we were planning to have a big wedding when i found out i was pregnant. we put off planning and just went to a justice of the peace. now its two years later and we want the wedding we never had. our families really want to share this with us, do you think guests will think we are crazy because we are already married?
2007-07-30 13:10:32 · 19 answers · asked by Pretty Blues 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Do it on your anniversary....make it a renewal of vows. Theme it along the lines of "the wedding that never was"
All of your guests will understand. I think it is a beautiful sentiment. Good on you. Why should you miss out because you concerntrated on other priorities....more important ones at that.
Good luck. Enjoy your special day!
2007-07-30 13:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You did have a wedding. It wasn't large or showy, but you did have one. It was the day you married your husband.
If you'd like to have a reaffirmation of your vows or a church blessing and invite your friends and families, then you are well within your rights to do so. You may even use many of the trappings of a traditional wedding, if you choose to.
It's possible that some guests will think it's silly or - worse yet! - a gift grab. Spread the news quietly by word of mouth that you're not expecting presents, and then most of them will realize this is more about sentiment than milking presents out of people.
But if you're really doing this for yourselves and to publicly honor your private commitment, well, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Just call it what it is and treat it as such.
2007-07-30 20:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a lovely idea, and encourage you to do this!
Just to prepare yourself for what negative comments may be coming your way though, check out some of the "renewing our vows after 5 years because we didn't have a real wedding the first time" questions that have been asked. I've noticed an especially negative response to some of these questions in the last couple of days. There's a number of answers like "You screwed up, you can't change what happened, deal with it" sort of stuff. I actually got angry when reading these answers, but at least if you read them you can prepare yourself for the absolute worst response possible.
Good luck to you, and who cares if they think you're crazy!
2007-07-30 20:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by twistedscorpio87 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's called a vow renewal if you are already married, and no one will think you are crazy, this is becoming more and more popular. When you got married that was your wedding, the bit where you say your vows (regardless of if that is in church or in the court etc) is your wedding, what you didn't have was the reception.
2007-07-31 07:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am planning mine right now for our 10 year anniversary! Everyone in my family seems all for it but no one of course is offering to help pay for anything and that is why we didn't have one the first time. Not that I expected them to but my husband's mother promised to give us a reception because it was cold then (February 11th) and she never did! No gifts nothing but that is just how our cheap *** families are! We are dressing formal but I am trying to budget it and make it affordable because now we have more responsibilties and kids and cannot have a huge blowout. I am having a hard time finding a photographer that will give me a break so I don't know exactly what I am going to do there. I think if that is what you want to do don't let anyone try to make it seem that isn't important. My mom even acted funny and asked "Is it going to be all dressing up and I will have to go out and buy a dress or something?" I said "We are dressing up because we never got to experience that actual wedding feeling, you can wear whatever you want, I don't care!" I wish you the best of luck and hope it turns out wonderful and beautiful!!
2007-07-30 21:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Know It All 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you know what go for it. me and my husband got married 5 yrs ago. i was pregnat and we had just moved here. so we didnt have a big wedding just something in his grandmothers yard. this saturday we are renewing our vows and doing the big wedding. the family thinks its great so do our friends. i am wearing the wedding gown and having the big reception. so do it and be happy. this is you and your hubbys day. and if people dont like it well then thats there losss for being such a asshole. i wish you the best.
2007-07-30 22:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I don't. And if they do, who gives a care? If it's what you and your husband want to do and if you're not taking money away from things that you NEED (like if you needed groceries or to pay the utilities...you know what I mean, I'm sure), then, by all means...have the wedding of yours and his dreams! Maybe even your little one could be an honorary flower girl or ring bearer (you didn't say what gender your child is). GO FOR IT!
2007-07-30 20:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you put off because you where having a baby save money that way now it 2 years later you get wedding plus your baby could be a part of it now sounds great 2 me have fun on your day
2007-07-30 22:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by dark2light 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get offended but bad idea. Sorry. There is a thing of reaping & sowing.
What I DO suggest is having a big anniversary party! Maybe your 5th or 10th though.
Remember people bring wedding gifts like appliances that you already have! - so it won't work.
2007-07-30 20:42:28 · answer #9 · answered by K in Him 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope! Have your wedding. Though it would really be a renewal of vows ceremony.
Congrats
2007-07-31 09:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋