How do you cope after saying good-bye?

Answer 1

U need a little more on this question, cause I know it's not your husband you would be saying good bye to, I am just that good thats how I know that.

Maybe you are talking about someone you know that is thinking about going to Korea.
And if that is what indeed it is no need to be sad it is not that long of a tour, and he well be back be for you know it, plus myspace is a good way to keep in touch.

stay strong big little sis.....

Answer 2

Letting yourself mourn after the good bye is a good technique for the first few days and then whenever you need it through the deployment. It sounds silly but sometimes giving yourself permission to cry helps you cope better the next day.

Another thing that helps is to get in touch with other people who know what you're going through. Your unit's Family Readiness Group (FRG) is a great place to start for this type of camaraderie.

Some other resources are online support groups. You can find some large ones at http://www.sgtmoms.com/home.asp,... http://www.cinchouse.com/ and http://www.military.com/community/home/1...

You might also try searching Yahoo, MySpace or anyplace else you network online for military family groups. Sometimes you can even find groups based on the area you're living in to make some real life friends too.

Whatever you do, know that others have been through this before you. You'll make it through just like we did.

Answer 3

It's gonna be hard at first but that's okay, don't fight it. Letting yourself cry now will make it a lot easier for you later on. Just find things to keep you busy here and there-Find a new hobby, spend time with your family and/or friends, etc. I'm not sure if you're going through a deployment or your loved one leaving for BCT/AIT but I'm dealing with the latter and I always found it to be easier when I had other people around, they helped keep my mind off my boyfriend and in turn, helped a lot. Hope everything turns out okay for you : )

Answer 4

Keep busy. Try to not pay attention to what the news says, it will definitely bum you out. I stay so busy while my husband is gone that the time goes by so much faster. It's ok to cry also. The first deployment is always teh hardest because you don't know how to deal with it. It's not fun, but it's part of the military life. Stay positive and the deployment will be over before you know it!

Answer 5

Cry it out.

It doesn't necessarily get any easier, you just learn how to deal with it. You learn that being sad and letting the deployment get to you won't make him come home sooner, or be any safer while he is there. I'm not saying you won't have bad days...or weeks. Try to plan a lot of little things to look forward to while he's gone.

I give myself time to hurt, then I turn it over the Lord.

Answer 6

You just do, you don't have a choice. It seems impossible the first night. You wont want to go home. And when you do, and then you make it to your bed that night, it's hard. But the next night is better and you just keep going.

You will also get nervous the few days before he returns. The first few weeks after he leaves and the few weeks before he returns have always been hardest for me.

We're on our last weeks now and I'm trying to get everything ready for his return. We can't wait!

Answer 7

Try to keep busy.
And it's okay to cry alot.
When my husband was deployed in April, I went to El Paso to see him off. I spent most of the 10 hour drive home crying. Its okay to do.
Chin up--it'll get a little easier as time goes by.

Answer 8

America will cope greatly when it says goodby to Bush.

Answer 9

DOVE CHOCOLATE! After goodbyes I usually curl up in my Marine Corp blanket, eat my chocoalte, and allow myself to have one day to be "emotional". Stay strong and it will get better!

Answer 10

You just keep doing the things that need to be done.