I need help talking to this girl at work.?

Question

Well I am 17 and still in school. There is this girl at work that I really like. If she comes over to me or walks by she sometimes says "Hi" and I can say "Hello" back but I cant say anything after that. I get really nervous when she's around, I know I have to be myself but I just can't figure out what to say. Also if she is helping me with my work if I get jammed up or when I help her when she gets jammed up I am constantly wondering, (Do I smell good? or Do I look alright?) I know i smell good because people compliment me about it randomly throughout the day but when I am around her it changes :(. The other guys have no trouble talking to her or any other girl that works there, I sometime's wish I could be more like them :( but I am me. And at work is the only time I see her but I really wanna start talking to her just so she knows I like her.... Please help

Answer 1

Your fear is due to your lack of confidence
your lack of confidence is through the fact your father or mother is absent from your life or is not giving you what you need to support your own soul.

The problem we face here today is exactly this we care far too much about this sort of thing and we don't understand why and then we turn away from the source of the problem and we look to the world to help us in this situation.

What you really need to do is find yourself first, and then your lord and see how he created such things for you to deal with on the most knowledgable and logical of mannors. Before you find yourself in a long string marriage and you have to divorce and you go back to asking yourself the very same question again 10 or 20 years later... Surely you see it all around you happening when will you take notice and participate in some change instead of just talking about it and looking for the cell phone again? I offer you a window in time have a look...

Answer 2

You just need to do something to break the ice, find an opening to strike up a good conversation. Next time one of you does something clumsy or messes something up, or you see someone interesting during the day, pretty much anything -make a comment about it! Even the littlest bit of conversation is enough to start a nice discussion as long as it's interesting, and you never know how things will turn out. Just blurt out whatever comes to mind, even a quirky comment is better than an akward (on your end) silence. Good luck and be brave! First move is the hardest, but once you realize that this girl is just another person and that you are totally able to have fun conversations with her, you will feel soo much better!

Answer 3

OK so your 17, still young. Honestly man, be yourself. Dont go into talking to her with planned conversations, just talk to her freely, whatever catches your attention or what your thinking of, talk to her about it. Give her a compliment on something, other than looks, dont come of cheesy, maybe hair, something she is wearing. Just be yourself let her know your interested. Just try to calm down when talking to her. If you have a big trouble talking, try to get her phone number and text her. You will get to know her better and talking to her in real life will be much easier since you know her better. Dont wish to be like others man, be yourself thats what women want. I hope this helps, good luck :)

*1 trick to try, when you see her, dont let her know your nervous, as you walk by say Hi, and keep eye contact without looking away for even a second as she passes. Dont turn your head to keep eye contact, only move your eyes.

Answer 4

If she is like me... it sounds like she may already like you and feel the same way, also with akwardness. She may walk by you to say hi only sometimes cause she may be wondering if you are interested still, and if not she may drift away and find someone else! You absolutely must make her know you like her, little hint by hint until you receive one back. I suggest just nice little things, possibly adding when she says hi, you could compliment she looks nice to, etc. After little tiny talk, it will move to larger talk. So just add a little more than hi, ask her if she wants some coffee, etc. Good luck !

Answer 5

If you are having a problem talking to her, try to remember that it is not always about what you say, but what you do. If talking to her makes you nervous then find another way to show you are thinking of her. Go a little out of the way to do something extra for her at work to make her day a bit easier. Smile at her and you never know! I myself like shy guys, I married the guy who had a hard time talking to me!
Best of luck!

Answer 6

Um, if alot of people say you smell good id think she'd think the same thing huh?

try to think all night about, good conversation topics that would really interest her.

I heard the trick is too be cool, always keep talking, and make sure your breath doesnt smell bad(listerine sprays) hehe!

dont worry dude

Answer 7

you can always just ask her the normal questions like:

What did you do last night? How was your weekend? How's your day been?
They always seem to start conversations. because when she answers hopefully she'll say more than a one worded answer so you can get her to keep talking about her, and keep more of the pressure off you.

Just don't be creepy & smell her hair or anything while she's by you.

Answer 8

Edit: START with Boy17's info and close with mine

your gotta talk to her so she thinks u know her a little better, ask her questions what ever even if it feels awkward just laugh with her w/e ...make small talk even if she doesnt seem reall willing, then when the times right , after several times of talking to her, just stop mid convo, and say (confidently) "(name) can i be honest with you?" ...then reach down deep in your heart and describe exactly how she makes you feel, ever detail but its gotta be the truth " its real tough to describe just dont make anything up. I've been honest with some girls to this point. and this is word for word on a classy woman. "Can I be honest with you?" of course..."I really think your the sexiest girl i've ever talked to, Your smile your body , everything. I'm just bein real with you but When I talk to you I can't help but think about how sexy you look naked. Your educated and so sexy, your honestly everything I want in a girl."

That's really how i felt about that specific girl, you just gotta say how you feel and make sure she knows your sincere and really mean it. I usually charge for info like this , but this ones on me kid.

Answer 9

well your at a good start, she knows who you are and says hi
so you say hello back, then increase this short second you have her attention by smiling with confidence..when you are comfortable with that..one day give her a compliment and **mean it**..she will say thanks and smile, and you've just made her day :) but dont compliment on everything everyydayy or she will think you are a freak!
then just start small talk, like casual stuff, eventually you will be friends, then GOOd friends, then you ask her out to get to know each other and take it from there...=) good luck xoxxooxo!

Answer 10

you need to just start a conversation up with her about something that you think she will like that you to share an interest in and after a few times of that you will be able to talk around her better beleave me i had the same problem but it took me 30 years to figure out that little trick i hope it helps