Suddenly her thoughts come in to my mind and i think think think................. n its goes on............., at the last i end up wasting lots of time orelse iam a confident man i kwn how to divert my mind. But why i losing myself in her thoughts once in a while.
2007-07-30 17:48:11 · 34 answers · asked by Feel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because it seems, you are a weak personality.
WELL...sORRy, Mate.. but pls, b positive in life.
When a door closes in your life, the other door is opened, but the irony is, u keep looking at the closed door....so my advice is, LOOK FOR SOME OPENED DOOR, u will DEFINITELY..definitely, find it..Good Luck.
P.S.
PROVE YOURSELF...SHOW HER...THAT U CAN LIVE WITHOUT HER N B SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE.
IF SHE LOVES YOU IN REALITY, WILL DEFINITELY COME BK TO YOU.
Take it from me, TUHIN BANERJEE....
2007-07-30 19:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My apologies this is long but you need to read every word.
Sometimes when we give a piece of our heart we never quite get it back whole. That is the wonderful and pain of love.That 1/8 inch missing from the heart can be annoying right?
That's ok all you have to do is to heal, and move on, and have your baggaged cleaned up to start again.
I don't know how it ended but sometimes people can be really mean at the end kicking you when you are down etc. Blaming you for the relationship failure, insulting/disrespecting, and destroying your self esteem. It makes them feel better or justify hurting you! This can have you dwell on it longer than you should.
When we do not have something/someone else knocking our socks off to completely remove them from our mind it is difficult not have them haunt us from time to time. Remember it is always easier to remember the good times/idealize them when someone is gone. They are not here to fight with us , disappoint us, annoy us, etc like the in the flesh person would.
Try to avoid the trigger places, hang outs, activities, concerts, songs. That is a a good start. . If you have to force yourself to write a list of the good and bad ex traits do so. It can help you find what traits you liked in her you want in the next gal and what you do not want again in a gf.
She will slowly slip away as you find new things and people to care for. Don't be surprised though if 5, 10 yrs goes by and one day you are writing a check dating it her b-day and she pops in your head. It happens. Just remember that it was a time in your life, it made you who you are, taught you about life and love.
Then you will go home kiss your wife and hug your kids and know it was all meant to be. Garth Brooks has an awesome song Unanswered Prayers-with the lines "As she walked away I looked at my wife and there and then I thanked the good Lord for the gifts in my life." "...And just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care Some of God's greatest gifts are too often unanswered prayers."
I wish you the absolute best in life for it will come....
2007-08-07 17:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. The thoughts should be less intense and less often as it was months ago. When you start to think of her try and quickly divert your thoughts to something or someone else. Are you with another girl now? It's important that you experience life after the ex. The more memories you build since that relationship the better you will be and her memory or thought of her will no longer be painful. I know it's a cliche but time truly does heal old wounds...
2007-07-30 17:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if you can wipe your memory like Jim Carrey's character in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, lucky you!!
1. But if you can't i see no harm in being nostalgic, were they not the best days of your life ?
2. Do you have anything better in your life than the time you spent together ? If you do, wow, what are you worried about, plunge into life, swim all you want - you don't need her memories to survive the gloomy days
3. Well, actually, I do not recommend this because its more of a forget-all than a specific fix : just get busy, so much so that you only have time to run through your routine and go to sleep - no personal thoughts - censor your mind
A love affair is hard to put behind you but you can live with it - like diabetes or heart disease.. deal with it day by day
2007-07-31 01:48:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jiji T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bud, i hear ya!!! i have the same problem but the only difference is that i just broke up with my bf last week, and i cannot get him out of my head. I wait for his call (we kinda are still friends) but i think u were emotionaly attachted to her thats why u cant let go of her that easily! I have the same problem!!! What you could do is just ... go out and party like a ROCKSTAR and try not to think about her!! Just kidding! I mean what i do is just i stay busy so i dont have to think about him. I know i know it catches up with you but just try to stay as busy as possible and not let her get to u!!! and if you can, talk to her once in a while and just be good friends wit her!
2007-07-30 18:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U may never stop thinking of her, sounds like u still love her, but that's ok because there is enough room in ur heart to love many people at the same time. I was deeply in love with my last wife when she left me with our 4yr. old daughter, I was almost 3yrs. getting over her(still think of her but it doesn't hurt anymore) I cried a river day and night and slept as much as I cud because that's the only time I didn't hurt. Good luck my friend.
2007-07-30 17:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by typea911 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U never lose the heartache of your first love. Personally it is the hardest thing in the world to get over and Everyperson after that is trying to fill that void the first one left. And they never can. First Love is the only love.
2007-08-07 16:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by William W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because maybe in your heart she is not an Ex. Not yet. I believe people meet people because they have something to tell, show, add to each other's life. Maybe whatever she suppose to give you was not given yet. I suggest to call her and ask her out for a coffee. Maybe not with the intention of starting over, but just as friends.
2007-07-30 17:53:01 · answer #8 · answered by shinysunlight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you always think of your ex will your being melodramatic your betting yourself up. you need to go out more, dont waste your time on something that you cant have you might will lose yourself and your mind.
why dont you give yourself a vacation to the bahamas and invite some friends to go with you.
2007-08-07 15:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by adnerb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking about my ex for the last 12 years. I can't avoid that.
2007-07-30 21:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by makino_bt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋