My friend invited me and my boyfriend to her wedding and we went. Now 8 years later we no longer keep in touch, should I invite her to our wedding which she'll know about since my boyfriend will be inviting her cousin?
2007-07-30 16:37:15 · 11 answers · asked by Pinky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
it depends on how tight your guest list is. i would invite an old friend, but i would never edge out someone that is close in my life now.
2007-07-30 16:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, reciprocal invites are not mandatory. She might think for a second "Hmm, she came to my wedding...", but then she'll remember how stressful and expensive weddings are, and she'll relax. If I were you, I wouldn't bother.
I'm keeping my list down to people I've actually enjoyed a conversation with over the past year...it helps to keep things in perspective. In making my guest list, I went through the same thing: remembering old friends that were such a big part of my life, and wondering how I could ever go through such a big day without them. Then I realized: I said they were a big part of my life, not are. I don't know those people anymore, and I don't care to rekindle any friendships, as I know our lives have headed different direcions.
Think about why you want to invite them. Do you want to rekindle a friendship? Maybe you should spend some time with them first before paying $50 a plate for them to go to your wedding. Do you just miss them being in your life? There's no guarantee they'll be the same. Do you think they expect to attend your wedding? No one likes to attend weddings when they hardly know the bride & groom--it tends to take half the weekend, plus money for gifts, travel, etc.
If you haven't spoken to this couple in years, they probably don't expect to be invited. If they are, you might shock them, and they'll figure they were invited out of courtesy, unless you have alternate reasoning to tell them (I miss your friendship, I was hoping we could hang out some, etc).
Best of luck! Don't sweat the guest list. You'll change it 20 times before your wedding...promise.
2007-07-31 08:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always believed that the wedding day belongs to the bride and groom and that they should plan their day however they want with whatever and with whomever they want.
That said, they also need to be willing to put up with the fall out of any decisions they make.
If you no longer keep in touch, she shouldn't expect an invitation. But if your guest list and budget allow, it would be a nice gesture.
2007-08-04 08:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by SailorsWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO-I used this rule when inviting friends. Only those that I had a meaningful conversation with were invited, and others were not. In fact, my Dad ran into a couple of women who invited me to their weddings years ago, and neither of them expressed that they were hurt because I excluded them.
If you don´t keep in touch, don´t feel obligated to invite her-not to something this intimate and special.
2007-07-31 06:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to remain friends with her, you probably should. But if you don't have enough room and are better friends with her cousin, then just do that. Sounds like the friendship hasn't been all that important to either of you anyway, so she might not be upset at all if she's not invited.
2007-07-30 23:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think inviting her would be nice. She did invite you to her wedding. And it could be a wonderful way to re-kindle an old friendship.
2007-07-30 23:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
idont think it is necessary to invite old friends even if they invited you once. you're not obliged to return favors anyway. you just have to think that it is your wedding and not a birthday party or a fiesta. hehehe! you just have to invite people closest to you and those who were part of your relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-07-30 23:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by ching 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still talk to her on occasion I would but if not I would'nt it might seem to her that your just inviting her for a gift.
2007-07-30 23:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your mind make your self the person long enough to see if she want to go.
2007-07-30 23:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by eric l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
invite her and you could become her friend agin.
2007-07-30 23:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Tanya D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋