i don't know what to do i'm still a virgin and so is he. we've been together 2 years and frankly he's been really patient and we've talked about it but sometime i feel like we should but most times i don't. he's a sweet guy but i don't want us to break up over sex. what should i do? I've already told him i'm not ready and he kinda hints ALOT that he is but i just wanna maek sure i'm a virgin 'til marrige or whatever.
2007-07-30 16:47:31 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wait till you find someone who respects you enough to not put such pressure on you for something you're not ready to do. You'll end up regretting it if you give in to him. You're always going to remember your first time. Would you rather remember it as just giving in to someone because they were pressuring you into doing it? Or would you rather remember it as a very special time with a person who had enough respect and love for you to wait until you were ready?
2007-07-30 16:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by fubco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you're not ready for sex then you definitely aren't. Fourteen is pretty young to be thinking about sex and emotionally there is a lot that's attached to it. When you're having sex, you're really at your most vulnerable, pretty much exposing all of you to your partner.
Your boyfriend is probably hinting at it so much because his hormones are raging and his body is telling him that he wants to. I would suggest sitting and speaking to your boyfriend about this. If you're not ready to have sex and he loves you, then he won't let the fact that you're not having sex end your relationship.
Perhaps you two could try other things such as using your hands or oral. It may sounds strange but it does help with some of the pressures the hormones are putting on your bodies.
Just remember, if you're not sure, then don't do it. You obviously are not ready and you need to make sure that he knows this as well. You have to keep in mind what is best for you though, especially since you are young and there is a possibility that he will not be the man you end up with.
Good luck and be sure to take care of yourself.
2007-07-31 00:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Roses ~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't!!! 14 is too young. And you didn't mention if he's even the same age as you. Go out and have fun while you can. Don't get hung-up on having sex because he thinks he's ready. Any guy will tell you that. What if something goes wrong and you get pregnant at the ripe old age of 14. Your chances of a life of any sort are just about zero. And guess who'll be wanting to string up your boyfriend--you DAD. He'll have a heart attack!! If this guy keeps pressuring you, then tell him it's best if you two cool it and don't see each other anymore. You're only 14 and there's a lot of fish in the sea for you to act as bait for.
2007-07-30 23:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until you are a little bit older, never do anything you are not sure about and at your age 14yrs you should not be thinking about sex , sometimes sex leads to different things like teenage pregnancies, STD, when girls start having sex at a young age they also have a higher chance of getting HPV which leads to Cervical Cancer , If your boyfriend can't wait until you guys are both a few years older then he is not worth it . Once you have sex you can never go back to being a virgin, so think about it and make the right choice, which is to wait.
2007-07-30 23:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love that you want to wait until marriage!!! People will tell you to just go on and get it over with. I think that it's great that you realize that your virginity is not some bothersome thing that has to go away for you to be a better person. You and your husband will appreciate that you haven't had sex with every guy you came across in your life. It also says that you have strong character and morals. If this guy is pressuring you to give him something that he hasn't earned (your virginity) then he doesn't respect you. Leave him!! There will be someone who is not trying to take away something that they can't replace.
2007-07-30 23:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you already know the right thing to do - you need to wait. If you are feeling, as you say, that you SHOULD have sex - that is not what sex is about...it's about wanting to, for both people. You have a lot of time ahead of you to experience these things and doing them before you want to, or are comfortable, will make you regret it for a long time to come. If you feel that he's pressuring you, that's his problem, not yours. If something happens and you end up pregnant - it's YOU that has to bear the brunt of that decision. Be strong and stand up for yourself - I wish you the very best.
2007-07-30 23:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by samantha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait til your ready and make sure its right...because you dont want to end up getting hurt and then not have the most precious gift you could give a guy...so make sure your prepared even though hes ready doesnt mean you are and if he really loves/likes you hopefully love b4 sex...but if he really loves you he'll wait for you until you're ready
2007-07-30 23:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by chrisyrae07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, if he wants it at this early of a stage, he's not the kind of guy you want to be dating. A real gentleman would respect your wishes and wait. Doesn't he see the statistics....the risks and dangers in it? I know health class is boring, but it does teach you something. If you know what's good for you, either give him a firm "NO" or if that doesn't work next time, call it off. There are clearly better people out there.
2007-07-30 23:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ultra 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u guys end up breaking up bcuz he wants sex then he wasn't worth it anyway. I don't think that you should do something that u could later regret, if he can't except the fact that u want to wait then maybe he's not the person u thought he was. Anyways, just do something that u know is gonna make u happy. Good Luck!!!!!!
2007-07-30 23:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by blessed_in07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is just too young for any kind of sexual conduct. Roses is right. Even at 16 there are better ways to "handle" his hormones and keep the beast at bay. I can't say I really approve of kids giving hand jobs or BJ, but its better than kids having intercourse. Whatever happened to heavy petting??? It was fun. For a while.
2007-07-31 00:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋