My brother sick and gets all the attention and I fell invisible what should I do?

Question

I am not going to say what kind of sickness he has but I fill like running away because I already fill invisble.

Answer 1

I think that this is a legitimate reason to go to one(or both) of your parents and say, " I know that __________ has a lot of needs but I do to, could we spend some special time together just you and I sometime, I sometimes just need to talk about stuff."

My son got a lot of the attention because of emotional problems, I tried to keep in mind that my daughter had needs too. But not every parent is really aware of this kind of thing. They really might be so stressed out over your brothers problems that they are just glad that you are ok. I am sure they love your too.

Answer 2

I am in the same situation (autistic brother) and I've met some nice people through the http://www.specialsibs.com. There is also message boards like http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/siblingsofautisticchildren/messages?o=1
that I vent on whenever I feel "invisible".

Talk about your parents with this to set aside some "me-time". Most of the time my parents are taking care of my brother, but I mentioned this to them and now, every day from 8:00 - 9:00 I can do whatever with them.

Always remember: you are a unique person! And, you are probably more tolerant than most people, which is a great skill to have.

A lot of time it's hard because none of my friends are in the same situation! It's not like I can go to them for advice!

If you ever need to talk you can also message me!!!

Answer 3

If your brother has the flu or chicken pox, jut ride it out. Things will go back to normal soon enough. If he has a long-term illness, you will need to find a way to tell your parents how you feel. You might have to wait until your brother is asleep to get their attention. A lot of people are going to tell you what a selfish brat you are. Don't listen to them. You can't just turn off your need to be loved because your brother is sick.

When you get your parents to talk to you, try to explain your feelings in a mature manner. Don't accuse them of ignoring you, even if you feel that they are. They will stop listening to you right away, and probably yell at you. You could start by asking your parents how you can take a proactive role in your brother's care. That might not seem like a good idea now, but it will open up the channels of communication.

Once you get your parents to talk to you, calmy (remember, no whining) explain to them how you feel, and that you need them too.

Answer 4

When I was 7 years had a brain tumor remover after that my mom has putting more attention to me is than my other brothers is the same thing. , yes now I am 21 and still treat the same , bus is because I am sick

If the the illnesss from your brother is some thing that can cure you will be later treat as your other brother , but if the illnes is some thing that has no cure well you will have to keep that way

Answer 5

Be grateful you are not sick and need the attention that your brother needs. Part of growing up is learning to think more of others than yourself.

Answer 6

Well, if your brother has strep throat or a cold, then don't worry because he'll get better very quickly. But if he's got something serious like cancer, then shame on you for being so selfish!

Answer 7

help him out so you don't fell invisible care for him show everyone you care

Answer 8

Talk to your parents about it. They need to know how you feel.

Answer 9

Tell your mom & dad how you feel, good luck

Answer 10

Hack off a body part....just make sure it's something you have at least 2 of.