he often tells me I am ridiculous, dramatic, crazy,dumb, annoying, that I must like to make him mean, and whiny. I never thought was those things, but I'm beginning to think maybe he is right. How can I tell if he is right and I really am?
2007-07-30 18:28:01 · 6 answers · asked by Megan 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I do not know who is telling you those things... However, You need to stop listening to it. You are starting to believe it and it will wear down your self esteem.
i would not let anyone put me down like that! You should not either! He might be saying that to you because of the insecurities he feels about himself. Do you really need to put up with this?
2007-07-30 18:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who can't appreciate you for who you are,
often telling you that you are "rediculous, dramatic, crazy, dumb, annoying, that YOU MAKE him mean, whiny"
This is the beginning of verbal and emotional abuse. Walk away from him and the relationship NOW.
Some guys become abusers. The kinds of words you quote are where these guys start off. Control is their goal. They want to have somebody to step on so (they think) they'll look bigger or smarter. A guy like this is really a guy who feels pretty small inside, inadequate. But he feels that if he can control a woman/others that he will appear to have power and it will make him feel like he's big stuff..........But it's all a lie.
And the women end up emotionally wounded,
depressed, lonely, sometimes beat-up, and sometimes .......
yes, I almost ended up DEAD. When the Dr in the ER saw me, he could hardly believe I was still alive.
He was a good looking guy, who talked smooth, drove a shiny fast car........but there was another side to him once you got to know him.........
DON"T BELIEVE HIM!!!!
2007-07-31 01:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is nothing but verbal abuse. The very fact that u listen to what he said and tried to find out if u r really that way proves that u r a nice,caring,sensitive human being. Probably much more nice than what he deserves.Anyone else in ur place wld have asked him to f*** off. Get rid of this guy. U need someone who will bring out the best in u and vice versa.
2007-07-31 02:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetmini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the 2 of you just really are not very good together. Throw it out there to him that if you are all of these horrible things than why is he with you? See what he has to say for himself. I dont know you, or about your relationship really, but if it is an emotional abuse type of situation, then yes you will start to believe it. Get Out now if thas the case!
2007-07-31 01:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic case of emotional abuse by a spouse/domestic partner. It's done to control you. If you doubt yourself enough, then you won't think you can leave and support yourself. Also, if he hits you or abuses you in another way, you will think that you are the cause and it's all your fault. You will even think you deserve it so you'll stay around for more punishment.
I recommend you get out of this relationship if you can. The situation will escalate and you're going to get hurt.
2007-07-31 01:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by majormomma 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't! Get away from that guy. He's all of those things, and he's trying to feel better about it by telling you that's what you're like. Tell him off.
2007-07-31 01:35:59 · answer #6 · answered by dolcebella4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋