I'm 13, mom wants me to wear a kind of bra I don't like, how do I deal w/ this?

Question

Mom was on a trip, I did wrong stuf, bad friends made up my mind. When she came back I got punished but she wasn't harsh. I was grounded but she treated me w/ love and allowed some fun. Since during the time I messed up I didn't wear a bra, mom got me some bras made of thick material that covered a lot of my breasts, give much support and clip w/ 4 hooks,just to compensate for the time I was braless. I didn't like them but didn't complain. My punishment is over, no more restriction, I'm completely forgiven,my relationship w/ mom is great, But she decided to keep me wearing those bras. Now I complained a lot, but she said they are good for me and won't back off until I leave home. She was loving but firm and said This is not a punishment but for your own good. I really want bras w/ full coverage, much support , no see through andn 4 hooks, and dont want complaints, ok? Said they are good and decent, just what a good girl like me needs. What do I do? Just obey without complaining?

Answer 1

At 13 and 14 you should listen to and obey your mom. When you are 15 and certainly 16, I'm sure she will start allowing you to make your own choices as long as they are not outlandish.

There is a huge difference in the maturity of 13 and 15 year old girls and your mom knows it.

Answer 2

I'm glad you accepted your punishment and reconciled your relationship with your mom. That shows some good development towards maturity.

So look for the mature solution here - compromise. Yes, supportive bras are healthy for you, and as you enter your teen years it's better to err on the side of modesty rather than dress/act/be slutty before you're ready for it. But there is a middle ground between nun-like modesty and bra-less sluttishness. Ask your mom if she's willing to accept a compromise, and help you find bras that are acceptable to both of you. Assure her that you will wear bras whenever you leave the house, provided she's willing to let you wear bras that you both approve of. Remind her that you can be a "good girl" no matter what you wear.

Agree to let a third person referee your discussion, and have a saleslady at the department store suggest bras for you. There are plenty of bras that have two or three hooks; offer pretty colors/lace/design; conceal the nipples; and provide good support. You really don't need the old-fashioned four-hook full coverage bras unless you are very full-figured and have more than a D cup. I'm sure you can find plenty of bras to suit you both.

Answer 3

I think at your age, you need to have a good bra. I'm not sure what bra you have in mind... but going without is NOT smart. You're not exactly setting youself up with a good image.

Anyway, perhaps you can find a couple of nice bras you like (try the victoria's secret cotton or body by victoria) and run them by your mom for her thoughts. The two lines I am suggesting are comfortable, have some fun/flare, but are still conservative enough for most moms to approve.

Good luck!

P.S. sounds like you have a great mom!

Answer 4

Yep, just obey without complaining. Trust me. She's not trying to be mean. A lot of people will say she's being controlling but she's just hoping you'll learn from it. Honestly, this sounds like an idea I'll keep in mind for my daughter. Maybe if I'd had more practical bras as a teen, I would've been less likely to show them to my boyfriends (which I regret doing).

Answer 5

does your mom have a sister? if so talk to your aunt about it and see if she can talk some since into your mom. You are 13 no reason for 4 hooks. Those are for people that have like double d boobs. You only need 1 hook at that age and they should be called training bras or A cups.
If nothing else works tell her you are getting made fun off in gym class. you have to undress into gym clothes right?

Answer 6

This is kinda a coming of age sorta story. I think it would be bast for you to listen to her because she is older then you and knows a thing or two. Even if she didn't intend a message, you did say that you had been punished for doing things you shouldn't means it must have been connected to why she gave it.
I think it is: You should not worry what other people think so much that you listen to them when you know its not right. If its comfortable to you the wear it but there should be a better reason not to then "other people think".
Don't switch them or take it off that will only show that you wont listen. Tell her if you really don't want to wear it.
Don't listen to people for god sakes especially guys trust me. Male/22

Answer 7

Whoa... I'm confused.
So... what does your doing "bad stuff" and getting grounded have to do with wearing a bra? Are you wanting to wear bras that your mom considers too sexy? (Is that what she means by "full coverage, not see-through"?) She's probably thinking that if your bras are too cute, you'll be more inclined to show them off to people! LOL

Tell her they're uncomfortable and to please help you pick out some that you like. Don't go for the push-ups or sexy ones, of course. Maybe you can come to a compromise.

Answer 8

well actually she's correct. I developed early and developed large...I was a C by 14. I use to wear the 18 bras all through high school for the support. it totally helps to keep them from being saggy and stretch out to much as they are growing. Follow you mom's advice...it will pay off i the long run.

Answer 9

you know at sears there is a nice junior line of bras that are really nice and comfy, they come at a nice price too! Just tell your mom how you feel about it, also, you are not some machine to obey anothers orders without question... I'm only older than you by three years, my mom is just like yours by the way you are talking about your mom, but she gives me my space a little better. I think your mom is trying to protect your innocence or some bull like that..... Shes just trying to be a good mother but shes not listening to you all that good.

Answer 10

the only reason you are probably upset with the bra she is getting you is because it makes you look like a kid. your story is kind of weird though. why does she care when you were on punishment that you didnt wear a bra unless you were going to school i would understand but if you were just at home then that makes no sense.