Are you supposed to spend more on a wedding gift if you bring a date to the wedding?

Question

What's the etiquette on wedding gifts? Please include your own opinions as well as links to sources (Miss Manners, etc.).

thanks!

Answer 1

If it's coming from both of you, yes.

If it's just from you, then...well...yeah, I guess so.

I mean, you're kinda compensating them for the extra wedding food and drink...yeah.

But then, THEY'RE the ones who invited you+1...so...I dunno, get them two plates on the registry instead of one.

I'm kinda torn--I mean, I love weddings, but they can get mighty expensive, buying all those stupid housewares and fancy-shmancy cards.

And if you buy it off the registry, they know EXACTLY how much you spent.

Unless you can get it from ebay or an outlet store or something...ha! Problem solved!

Buy the best Big Lots has to offer and present it from both of you.

Answer 2

If it is just me! then it can be about $100 to $200 If I come with a 'date' i would make it up to $300 I just depends on the couple getting married! (What do they need, what do they want.......... I don't know if there are proper etiquette on this but you should at least take in to consideration that they are newly married and they are going on a honey moon... So they need that extra Humph?!?! (not hump people, you all been there before.. (lol, I am making a statement that is not even true for me, I have not been married yet, but any way the rest is a good stander-ed.) I would never go less then $50 no matter how much you might despise them. but $100 is a safe bet ^_^


I don't know how much help this is since, this is just how I am.


This is one of those situations were you can SHARE the LOVE, and by LOVE I mean MONEY lol because nothing is harder on a wallet then getting married!!! ( No offense Lady's it is just we guys like to empress most of the time, so we don't think about the future and any were between a year and two you are going to have some Money problems and that will put a strain on your marriage.)

Best regards,
Adam D.

Answer 3

There's no set amount that one is supposed to spend on a wedding gift. Protocol suggests that you should provide a gift of some sort, but no one knew before you were coming how much you were planning to spend or how much you think the reception is worth. And once you buy the gift, there's no telling whether or not you've spent more or less based on whom you brought to the wedding.

If your intended date wants to chip in for the gift, then of course you both will know that you've bought it together, and your card should indicate that it came from the two of you. If, on the other hand, your invitation simply read, "To Ask Mike and Guest," it's entirely reasonable that you would sign the card as from you alone, and your guest is there just to help you have a good time at the party.

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Answer 4

First, I'm going to assume the invitation said "You and a date", and you're not just bringing someone uninvited.

That said, yes, the gift should be the equivalent of two people, maybe in one gift, or maybe in two separate gifts.

Answer 5

Bring a guest only if the invitation says that. If not, it's a no no. Yes, do spend more when there are 2 of you.

Answer 6

I guess your supposed to give a gift equal to the cost of the caterted dinner.

Answer 7

If you go to the wedding, you really ought to bring a gift.

www.etiquettehell.com

Answer 8

I'd say no. Your date may be a stranger to them, and they might not even remember later if you brought a date or not!! So just sign the gift from you. These things just get too expensive !! :)

Answer 9

best wedding gift=one from their wedding registry

Answer 10

I would, especially if the reception includes a meal.