Continue to say "I love you"?

Question

My girl broke up with me a week ago, because I was depressing. I tried to tell her it wasn't a good idea at first, but then I went along with her wishes. We hung out Friday. I made a joke reguarding sex and right away she said she can't help being sexually attracted to me. I paid for dinner and a movie, we went to the park. I told her at the end of the night I love her, and she said the same, but I didn't kiss her. She had a really good time though. The next few nights we have talked but I haven't been saying "I love you" until I sent her an email tonight. I don't know if I should continue to do so or not. I just want her back butI don't want to sound needy really. SHe did say she wants to continue our park outing some night and do a bunch of other things as well together. I just don't understand if we really are just friends now or not. Even though initially she said she had made up her mind about breaking up. I said the other night casually that I wasn't given a fair chance, and she

She said she was "watching me." I turned that convo into "goodnight" though. I don't know what to do next.

Also, when I changed my status on myspace to "divorced" she changed hers to that as well, but her facebook still say's "single." Would it be most likely that she will be too embarassed or feel she looks weak if she gets back with me and her friends know? Btw, we dated for 2 years.

Answer 1

well, first off you have to find out why she broke up with you, and see if that problem is still there, if its a problem you can fix i'd say go for her if you make her happy, and she makes you happy. on the whole i do think its a bit weird to tell "just a friend" i love you, personly i don't say that phrase i save for those i deeply and truly love. As for her friends, F**k um it dosnt' matter what friends think of a person you love.

Answer 2

I don't think you and your ex are "just friends" It seems like there still some feelings. And those feelings need to be addressed. So you telling her you love her and her saying it back is okay. But tell her how you feel. Because you need to know if you can move on or is there still something there that can turn into a relationship again. And all this stuff about ya'll hanging out that says it to that both of you guys aren't ready to move on. Good luck with everything!

Answer 3

1) She says she is physically attracted to you, but double check if she mean that is the only connection. We all meet people that we are attracted to but that we don't really love.

2 ) You want her back. But don't know whether she wants the same. Why not when you two hang out together, when she did something you think is good, appreciate her. This way I am sure she feels that she is cherish.

3) At the same time, being attentive to her so she knows you care. But all other situations play aloof or keep distance. "Free" thing usually people would not cherish. Make her call you! And while you do not hang out, enjoy your single self and give each of you a little private space.

Answer 4

Wow, this is so mixed of her..it does sound like she likes you..but it doesn't make sense that she would have broken up with you in the first place. The only thing I think you should do is just ask her about it. When you guys go to the park or are alone ask her why she broke up with you if she does in fact love you, tell her you don't want to be waiting around for something that just 'might' happen..you need to know if you have a chance with her or not so you can move on.

Answer 5

once you have had a long relationship with someone you cant stop loving the other person so quickly. Maybe the love she has for you is of a good friend. Its better to always end in a good note, and to cherish her friendship, you did have wonderful times together in the past and also the future. Don't stress yourself over the brake up. enjoy your life now and get to know other people. You might end up finding your true love. take is experience that you had with her as learning lesson, so that your next experience will be full filling. Good luck and be strong.

Answer 6

that's tough. i don't think that you should stop saying i love you if you still feel as thought you love her. I would talk to her about how you feel and let her know that you are there for her. I don't know.. sounds like you two need to talk and maybe there is a chance that things will work out for the two of you in the end. Just make sure you are clear and let her know how you feel. You have to always be true to your heart... you can't help how you feel about someone and you can't just up and make yourself stop feeling that way.

Answer 7

Well, I think you both really need to talk this out more, and discuss where your relationship is heading, or what exactly is the status of your relationship at the moment. If you feel that you still love her, then tell her that. You just have to confide in her and talk to her how your feeling, tell her you still love her..and you never know..she might feel the same way, maybe she's just waiting for you to say something first.

Answer 8

Tell her that you need to know how she feels. Tell her that it is not fair for you to have to see her that often, and not know how she actually feels about you. Ask her if she still loves you and wants to try again, or if she wants to be friends, only. Don't let her just keep you around until she finds another guy. That would hurt you too much!!

Answer 9

Just take it easy. Set up another date. U have a chance and dont let it go. As for the I love you's, if it feels right to say it then dont be afraid to but if it seems out of place or it doesnt feel right than dont. Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Sure. Just not too much. Say it when you want to say it and when you really mean it. Overusing it will make the word feel abused and empty.

Say it out of the blue.