I have posted this, and didn't get any good answers.
He has stuff at my house, and I do NOT want to let him in to get it. If I let him in once I get home he will try to talk me out of everything I've been building the strength to do. I want him and his shyt out of my house. Can you give me a way to do this?
I don't want to just throw his stuff out, although it is my house. But I will. Any advice for a girl who wants to end this leech-lover relationship? PLEASE HELP.
2007-07-30 14:02:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
other than putting it on the front porch , you could just bag his stuff and take it too a realtives house , ,like his moms or dads or what ever family member he is close too , just make sure he is not there . and notify him were his stuff is . this worked for a girl i know , thats what she did to her ex .
2007-07-30 14:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by ted75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all don't go throwing his stuff away or burning it or anything else I am sure you have though about. If you do that he could take you to court over it.. you don't need anymore drama from him. If I were in your situation I would first tell him to come and get his things and after you talk to him, then call the police and tell them that he is coming over to get his stuff so you want them to be there so he will leave you alone and take his stuff and they can escort him off the property.. that way he won't try to talk to you and if he does they will be there to stop him.. also it shows him that you are serious! Hopefully it will end there! Otherwise just call him and tell him you are putting all of his crap outside and if he wants it he needs to come get it.. then put some headphones on and lay back... good luck!
2007-07-30 21:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by meeeeeeeee2681 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that he still has stuff at your house, box it up, give it to a friend of his to hold onto, but don't tell your ex where you're putting it until after you've left. Change your locks, (not joking!) and if you can your number too, try to make it a private number (so he can't find it easily). If he keeps insisting that he be able to come in and get other things (He'll probably say you didn't pack everything) arrange for one of your strong, loyal guy friends to be there while the ex "picks up" his stuff, this way, you don't have to stay there to listen to him. If you've got a lot of pictures together, determine if you want to keep any of them, make copies to give to the ex, seems silly, but you be happy you did later, or you could even ask one of your girlfriends to do it with/for you.
2007-07-30 21:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by that_photo_chick07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Businesswoman005 why don't you arrange for a date and time for him to come over and remove his stuff. But while he is there also have a police presence and inform them that you do not feel safe with his coming into the house and could use their support in order for things to remain civil. That or have one of your girlfriends/male friends over at the same time as he is moving his stuff. This would help support you also and then you'd be less likely to fold up like a cheap deck of cards. Best of luck.
2007-07-30 21:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to get him and the police at the same time at your house and this way with the help of the police he will have no choice but to get all of his stuff out.
2007-07-30 21:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Golden Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have one put all his stuff in the garage when he comes over tell him his craps in the garage open the door and keep other doors locked. Then there is plan B have a very big male family member or guy friend over when he comes to get his stuff....
2007-07-30 21:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bag up all of his stuff and put it outside and then change your locks! Then call one of his friends or family members and let them know that his stuff is outside and he needs to come and pick it up.
If he tries to get in to your house, call the police! Stand your ground girl.
2007-07-30 21:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where does he stay when he's not leeching off you? At his Mama's house? Box his stuff up and mail it or take to his Mamas house. Then move on ,girl you sound like you got what it takes to cut the money train off! you go girl!
2007-07-30 21:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you want to end the relationship or just get his stuff out your house.
just pack all of his stuff and take it to his house. that way you will not have to deal with him coming to your house. when you get to his house just say you got somewhere to be or make arrangements to be somewhere. let him know that you can't stay long.
2007-07-30 21:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by qaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave his stuff at the house of his parents or a mutual friend. Or maybe dump it in his car when he's not around it.
2007-07-30 21:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by nim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋