Teenagers, and boyfriends/girlfriends?

Question

Well a question i just read sort of got me thinking. It was based on how much time a teenage girl should be allowed with a boyfriend, and whether kissing is ok etc.

The responses were mainly along the lines of 'a 13 year old girl should not be left alone with a boy'
'they should never be un-supervised'.

So my question is for the people who are ACTUALLY PARENTS.
Do you let your teenage daughter/son be alone with a member of the opposite sex? Keeping in mind that they are probably going to be around them at school or after school or things like that. Do people out there really think that their kids will not see somebody if they want to? And if you see your kid kissing somebody, do you speak to them about being responsible, or do you ban them from seeing each other?

Answer 1

I think that there are ways that your young teens can entertain their "dates" with some amount of privacy but with the feeling of supervision. Let them visit in the living room or family room and go find something to do in another part of the house. Come in with snacks once in a while, but be casual, and don't stick around too long. Under no circumstance should they have their dates in their bedroom alone. There is an etiquette to these sorts of things, and although they sound old fashioned, they are still true.

If I saw my teen kissing someone I would speak to them about it after the fact and ask them how they feel about that person. I would explain to them how kissing someone is a deeply personal, emotional experience and should only be shared with people that they care about, and who they are sure they would not regret their decision later. You have to show your teens that you respect that they are old enough to make their own decisions, but you should be guiding them to making the right choices. I also would not ban them from seeing someone, unless I knew for a fact that the person was dangerous to my child. If it were a kid I just had a bad gut feeling about, I would just make sure any visiting was done in my house.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Im not a parent but dont ban them from seeing ewach other. That really doesnt help. Just set some lines somewhere. Like a 13 year old cant date unless its with a group and a good group at that. A 13 year old usually wont go very far with a boy. Maybe they would kiss dependending on the dude and how long they've seen each other. You would speak to them(not yell) and tell them that they should be careful and not to kiss very often if they're 13.

Answer 4

well, I not an expert but the rule in my house was age 16 for real dating( alone at the movies, kissing in front of parents etc.) as a mother of three boys(18,15,12) I kept the same rules. When peer pressure was on my 15yr old this past school year, he used it as his excuse not to date. When he asked later that year for permission to "go out with " a girl that asked him out, I gave my permission with the exception no kissing. Do I really think they didn't kiss? NO I'm sure they did. The relationship lasted two weeks. I also drilled in to their heads dating is looking for the ONE person you want to spend your life with, and then ask " are you ready to marry someone?) in which thy reply "NO!"
Then I say off the cuff "well then why would you want to go out with only one girl?"
If i had caught the two under age 16 kissing not only would I discuss responsibility but also the germs involved in the mouth.
Dangers of kissing!
There are millions of germs in the human mouth! Kissing someone on the mouth helps these germs to move over into a new home and start up a whole new colony.
Cold sores and glandular fever (which is often called the kissing disease), are two common infections which can be caught through kissing.

Answer 5

Banning them form seeing each other is a BIG NO NO! Prohibiting them from sexual activity will just arouse their curiosity. Having a boyfriend at 13 will make them know the tings to do and not to do when they're in a higher age. Besides, 13 year olds aren't really sexually active enough to try sex right? Besides the media ahs already advertised condoms a lot...so maybe they'll use them. Probably. If not...you're screwed.

Answer 6

I answered that question you're referring to.
I just don't think that 13 year olds should have steady boy/girl friends for a year already (as she stated).
I have a 14 year old, and I know she's already kissed a boy. We have had the talk early, and continually have talks about this. We are all for group dating until 16 at school events, etc. - and then we need to know the boy. It's all about having respect for yourself and having boundaries. There is plenty of time for serious relationship. I am all for my daughter to have friends of both sexes - just too young for a steady boyfriend as that leads to - well, intimacy at a young age.

Answer 7

I have a 14 year old girl and a 17 year old girl. We never let our girls be alone with a guy. Dating is only allow after age 16 and then only in a group. We did bar my 17 year old from dating a boy that we thought was inappropriate. HOWEVER, my seventeen year old became pregnant right after graduating high school. The father is the barred boy.

So, what do I know.

Answer 8

Its not completely an identical, reason im a lesbian, im 15 atm, and my gf is nineteen & shes allowed to stay, comparable mattress, and function been allowed to accomplish that considering the fact that 14... my mum is conscious young little ones are having intercourse (i assume thats reason shes a coaching assistant at a secondary college close to with the aid of) yet i bear in mind my mum having a set of condoms in a foul and that i wanted to renowned what replaced into interior the bag and he or she pronounced 'condoms for while your older' i replaced into approximately 10 (so formerly i got here out) on the time, so i think of my mums in basic terms an information man or woman.

Answer 9

I realize that my children are going to do what they want whether I want them too or not. I tell them that I believe they should be virgins until marriage. I try to supervise them as much as possible. I don't leave them alone together very much, I try to be there as much as I can. We all know that the kids will do what they want when I leave though. You can't watch them all the time, I expect my kids to make responsible choices.

Answer 10

My parents let me be alone with my boyfriend, but I have to keep my bedroom door open.

I agree. How can my parents seriously keep me away from someone? Lol. And yeah, my friend isn't supposed to see this one guy, but she sees him during school.

My parents never really said anything...they think that I just won't have sex. (NOT true.) But I will use protection whenever I do have sex. They think kissing at my age is "inapporpriate" and they think that it is "unacceptable" for kids my age to makeout.