We have had our date set for about 8 months and she all of a sudden plans on getting married like a month before us. We are trying to cut costs and trying to get people the invites to people as soon as possible.
2007-07-30 16:05:43 · 30 answers · asked by penglish51877 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you do not give anything at her wedding, it is her day. pony up the 41 cents for the invites.
btw, a month is not enough time for a wedding invite.
that would really put you on the wrong foot with his family.
2007-07-30 16:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand the need to cut costs, and doing it with the invitation may sound like a great idea to you. Unfortunately, it is not a place to cut. If you need to, perhaps you could cut costs on the invites by making them yourself, they sell really great kits to make your own invites at party supply stores. A wedding invitation needs to be mailed. Flat out, there really is no other way. It also needs to be sent out 2 months before the wedding. People usually require this amount of time in order to make their own arrangements in preparation for attending your wedding. ie- your gift, travel arrangements, babysitters, etc.
I am soo sorry that your sil is planning her wedding a month before you suddenly. It must really anger you! I can tell you that it will be better for you this way though. Now you can see all the things that happen at her wedding that you would like done differently, and you will hear people complain about certain things. Then you can fix those things and make yours way better than hers!
So in the end, there are many places to cut costs, but mailing the invites 2mos prior by mail is not the place. Besides if you anger the bride at her wedding, she may turn around and try to do something to upset you at your wedding. Let's just make everyone happy this way.
Best of luck!
2007-07-30 23:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by jbmiller06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression, "2 wrongs don't make a right?" That's what you'd be trying to do here. And, honestly, people aren't going to think her getting married a MONTH before you is stealing your spotlight, but if you hand out your wedding invites at HER wedding, they'll know you're trying to steal hers. Fork out the money for postage--this isn't the place to save $$--find another place, ok? Just make sure that your invite won't cost more than the cost of a 1st class stamp to mail--if you have enclosures or it's an odd size, it might be extra postage.
Best of luck to you!
2007-07-30 23:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um - yes, it would be extremely tacky to pass out your wedding invitations at her wedding!!! I can't even believe you would consider it. Plus, you should have the invitations out long before that anyway. And if you're trying to save on money, stamps aren 't the corner to cut. They're the least expensive thing you'll probably spend on the wedding. You can cut costs in other ways. I'll agree it was insensitive of her to plan her wedding a month before yours but try not to take it personally.
2007-07-30 23:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by bestadvicechick 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very rude, you should mail the invitations 6-8 weeks before. By passing them out at your future sister in laws wedding, not only does it take the focus off of the bride and groom but it is very tacky.
Try and cut costs some other way. Good luck!
2007-07-30 23:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Reba 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Invitations should be mailed 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Handing them out at someone else's wedding is tacky.
2007-07-31 00:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I actually think it is rude for her, to plan a wedding before yours, if she knew about your wedding but invites haven't been set, than she is the one being rude.
Sorry that is my opinion.
So I say send out the invites, that just means more weddings for everyone to go to lol.
2007-07-30 23:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Betty C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, it is very rude to pass out wedding invitations at your sister'in-law's wedding.
You must mail them and do it within the 6 to 8 weeks of your wedding.
2007-07-31 08:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not only is it rude, but a month is not enough time. Local guests need 6 weeks, and guests from away will need 2 months.
I am quite sure she was not thinking of your wedding when she planned hers. Many brides fall into the trap of thinking everyone has their wedding day in mind when they make their own plans, but really you're the only one thinking about your wedding.
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2007-07-30 23:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kacky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would feel so informal if someone passed me an invitation after a wedding. Having someone address the invitation to you with your name on it feels so much more personal and formal; makes you feel like they really want you there, and you want to go.
If someone was just passing them out, I'd feel like I was just given one because I was walking by. I probably wouldn't come.
2007-07-30 23:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by jenafur_h 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just mail the invites. After all, you'd probably be upset too if someone stole the spotlight from you. I know you're trying to cut costs, but this is not one way to do it.
2007-07-30 23:18:57 · answer #11 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋