Regret having more that one child?

Question

I have a 14 month old daughter whom I love dearly. So much so, that I have second thoughts about having more children for fear that it would take away time from her. However, sometimes I realize I love her so much I would want to have another....and would love that one as well.

My question is.....do you regret having more than one?

Answer 1

no, never, i love both of mine soo much

Answer 2

Never regretted it.

A mothers love is the only power that God multiplies as he divides. You will never love child #1 less just because #2 came along. Yes, you will have to divide your time, and your children will have to learn that mommy can't do everything at once. But part of life is learning patience and waiting your turn. It makes them less spoiled.

The best part about having another child....is you are giving your child a BEST FRIEND. There is nothing more wonderful than watching your sweet little one become a big brother/sister, and the love that they immediately feel for their new baby sibling. And then watching them play together as they grow. It is also comforting to know that when you and your husband pass away, that your children will have each other to hold onto, and not go through it alone.

When you look at the 'big picture' of life, the pro's definitely outweigh the con's.

Answer 3

Definately not. I think most mothers feel that way with their first born child, I did but when my 2nd was born it was completely natural. It changed our family dynamics but I don't regret it for a second. I love both my children equally but differently because they are so different. I am now trying to convince hubby to have no3 so that the gap isn't too far apart.
Definately have another baby. I couldn't imagine not having a brother or sister to share life with as I got older. There is a special bond between siblings and I think every child deserves it.

Answer 4

I was the same way, but I don't regret having more at all. My daughter was 2 when I had my son, and when I was pregnant I spent as much as I could with her. Then I had my second and I didn't want no more, but then my hubby and I got the baby itch and now I'm pregnant with my third and last, but now my kids are both out of baby stages and there both so happy their gonna have a baby, and their old enough to help me. As long as you give her attention still having another one is wonderful.

Answer 5

No, never. My only regret is that we didn't do it sooner. As another poster said - your love doesn't divide, it mulitplies. If having one is amazing, then having two is twice as amazing.

For me, it's been like watching your favorite movie for the second time. You pick up on so many things that you missed the first time, and it makes you love it even more. Then you have to go BUY the movie. LOL

Answer 6

NO! I love my second daughter just as much, and I am able to appreciate so many more of the little things because I am not as worried and picky as I was as a first-time mom. I worried too that having another would take away from my first, but it has allowed me to see her in a whole different light. Now she isn't just my daughter, she is someone's big sister. Watching my younger one copy everything her big sis does is hilarious, and watching my older one take care of and baby her little sis is adorable. I love the different things about them too. My older one is a bit moody, very outdoorsey, loves babies, and likes jumping, dancing, and running - I love those things about her. My younger one is laid back, sweet, has a clever sense of humor, and likes to have time play imaginatively by herself - I love those things about her. I even love the physical differences. That one is tall and thin like her daddy but otherwise looks just like me, but the other one is my little peanut and has her daddy's big blue eyes. And seeing how my older one has grown up so much and changed makes me so curious and fascinated watching my little one do the same thing.
Is it hard sometimes? Absolutely, but I can't imagine not having them both. I can hardly remember what it was like having just one.

Answer 7

I am having my second soon... I felt that way at one point.. but I tell myself If I stay involved with both my children and let my oldest help out as much as he can with the new baby I won't feel like I am denying him because I love him very much too and I know I will love this new baby also... But think of this if people felt this way they wouldn't keep having kids.. ??? Right ?

Answer 8

I do NOT regret having my other children. I have four total. After the first one, I had the same fears you do. I have a great view, looking back (Mine are teenagers). I don't regret it one bit. Not only did it not diminish my love for my oldest, she had three other people to love her unconditionally. My kids argue like all other siblings; however, they pull together when one of them is in trouble.

Answer 9

I was an only child.....I really wish I had a brother or sister. But wait till you feel ready. I think 2 or 3 years apart is perfect. I also have a son,, but the labor was so horrible that if I want another, I may adopt. Do whats right for your family.

Answer 10

I am so happy that I made the decision to keep my second son (adoption was on the table due to the circumstances with his "dad"). To see my kids together just makes me all that more glad that I had both of them.

A "surrogate" mother of mine once told me that loving your children is like a candle. You have one candle, and it's lit. Bring another candle into it and light it with the first candle, does the light of the first candle diminish? No. It stays the same, even gets bigger. And now you have two candles burning brightly. It's just like love. You love your one baby that you feel like you couldn't possibly give as much love to another child. But with that second child, your love doesn't divide, it multiplies.

Answer 11

I have a 16 yr old and a 5 week old. I love them both the same and have no regrets. BTW I hope to have more now that I know that you simply love them.