But if i don't act how my family expects me to, they start accusing me of using. if i sleep too much i'm high, if i'm angry i'm high, if i punish my son, i'm high. And they seem to find it nessacery to share with the world that i'm a drug addict. i'm not proud of what i have done but i'm trying to get ahead of it and i feel like they won't let me. i tried to enroll my son in a private school and the first thing out of my moms mouth was, "oh i'm here becouse she can't pay the full tuition becouse she uses drugs"!!!! what the hell. I live in california and my income is 830 a month from which i have to pay almost half for my car and insurance and not to mention food, gas and other everyday needs. I'm i wrong for wanting them to shut up????
2007-07-30 11:43:42 · 17 answers · asked by sisifue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
id rather sleep than be out trying to get in trouble. and if i don't have money why go out to be tempted by what i can't have!!! so i stay home. why tease myself???
2007-07-30 11:53:04 · update #1
Uncertainty about your condition should be expected, but they should also be forgiving and helpful of your recovery. I would suggest you talk to them about it and tell them about how hard it is to put up with that kind of talk. They should be more supportive and you have the right to expect that.
2007-07-30 11:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not a loser. You made some stupid choices, but you grew up and did something about it. We all have made mistakes in life. If the people you care about love you anyways and show it, then try not to worry about how you let them down. You did a great thing by getting clean, and I'm proud of you. I am also a recovering drug addict, so I know the fight you deal with daily. I've been clean 5 1/2 years and I still get really strong urges to use. While I wish I had been smarter and made better choices, I'm OK with the things I have done in the past. I would not be who I am today if I had not experienced those things. I am proud of who I am and the knowledge I have acquired over my lifetime. Yeah, it sucks that you let people down that you care about, but you are doing the right thing by getting clean. And those close to you know the real you and will accept you for who you truly are, not the actions from the past. If you don't get to feeling better, maybe you should talk to a doctor. If you constantly feel down on yourself no matter how well you are doing, you made need more than words to help you feel better. Keep in mind, you can't undo what has already been done, but you can make the future wonderful! Good luck!
2016-05-18 00:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that when you became a user, your family felt that they failed you in a way. You made the choices to use drugs, sure, but when a family member or friend goes through something like that, we blame ourselves. It's selfish, I know.
Having said that, their behavior is both reckless and demeaning. They sound like they are using your past mistakes to hold you under their power, which is actually pretty common. I'll bet they've always been controlling.
The first thing you need to do is stand on your own two feet so that you are only relying on yourself. Then you tell your family how it's going to be and what kind of treatment you expect. You're a grown person and regardless of your loyalty to your parents, you need to get on with your own life and they need to know that their behavior is not helping the problem. If they don't oblige, then you cut off contact with them. It's a harsh reality but you ultimately have to do what's best for you.
I commend you for kicking your drug habit and I wish you all the best. Good luck.
2007-07-30 11:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by sirmoosta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner is an EX drug addict he has been clean for i think 7 or 8 years he has been clean the 6yrs we have been together and he sleeps all the time he's eyes are always red he looks stoned 24/7, when we go out ppl ask us if we can score ( i have never done any drugs) my family thinks he still does it but he is a good dad punishment is a responsibility and if you dont do it your kid could turn out to be a drug addict or worst. im sorry but *** your mum off coz you dont need that negitive attitude around you or you might just slip bak to your old ways and your son doesnt need that or a grandmother that treats you like ****
2007-07-30 12:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude that is really bad news and I'm sorry you're going through that. You would think that after all this time you could get some credit. IF you actually are off the stuff.
Meanwhile, I moved 1000 miles from my family and it has been the best thing I ever did. If you really want to live YOUR life, consider moving out of town, or just far enough away they can't bother you.
2007-07-30 11:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong for wanting them to shut up. I too am a recovering drug addict. Talk to them on how they make you feel, if they really cared they would understand, take them to Na meetings, get them to know more about the illness, i too went through all that for a while it seemed pointless but who is this really for them or you? font worry you'll do fine and good luck to you on you life's journey..
2007-07-30 11:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by MUNKIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not wrong to want them 2 shut up!!! i had a 5 year addiction and have been clean for 9 years now but i get the impression they are still waiting on me to *oops* up and start again.stay strong.tell mom 2 stop living in the past and get over it- you have.!! its not good 4 your son to be hearing nasty things about you from your mum. are you sure we not sisters?lol she sounds so much like mine..
2007-07-30 11:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not wrong its normal to want them to just shut up and leave you alone. my mom yells at me and shes not a drug addict. your mom is just trying to keep you from doing drugs again. but if that really bothers you when they say "ohh shes probably high" just talk to them and tell them that you haven't done drugs for 5 years and your not gonna start anytime soon. and your family is probably stressing you out which is makeing you yell, sleep alot, and punish your son.
Just have a talk with your mom.
Good Luck.
2007-07-30 11:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been clean for 4-5 yrs then what's their deal???? They shouldn't annouce to the world that you're an addict!My heart goes out to you and I'm so glad you're in recovery :) Don't let them get to you.( hard to do I'm sure) Good luck and God bless.
2007-08-01 01:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! I am a recovering alcoholic (dry over half my life) and people still remind me and others about my bad track record in my younger years. Gossip about this almost kept my wife from marrying me. Hang in there,you have colleagues world wide, and God bless!!
2007-07-30 11:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋