I don't understand. I mean I understand that I'm overweight, but why can't guys look past that? Does it matter? Are there guys out there that like bigger girls?! Grr. I'm tired of it. What do I do?
2007-07-30 11:05:58 · 23 answers · asked by Shelby Lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shelby. Shelby. Shelby...
The first thing you have to fix is your self-esteem. The more you feel sorry for yourself, the more your going to wear your feelings on your sleeve. People can sense when someone has poor self-esteem or personal issues because they tend to carry it around with them. This makes a bad impression and gives those that are interested a bad vibe.
Being overweight doesnt mean you cant be be in a relationship. Some men actually prefer that. Being curvy is much better than walking on sticks. Once you believe that you are a great person, attractive, with a great personality. You will shine more and youll be amazed at the difference from the sad you. People are more social when someone presents themself as a positive person.
If your really serious about your weight, try some cardio exercise and go on a diet that fits you. If your really serious, see a nutrionist who can help you.
When I feel down about myself, I usually give myself a mini makeover and go out with girls and have fun. Dont base your outing on meeting men, if it happens it happens. Dont rush and just take care of you before you take care of anyone else. Believe me, when you feel good about yourself and your goals, youll get results much faster than you expected.
Keep your head up!!
2007-07-30 11:13:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it has anything to do with your weight, as long as you take care of yourself (dress well, wear make-up, etc.). You just haven't found the right guy yet. Look at it this way. If a guy ISN'T interested in you because of your appearance, then he's just an a*shole and wouldn't do a skinny girl any good b/c he'll most likely run off with someone who looks even better than her at some point. Shallow is as shallow does.
I'd also like to add that at various times in my life, I have been overweight and I have been thin (too thin). I personally didn't see a difference in either stage of how many guys I went out with. I think it has more to do with personality and how approachable someone is. I give off an unapproachable vibe to people. Think things through and try to find out if you are standoffish or reserved or even shy. That could be your main issue, not your weight.
Hope this makes sense. Good luck!!! You'll find your man, and he doesn't have to be overweight to love you back.
2007-07-30 11:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by higherlovetx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm skinny and like you, i'm also single but by choice. Too selective I guess. If you're resilient, have a great personality, are easy to get along with and opinionative, I don't see why weight should be an issue. You just need to put yourself out there and be prepared to handle whatever circumstances may come your way. I know you feel that it's easier for skinny girls to get the guys, but it's just as easy for us to reject or ignore them the same way they do the heavier girls. And sometimes, it's just as difficult for skinny girls to get a guy too. Given they are some nice non-judgemental guys out there who would be more than willing to get to know you but as I said before, it all begins with you, you have to put yourself out there and go after what you want cause times are changing and guys are some guys becoming more laid back.
And if at first you don't succeed, try again.
2007-07-30 11:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Shelby G,
There are guys out there who like bigger girls! There are a lot of big men out there too, wondering the same thing. If you are tired of being single, then start with thinking positive. Write about who you would like to invite into your heart and imagine and feel how it would be to do that. Get into the knowing that there is someone great for you to connect with. Don't worry, change your thoughts and know he's out there!
Blessings,
Denise
2007-07-30 11:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me I ain't no skinny thing either, I definitaley got some coushin for the pushin and I've had plenty of dates, most guys don't care (only the egotistical guys do and they aren't worth it), but I think what's most important is that you're happy with yourself. I didn't really start dating until I was completely happy with myself. Real men, like the down to earth guys, the one that matter, dont care about looks, sure they have to be attracted to you, but you should also put an aura out there that says you're confident with yourself. Then guys will start looking your way. I know it's hard to believe, but trust me, I've been there, hell, I'm STILL there, but it works! Be confident, and dont be too shy! Get out there! Have some fun! Good Luck!
2007-07-30 11:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky Colette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are guys out there who like bigger girls! I know several guys who say they like women "with meat on them"!
The key is to be comfortable with your body. If you are truly comfortable with your weight, then let that feeling blossom into confidence. The one thing that all men find attractive is confidence in a woman. If you love yourself, you will radiate that. Do little things that make you feel pretty, and keep getting yourself out there. One day you will meet the man who thinks you're perfect just the way you are.
If you aren't really honestly comfortable with yourself, then change it. It's hard, but you can do it. Don't settle for feeling bad.
2007-07-30 11:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by demimonde00 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be shallow, but there are guys who do look past that.. you just havent found the right person. If you really want to try something new, you could try online dating... or try changing your lifestyle if you really want to change or appearance... and if no to that.. dont let the overweight issue bother you..like men say, more cushion for the pushin!
2007-07-30 11:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sakuni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are men out there who like every conceivable shape and size. The big thing you need to work on is your self-confidence. If you're happy and confident in yourself, no matter your size, then there will be men who are attracted to you. If you walk with your head down as if you are ashamed of how you look then that will be what men notice first.
2007-07-30 11:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, that doesn't matter! Stop being down on yourself and just live! The right guy for you is not going to be that superficial anyway. Good Luck!!
2007-07-30 12:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't loose hope! There are many guys out there that don't mind your weight. Some even look for it. Have you tried on line dating sites? Perhaps you could put it out there that you are looking for a guy who will except you for who are you, and I'm sure you'd find someone. :) Really, I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-30 11:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by dizzy01101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋