I just recently told my guy friend that I got my belly button pierced about 7 months ago. Well, it turns out that he is completely against the idea and is refusing to talk to me. He says that it's degrading and that only self-conscious people do it. He's blaming his beliefs on his extreme conservatism. I am very offended and surprised at his reaction and I wanted to know if anyone agrees with him.
Personally, I think he's overreacting and if he really was a true friend, he would look past the naval ring and get over it. He said that it completely changes me as a person and he can't look at me the same way anymore. But it's not like I flaunt it, and if I did, he would have found out about it a long time ago. Besides, I wear moderate clothing and It's not like I show it off to every person that I meet. I don't think that he's in the position to even say his opinion like that to me. He's not my boyfriend or my father, just a friend, and apparently not a very good one.
2007-07-30 16:36:58 · 18 answers · asked by thepinkpipster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Could it be that he's acting like this because I turned him down a little while ago? He admitted to liking me and I told him that I didn't like him back, but he said that he was totally cool with it.
Since then, he has argued with a lot of things that I say and when I confronted him with it, he said that he didn't realize that he was doing it.
2007-07-30 16:40:10 · update #1
WOW! what a reaction he had! Its your body and if you wanna put holes in it, more power to you! As a friend I would say he has room for an opinion but to go to the extreme of not talking to you is a bit much in my opinion. True friends are suppose to accept you for who you are, they aren't suppose to try and change who you are. I have a saying that I say to my Best friend, thats " i will always support whatever decision you make even if its the wrong one". I think best friend should be there for each other no matter what and if you dont' agree with something then its fine to state your opinion, hell what are best friends for if they can't tell you their true feelings, but to write you off as a friend, I have to agree with you on that when you say he apparently wasn't much of a friend to begin with! So sorry hun!
2007-07-30 16:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt worry about him. Once he gets over himself he will realize that the way he is acting is far more self-conscious than getting your belly pierced, not to mention how degrading his remarks were to you. If he never does decide that it is time to grow up you are better off with out him. It is like the saying goes.... with friends like that who needs enemys
2007-07-30 23:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by sara123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not being very fair, but neither are you. his beliefs are obviously very strong, and yes, in the eyes of anyone just you having that changes their perception of you entirely. in the eyes of people with strong beliefs (which I have spent my whole life around) not only does it change how they view you in a bad way, it makes you look, to them, like you are flaunting something, like you are asking for something. it is the way they have been raised to believe. it isn't just an opinion, it's their BELIEF that what you have done is wrong.
if you still want his friendship, youneed to write him a letter detailing how you still want to be friends. that you aren't willing to give up your belly ring, but that you are willing to keep it totally covered at all times and never mention it again in his prescence. if you can't accept his beliefs, then I don't think you should be friends with him.
2007-07-30 23:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he likes you more than a friend, and seeing that he is not your boyfriend he does not have the right to tell you what to do with your body . As a friend what he is suppose to do is give you his opinion and leave it as that , I think he has a crush you .
2007-07-30 23:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is over reacting I would say that he really isn't
a true friend if that is going to make him not be around you
2007-07-30 23:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you guy friend is overbearing and controlling. He needs to understand it is your body and your right to pierce any part you wish. If you lose him as a friend over this then he wasn't worth having.
2007-07-30 23:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well dear if it was his belief meaning his christian faith then he would look past it and love you anyway..what i think it is is that he has feelings for you that you dont know about and he is jelous some other guy will see it. let him go really because if its that he likes you then he is psycho....and if he is a christian then he is a poor excuse for one..good luck
2007-07-30 23:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends would not be judgemental! Just be yourself, give him distance, sooner or later he'll get over it. If he doesn't then he really wasn't a true friend!
2007-07-30 23:40:14 · answer #8 · answered by hungryeyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the guy is just being ignorant since a belly button piercing is just a fad, whatever he is mad about is his own beliefs.
2007-07-30 23:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mark-0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with any piercings or tattoos' and that guy needs to get over it and get a life!
2007-07-30 23:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Warren G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋