So today I had sex for the first time with my girlfriend of 2 years (She was a virgin as well) I'm wondering is, why didn't it feel as good as I thought it would? (Don't give me crap answers about my gf) Frankly, I was disapointed in the results. She said it really hurt for her, and shes still hurting hours later. Is this just because it's the first time? Or we were both virgins?
2007-07-30 17:05:38 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I came in her about twice.
2007-07-30 17:06:27 · update #1
I advise to any teenager not to have sex I bet it will be better when you are married. I feel bad I committed a sin now. I should have waited.
2007-07-30 17:18:13 · update #2
It's because it was your first time. It will get better. The first time always sucks. At least that's what I've come to understand. I haven't met one person who actually said their first time was great.
My first time I hurt for a week and got sick being worried if I was any good or if I did it wrong LOL
Since it didn't feel so good for you and it really hurt her, her vagina wasn't lubricated enough. A dry vagina is no fun and is only uncomfortable for the both of you. Invest in some good lubes. Astroglide is good. But doesn't taste very good. But is easier to get since you can get it as like Wal-Mart and places. You can even go to the website and get a free sample. If you're old enough and want a better tastier lube, try and adult store and try the WET brand lubes. They're good at lubricating and they're not sticky. My fave is the watermelon flavored.
Also don't tell her you were disapointed and that it didn't feel good! Because then she'll blame herself and be very insecure and that can equal a very bad sex experience as well.
Good luck to you and your girl <3 I wish for you and her many better sexual experiences :)
-EDIT-
No! Sweetie, don't feel bad. You didn't do anything wrong. Yes, I guess it is a sin. But if that really bothers you, you can pray for forgiveness and even become a born again virgin. He will forgive you! But know this, it wouldn't have been any better if the two of you were married. It still would have hurt it would still be awkward.
2007-07-30 17:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was different for her than for you, everyone else can cover the issues with her: first time pain, more lub, nerves, etc. Lets talk about you and your relationship; first and foremost get the feelings of guilt out of the way -communication, communication, communication- honesty,openess, and truth. You two have nothing to be ashamed of (expecialy from one another); sex is a natural physical act (the sin of the bible comes from a time period when people were married at the age of puberty). Your relationship has lasted this long and it should last past this.
Sex for the first time can be nerve rattling, as our nerves get in the way we forget about the physical connection we should be enjoying with the person we love. As she gets used to the different sensations and enjoys the stimulation, you will find yourself enjoying her pleasure (remember, sex is not just about how YOU feel). Foreplay and exploring each other's bodies is a great way to reintroduce the pleasurable sensations (this will also give her body time to prepare itself). You both can physicaly please the other person without actual sexual intercourse untill you both are ready.
Also, use protection! You may be the only partners either has, but pregnacy is a very serious matter, my friend. Learn and chart her menstral cycle, get her on birth control, use condoms (they are not 100%- but the "pull out method" is too risky- sperm is released before the actual ejaculation!)
Give your special girl extra hugs, tell her how much you love her, thank her for sharing this special act, tell her again how special she is to you, let her know that you are willing to wait untill she is ready to explore pleasure in other ways. Once you both are on a level of complete comfort and trust you both will enjoy the sexual pleasure available from one another.
Good Luck; have fun and be safe!
2007-07-31 02:02:18 · answer #2 · answered by The Soap Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice job cumming in her cherry way to go the reason it must of been bad because her ***** was so tight and she was a virgin or you must have been really bad at sex or you have never jerked the the chicken so you did not know what the orgasm feels like. it hurt for her because she was a virgin and her ***** or other known as her cherry must have been really tight so when you stuck your dick in there it stretched out her vigina and made it hurt for you next time you lay down by the fire and **** her hard it will feel better and it will not hurt her any more. Next time getter to give you a bj and make her suck down the hole load and having sex before mariage is a sin in the bibble and i am catholic and i think it is a bunch of bullshit when you get older just confess to a priest and all of it will be forgiven i choak the chicken every day and i am fine i do not feel guilty of sining GOOD JOB GETTING ******
2007-07-31 00:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely because it's the first time. Especially since both of you are virgins and have no experience...it makes it even harder.
All I can say is...IT WILL GET BETTER. My first experience was awful...it hurt like crazy, and I really did not enjoy it at all. We ended up being frustrated and disappointed. But after times and times of trying (not always good, not always bad), we actually have been having pretty passionate and intense sex!
One other word of advice, is be open to each other in communication about it. Talk about what you liked, didn't like, what it was like for her, what you should try next time. Really. It helps when you two talk about it.
2007-07-31 00:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by girlygirl8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohh it will get better with time! You are both young and inexperienced and by about the 5th or 6th time you will begin to enjoy it emmensley. As for waiting untill your married- there are ups and downs. Either you could feel really good that you waited, or end up marrying someone that you are not sexually compatiable with and have terrible sex for the rest of your life!
2007-07-31 00:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by girlsjustwannahavefun666 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Inexperience and nerves can cause the results to be not so perfect. It will get better in time when its not so new. The pain she may be having is probably just due to the inexperience you both have. Different angles and maybe the length of time you are having sex could cause some pain. Lack of lubrication. It should all get better with practice.
2007-07-31 00:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's apprehension and uncertainty the first time. You may not feel it, but it's there. You were both in unfamiliar territory and anything unfamiliar doesn't always bring the best results. My guess is you were so concerned about her (subsciously or consciously) that it took the edge off for you. Believe me, when you each become so familiar with one another, you won't be able to keep your hands off one another. As for your girl, she'll be okay.
2007-07-31 00:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time , warm up the oven.a lil longer....and bring a lil water based lube to the show. Take ur time, walk to the show and enjoy the movie you both make. Make a memory not a bomb!
Good luck, I hope you get another chance.
2007-07-31 00:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by WAWAYNE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of it has to do with nerves. Everyone goes through the butterflies. I don't think anyone's first time was great. I hoped you both used protection.
2007-07-31 00:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by co97mb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most of us the first time was not that great.
Sex is NOT a sin. Lose the guilt sweetie.
In the future always use protection.
2007-07-31 15:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋