!!! I need some advice please?
Heres the situation. I'm 26 female and hes 25. We met on eharmony back in april. He lives an hour and 45mins away from me. We've been on three dates. Talk, and text eachother throughout our day. He wants to move fast and I dont. He gets annoyed when I cant meet up with him because I have errands and stuff to do after work, and thats a far drive to do after 5pm. I'm not ready for sex with him yet. It seems so difficult already. I think hes awesome and cute and funny and handsome. We click when we talk, he lets me know everything hes thinking. I'm having issues with him living far away from me. I havent told him that. Just seems we cant be a normal couple if he lives an hour and 45 mins away from me. I'm guarded with my feelings still with him. My question to u is what should I do, and what do you think i'm doing??
2007-07-30 11:15:03 · 8 answers · asked by Crazy Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep your guard up and get to know him better. Meet his friends and family.
2007-07-30 11:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by Mountain Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend lives 1hour and 30 mins away in another state. we met on a dating site also. But we clicked so well and had so much in common that I felt he was worth the drive, I think he felt the same way too. We've spent every weekend together since we met. I guess I moved a bit more quickly than you, and thats ok. You should move as slowly as you like. But, if deep down you don't feel he's worth the drive, then maybe he's not the right one. And no, you can't be a "normal" couple. But then again, back in the old west men sent away for brides in the mai, what is normal anyway?
Maybe he is just too far away and you want someone closer. There is nothing wrong with saying what you want. You just might have to wait for Mr. Right to come along. It sounds like he is very into you, but you still aren't sure if he's even worth the drive.
2007-07-30 18:22:56 · answer #2 · answered by mydragonmoon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty great. He should be treating you like a queen, but he sounds very demanding.
Let me tell you, guys are pigs. I should know, I am one. Guys will tell you anything to get you into bed.
If a guy is really a keeper, someone you want to be with for a long time, if not the rest of your life, then he'd better not be treating you the way he is.
And being "cute" and "handsome," when you come down to it, is really not that important. You want someone who is a good person, trustworthy, and fun to be with.
Just don't rush into anything!
2007-07-30 18:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Rick K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are into someone, then an hour and 45 min is not really all that far away, you would be jumping to go see him if you thought your feelings were that strong for him. Maybe you see that maybe he is not the direction that you want to go with and you guys should just be friends.
2007-07-30 19:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell u if he is living a hour and fourty five mins away and if ur not ready for it dont do it u will regret it in the future...
2007-07-30 18:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by ryan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the losers I date, he sounds great. I would just talk to him about this... or get rid of him so other women may have him. Be gentle.
2007-07-30 18:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Meow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's meant to be the distance will work itself out.
2007-07-30 18:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think of what i am saying to you..........imagine how many other girls he is also meeting and trying to push into sex....I am serious....
2007-07-30 18:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋