My boyfriend's 30th birthday is coming up. I would like to throw him a surprise party, but unfortunely I don't have the time or money to do so. He's got a lot of friends and co-workers.
So, I'd rather just do something intimate with his immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings and nieces/nephews) That's about 11 people.
Currently, we do not live together. Where I live now is just not accomdating to that many people (plus, I have 2 roommates-i would not want to displace them for a few hours)
I was thinking about organizing dinner for everyone. I would love to pay, but I don't know if I could afford that.
Is it rude to ask everyone to pay for their own meals? Or should I just save up and buy everyone dinner?
What can I do? Ideas for accomdating a small get together for 11 people?
2007-07-30 14:14:12 · 6 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I'm not a fan of potluck, plus I would not want to ask my boyfriend's elderly grandmother or mother to make dishes. The only people left would be his one sibling. Kids can't make potluck dishes.
2007-07-30 14:24:42 · update #1
Most people know that not everybody can afford to pay for their dinner. Find an affordable place that will allow you to reserve a special area for that date. Let them know that you are sending invitation and will give them three day notice on the amount of people who will attend. Send invitations to the guest and let them know up front it's a surprise. In the invitation advise of where, when, time, and you might even get the establishment to give you a sample of the menu that you can copy to send with the invitation. If it's a buffet, then you can just simply write in the invitation the price of the buffet. In brackets put this (wish I could treat everybody to dinner, but my budget won't allow...this is dutch treat.)
For his gift do something simple. Make a photo albumn of pictures from his past...maybe 30 pictures...one of each year o fhis life. Write a small journal of 30 of his best qualities (that have made you care so much for him) and have in this albumn. He will love your caring thoughts more than anything else. Oh, have a nice sheet cake at the restrauant for everybody and balloons tied to the chairs.
His family will be so thrilled that you allowed them to be part of this celebration and shouldn't mind paying for their dinner. I've gone to many parties and paid for our part. I never gave it a second thought. My teenage daugthers go to birthday parties for their friends and they are at very fancy, expensive places. Each teen pays for their own meal. Most people just can't afford anything else.
Have fun and enjoy the special evening with your boyfriend.
2007-07-30 14:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day & age it is quite acceptable to ask people to pay for their own meals. We did this for my husband's birthday. We were at the time planning our wedding & buying a house so we could not afford to throw a big party. We had family & cloase friends meet us at his favourite restaurant. On the invitation we said "As we are a little stretched financially we would really appreciate it if instead of gifts you paid for your own meal & drinks". Everyone was fine with this & his Mum even baked him a birthday cake as we couldn't afford tobuy an expensive bakery cake (home made is nicer anyway).
2007-07-30 14:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do his parents or grandparents have a large enough living space to have it there?
ask if they can be the location and you can help with the rest...
i'm sure they will let you have it there.
do a potluck dinner.
have ppl tell you ahead of time what they are bringing so nobody doubles up
it would be nice to pay for dinner for people but if it's beyond your means don't break the bank for it.
potlucks are nice
bbq would work too. do a pot luck bbq
2007-07-30 14:27:09 · answer #3 · answered by nataliexoxo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to his family and be honest. Tell them you are able to pay for his and your meal, and a special desert for everyone, but would need them to cover their own dinner expense. Ask for their input on the restaurant so you are respecting their budget, they probably are planning on celebrating in some way already, after all, he's their relative.
2007-07-30 15:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by jennifer b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 03:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by furne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a type of potluck. There are usually community centers where you can reserve a large room for cheap.
2007-07-30 14:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Lori M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋