My sister was planning a wedding for just a few weeks from now, and then her fiance got word that his leave had been cancelled, and his deployment was moved up to a week before the wedding. Does the army not care about people's plans/lives?
2007-07-30 18:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Belle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unfortunately, that's part of signing on that dotted line. When he signed up, he gave up alot including having a say in what he does, where he goes, or where he lives. There are alot of perks to being in the military but that's not one of them. He can talk to his commander and see if there's any way to delay his deployment by a few weeks. They are not without a heart. Alot is based on how good the soldier's performance is and how much the commander likes you. If he's done a good job, then his commander might try to let him deploy a few weeks later. Sometimes things can be worked out but if they can't be - don't let it ruin everything. They will just have to move the wedding up!
I would suggest having a small, informal wedding before he leaves then plan the more lavish, formal affair for when he will return. That way, they can get the best of both worlds. They can be married before he leaves which will make them both happy. Plus, the military gives higher pay when a soldier is married so they'll get that benefit. Then, they can do the bigger, nicer wedding when he returns which fulfills her dream of having this great wedding.
2007-07-30 19:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is getting a small taste of what life as a military wife will be. The military doesn't have an obligation to ensure that leave isn't cancelled, especially in times of war (no matter how much most of us want them outta there and home). My advice would be to call the vendors and explain the situation to see if it can be postponed. In the meantime, if they really want to be married, they'll want to either find a JP or a chaplin--the chaplin on the local base might be willing to perform the ceremony.
2007-07-31 02:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Ari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sadly i have been there. not the wedding part, but many important dates missed because of the military: our first anniversary, my college graduation, my first birthday with us married, ect ect. so is the life of a wife of a service man. this is just a taste of what is to come.
i think that the military does take for granted the men and women in their services, but the people who signed up do know that to an extent. i would try to see if he can get emergency leave. we had a hard time planning our wedding (darn drill weekends). a wedding is planned so in advanced, surely someone high up can throw their weight around to make this day possible.
2007-07-30 19:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Christina V 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 21:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by marilu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duty comes first. In all fairness to the military, the groom knew this could happen. Better call the priest and see if he can do it before the groom deploys. Call the vendors and see if they'll let the couple postpone until the groom can get leave again. They don't want to cancel, just reschedule so they might let them do it.
2007-07-30 19:48:15 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with the deployment of our military in Iraq, nor with some of the positions of the military itself. However, even I would not expect the military to alter its deployment plans because it might disrupt one soldier's leave and wedding plans. The situation is unfortunate, of course, but just part of being in the military.
2007-07-30 19:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
no they don't. it's the mission first. If they want to get married before he leaves then go to the chaplin or the court house other wise they will have to wait until he comes home. If they wait she will not have any military benifits. They could always et married before he leaves and have the "wedding" when he gets back
2007-07-30 18:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by KM 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When you are in the military, this is what happens. This is their career and most military couples adjust and make it happen.
What is most important is the safety of the solider going off to War and coming home again.
2007-07-31 01:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Patty G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he signs up for the Army he signs up for unpredictably. This is his job, this is his (very respectable) choice.
As his fiance you sister is going to have to get used to this. It looks like the Army is already helping her adjust.
2007-07-30 19:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋