Sorry don't mean to sound shallow but I have been athletic my whole life. I work out and take care of myself and so naturally I am attracted to athletic women...especially the petite ones. I love this girl but I want to be really physically attracted to her! She would be hot if she lost about 30 lb but she hasn't exercised in about 10 years and has gotten pretty lazy. Oh I forgot to mention that she is in love with me! What do I do?
2007-07-30 15:36:53 · 16 answers · asked by watadu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really love her, then her weight shouldn't matter right? Beauty is only skin deep, but I assume you know that since she's 30 lbs overweight and you still love her.
But would you should tell her is that you want her to start living a healthier lifestyle because that leads to a longer life. The lazier she gets, the more she won't want to exercise, which will lead to obesity. And Obesity is the second cause of preventable death in the United States alone. Plus you can tell her that you want her to be able to do physical activities with you. You can also help her by cooking more healthier meals.
Also NEVER EVER TELL A GIRL THAT SHE'S FAT. She'll go postal on you and it will make her depressed.
Tell her that you love her and that you want her to life a longer lasting life.
2007-07-30 15:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by ariisuchan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. She shouldn't have to change for you. If you met her that way, then accept her that way. If you don't, then you should look in the mirror. Chances are you are not perfect rather its inside or out. My best advice is to get over yourself. If you don't like her because of her weight then you may not deserve her in the first place. She deserves a whole lot more and I'm pretty sure you would shatter her if all you notice is her size. If you like someone it should be based solely on that fact. People come in all sizes, shapes, color, age, etc. There is someone out there for all of us in those categories. Stop being so picky. You may let her walk by and still regret it years later based on your athletic girl standard.
2007-07-30 15:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by criesunjust 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 08:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by rambhool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone as much as this person and how you mention it, you would do whatever to be with her. I know what you mean because you have to be somewhat physically attracted, also....it's important, but not everything.
Why don't you help her lose the weight? Support her, but don't degrade her or make her feel less than you. Love her no matter what.
2007-07-30 15:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ciao Bella! ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you LOVE her. DO YOU Love Her??
Your stated concern about her weight- is what she LOOKS LIKE; You have NOT expressed concern about HER HEALTH - do you LOVE her?
You said you LOVE her - then you imply that you are NOT physically ATTRACTED to her - so, I ask DO YOU Love Her?
So -- you have an athletic body and she does not - and that is the only thing that concerns you at this point. Do You really LOVE her?
You said she's everything you ever wanted - then the whole point of your question is what you DO NOT want - Do you LOVE her?
Body shape has nothing to do with love - WHAT SHOULD YOU DO?? examine the depth of your character.
2007-07-30 15:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by me 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask her out, you silly boy! If you approach it the right way you may inspire her to get active. If she's like many people who find themselves overweight she's probably interested in shedding a few pounds but may lack the drive to get started and stay focused. Having an active partner could help her out. If you're eating right and taking bike rides every day your good habits just might rub off on her.
2007-07-30 15:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by Little Girl Blue 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can encourage her to work out with you sometime. Just for the health aspects of it...afterall being overweight can be unhealthy. If you love her, you'll want her fit for health reasons but not for attraction only
2007-07-30 15:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try cooking for her, like get her used to eating healthier things and offer to do althletic activities with you for fun like go for a run with you, or ask if she wants to go on walks more. Eventually she will feel better when shes keeping a healthy lifestyle and hopefully she'll keep it up. Whatever you do, DONT suggest to her that she should diet, or tell her shes fat!! You never want to tell a girl that shes fat!!
good luck :D
2007-07-30 15:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Zabini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her, be with her...do things like encourage her to go on a walk with you or something. find something fun to do together that involves getting her moving. it will be for her own good if she is healthier, just dont over do it. and do not call her fat or keep bringing it up because that will cause her to be more insecure and a lot of people eat for comfort...plus it will probably cause fights.
2007-07-30 15:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you fall in love with someone, 30 lbs. isn't even noticable, because in your eyes they instantly become beautiful. If you're not attracted to her, you're not attracted to her. I don't know if you can take a course in becoming less superficial.
2007-07-30 15:41:48 · answer #10 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋