How long should i wait for my boyfriend to pop the question?

Question

I know there are tnes of questions like this. here are my detials. we have been together for 5 years he said 2 years ago he would ask.he hasn't made any effort to save money.he has lots of money he works in the oil field. we moved in together even though i didn't want to tilwe got engage. we haven't had sex for 2 years cuz we want to wait.he says he really wants to he actullay brings it up.but i'm getting tierd of waiting. i love him but i can't get tuged aroun much longer. how long til i should move on? and yes i have made it known that i wont be here forever.

thanx for all the answers so fast. i do have to say a few things.
1. i can't get pregnant we don't have sex.
2. i never made him commite he wanted to, he brought it up and still does.
3. a year after he moved 100miles away he asked me to move in with him so i left my fam and job to come here.
4. the biggest thing is i am young and i want to share my life with him ,we are religious and thats why i want marrage and thats also why we stoped having sex.i just don't want relize that i spent my young adult life waiting for somthing that never happened in another 5 years.

Answer 1

Hopefully if things are running smoothly then why should he.

Why don't you get pregnant and I'm positive he'll pop that question

Answer 2

Talk to him in real depth about all you have mentioned above,its the only way to resolve all of this.
Maybe you are not both in the same frame of mind at the same time if he's putting it off,maybe he needs more time because although you have been together a long time,it still doesnt mean that one or the other is quite ready for marriage,as much as you both love eachother. Its a scary and very much a big decision to make when your talking marriage,even when you do love eachother.
If you want it now and he doesnt,you'll have to decide what you are going to do,but if you truly love him and he does you,it will happen when you are "both" ready.
Where's the rush, if everythings ok apart from you wanting the marriage then you dont really have a major problem,and you know what they say,if its not broke,dont fix it.

You both need to do some serious honest talking so you know where you stand either way,and if he isnt ready to get married yet,the choice will be yours,wait or move on.
Goodluck.

Answer 3

I hate to be so honest, however it is always the best policy. This guy does not love you. You made a huge mistake by moving in with him. There is not much hope of you having a good marriage with this person, you're not happy now and you're not even married.
You don't say how old you are, but you sound very immature.
Just think about the facts, if he truly loved you he wouldn't be able to wait to make you his wife - what's money got to do with it ? You're using the money factor as an excuse, my husband and I met and married within 6 months ( 1999 ) and the total event, clothes, rings etc cost no more than £250.00 .

Answer 4

Five years is a long wait. He said two years ago he would ask... but he still hasn't? I suggest you begin to seriously question your relationship. Tell him that you are beginning to doubt whether your relationship is going anywhere and that you would like to be given time to think things over... in other words, "cool off" for a while, which means, moving out, and seriously consider breaking up... the time frame of the cool off would depend on how much time you need to settle whether you still want him or not. i would say three months should be enough. Usually (and in my case it was so), if he truly wants to marry you he will finally pop the question when he knows the great possibility of losing you. You, however, should also be ready to give him up if he does not ask you within the allotted period.

Answer 5

Move out as soon as possible. 5 years is more than enough time for him to have made up his mind if he wanted to be in a committed relationship with you or not. Find out what he is doing with all of the money you say that he made. If he is not willing to make you any promises at this time, you need to move on before your younger years are wasted on somebody else's man. Best wishes to you.

Answer 6

Are you sure he just doesn't want you to stay to look after the house, 5 years is a real long time. A chunk of life really spent waiting for someone else. I'd leave and see where his loyalties lay, if he has money then get in to a b & b and tell him he's paying as you deserve something from looking after the house and everything.

Answer 7

if you love himm.. you shouldn;t ask hwo long you should wait to LEAVE him... that is not love...
why do you need the title of husband and wife to be happy? A wedding is nice, and to knwo you are bonded to a person for life is good, but maybe he just doesn;t see the point of rushing to get married... and if you even want to marry him you would never think about leaving

i would think if you reallyy love this guy, and if you do, wait forever for him... and it won;t be waitingg.. because you will be with him, just like you would if you were married, you don't need that title to make things different between you two

Answer 8

If I understand correctly, you stopped having sex two years ago, as soon as you made your boyfriend make a commitment to ask you to marry him in the future. This sounds as if he wants to avoid entrapment by your pregnancy and he would really like to end the relationship.

Answer 9

end it now. don't wait another moment. that is the only intelligent thing to do. a real man with strong love in his blood cannot wait. i cannot wait when it is time i must move. if he doesn't, he aint no man. you got you a wussie,a weenie a she-man. you can just do without that. aint no fun and joy in that kind of a thing. might as well marry another woman who will help cook and clean.

Answer 10

if he hasnt ask by now then i dont think he will ask and not having sex for 2 yrs is along time i would get out and start meeting other guys i wouldnt sit around waiting all the time for that

Answer 11

Enough is enough, already. You need to have some respect for yourself, here. Time to move on. You two may love one another, but just are not a match for marriage.