Is it racist to not be attracted to African American guys?

Question

I'm a white female, and I've been asked out bye 2 african american guys. I said yes but I'm not attracted to them. Does that mean I'm racist? I have nothing against them by the way.

The reason I said yes, is because I like there personality, and I wanted to go on a date for fun.

Answer 1

no. they just aren't your type.

Answer 2

No, your just not into African American guys. Your a racist if you refuse to go out with them because their black and don't like African Americans then that's racist.

Answer 3

No, your not a racist. It has to do with personal preference, with what you find appealing. This is not something that you can control or change. Your not turning them away because they are of African decent. (IE - you "don't like their kind" mentality) Your turning them away because that little piece in your brain that tells you when something floats your boat or not tells you that they don't float your boat.

I had the same issue, and this was a huge crisis for me. I tried to date several men of African decent. They were handsome men, educated, polite, caring, generous, etc. and everything that a woman should feel lucky to find in a man. However, I can honestly say that at the end of the date when he would kiss me goodnight, I felt like I was kissing family. NO SPARK! Nothing. Nada.

So, that is just how it is for me. African & Latin (I found out later) don't appeal to me. I wanted them to appeal to me, but no amount of time spent or encouragement could make my brain say, "Hey, let's melt some butter with just our body heat."

Answer 4

It's not racist. Everyone has preferences. I once dated a black guy and after the first date I knew we weren't compatable. Not because I don't like African American guys, but I just wasn't "feelin' him". I pretty much stick to either white or Mexican. Although my current bf is Greek and Mexican...HOT!!!

It all boils down to preference that's all : )

Answer 5

NO! Which do you like better a rose or a daisy? Does it mean that the one you don't choose is inferior? Absolutely not! They are both beautiful, but beauty is in the eye of the be holder. We have little control over who we are are are not attracted to regardless. Tulips are beautiful and so are Pansies, but you might favor one over the other. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with either one. There are many beautiful trees.. Dogwoods, oaks, maples, evergreens.. each retains it's own beauty, but individually we are drawn to different favorites.

Answer 6

That so does not meant that you are racist. All it means is that you are not attracted to African Men. There is nothing wrong with that, it doesn't mean anything.

Answer 7

Why would that be racist? You have a certain attraction to whatever type you are attracted to. They might be tall, dark and handsome white guys. They might a big or small penis. There are a lot of factors.

Answer 8

Of course not!
Regardless of the race, don't say yes
if you're not attracted to them because
you'll just be leading them on.

Now if you like them as friends and enjoy
their company, then tell them just that, "no
strings attached".

Because you're not attracted does not
make you a racist.


:~)

Answer 9

Its not racist. But i dont know how you cant be attracted to them, i get turned on by african american guys...to me, they are all down right sexy!

Answer 10

No, that's like saying because you aren't attracted to guys with brown hair that you have something against or don't like brown haired people. That's ridiculous. They just don't do it for you that's all. But you shouldn't say yes if you aren't attracted to them. Don't lead them on and don't settle for someone, it never works out well.

Answer 11

No, it's not racist. It's the same as a white female not being attracted to another white male. If you're not attracted to that person, you're just not attracted to that person.