.
Wish you all the best!
2007-07-31 02:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you two know how you feel about each other and friends should only be supportive of what makes you happy. That is their only role as friends. And to make sure you're safe, and I don't think they believe he's endangering you, or that his kids are. If they think you're dating this man for a father figure, kindly remind them that you are not, and you certainly don't need more mother figures (your friends) in your life telling you what to do! Life's short. Be with who makes you feel best.
2007-07-31 02:56:07 · answer #3 · answered by lalallalalalala 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
look i don't know who you are, how you look, how you think or how crazy you are. Just look at it from your friends shoes, they think you can do better (compliment), they are looking out for you (compliment), a guy with 2 kids with no mother should say something (unless she died).. You might be insecure and like the thought of a guy who really needs you. And last but not least, people who aren't invested in a relationship give objective opinions, as harsh as they may sound they are most likely true because they are not stuck in the web that i like to call "love". Hope i didn't offend you just giving you objective opinions.
2007-07-31 02:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by Clown 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe they are concerned. the father figure thing is obviously a concern,or you wouldn't be so angry about it. calm down. listen to your friends. they are only concerned. don't just jump on the "no one likes him so they can all back off because I am emotionally attatched now" train. your emotionally attatched to this guy, fine. you like him. fine. you abandon your friends because they are concerned that you are dating a man more than 2 decades older than you, NOT fine. if you had a friend dating someone this much older than them, you wouldn't be ok with it either. they see what your love blinded eyes refuse to see. so calm down, shut up(with all due respect) and listen to them, instead of ranting about how much they care.
2007-07-31 02:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with the answerer above, u just answered ur own question. but here's my opinion: dating a guy twice ur age is kinda gross.
2007-07-31 02:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by blingding 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you just answered your own question in the last sentence :)
2007-07-31 02:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋