We met on yahoo personals over 3 years ago, and have been dating exclusively. His profile is still active on yahoo personals--sometimes as recently as in the last 24 hours--but hasn't been updated in over 2 years (the age is the same as when we met). He says he cares about me and he has been planning a future with me. I don't know how to ask him if he's talking to or looking for another girl without sounding like I'm spying on him.
2007-07-30 14:09:23 · 15 answers · asked by kelly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you just noticed that his page is still up, ask him why. Then you will know your answer.
2007-07-30 14:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. Men tend to just browse profiles when they're bored, and if he hasn't changed his profile in two years, then I'd say, more than likely, he's just aimlessly searching with no particular aim. Procrastinate beings that we are.
I think men say what they mean, unlike girls or gay men (I'm the latter) who can often be cryptic creatures :) I honestly expect a mind reader sometimes I think. If he's said that he wants a future with you, I don't think that he'd be cheating on you, lest he lose you, and he couldn't expect to have not changed his profile and have you not check it out.
I'd be more worried if he made a new one behind your back and used it.
I'd mention it in a joke. Say that he looks lovely in the picture that made you fall for him, or something like that, and you noticed that he still had the same profile up. You know him better than I can, so you'd be the one who'd be able to be more tactful about it. I hope it gets sorted out!x
2007-07-30 21:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by pukkagent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even have to mention the Yahoo personals thing, just have a serious conversation about whether he wants to be exclusive with you, or if he is interested in dating other people. If he can't give you a straight answer right away, I think you know what that means.
2007-07-30 21:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by jenni 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my fiance online also. We both had ads up for a while. If you guys are a great couple, it should not be a big deal to let him know you noticed it up and that it's active? He should response with, sorry babe i'll take it down or deactive it. I love you. Except I was the one with the active profile. And no, I wasn't using it.
We went through it. No biggy. Confidence girl!
2007-07-30 21:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Amis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way to find out is to ask him to honestly answer your question. The same one that you are asking of total strangers. Explain to him your concerns and/or feelings on the subject and keep an open mind when he does answer. Communication is the most important thing in any relationship, so get busy talking.
2007-07-30 21:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you met via the net then surely you can challenge him on his net activity and posts.
Then again you could be old fashioned and ask him straight - face to face. The results from this tactic are not to be under estimated. The very fact you have doubts should offer you a few answers.
2007-07-30 21:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by bondsman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine for you to ask, why wouldn't you if you are a couple, tell him to be open and honest thats the best foundation of a relationship, its not spying unless you logged onto his profile and read his messages etc.
2007-07-30 21:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by Me, myself and I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have questions, be honest. You have been together long enough to just come out and say it. "Why have you been looking at personals online? Is there something you would like to tell me?" of course, then you have to admit you were checking up on him. After 3 years, you should be able to trust him enough not to do that, also. He may bring up that point.
2007-07-30 21:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by ejc0782 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, why do you feel the need to check up on him? Are you having trust issues? Are you looking for a way to get out yourself? After you have evaluated why you are checking on him then ask him about it. The question will come up as to why you are looking on the same site that he is frequenting.
2007-07-30 21:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by sewcrafty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spy on him, just ask him if he still uses the yahoo personal account.
2007-07-30 21:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by RedWolf7374 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to ask him anything.
it's clear that he does not see you as the one for him. the question is how many others are thinking the same question ABOUT THE SAME GUY.
Good luck.
2007-07-30 21:19:48 · answer #11 · answered by OmiUbiaja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋