he was never there for me, my family is never there for me and i feel as though i have no support group at all. my emotions are always bottled up inside. it feels sickening in my heart and stomach. he could care less about me. it also makes me sick that other older people act like my dad is a victim and it makes me look like I was a rebellious child. There is no reason at all for pity on my father. He made millions of dollars and could have cared less about his children. Why are children of deadbeat dads looked down upon?
My dad was worthless to us and people want me to pity someone that does not want to communicate with me and society looks at is as there is something wrong with me. People, he does not care about me. I don't care what you say, he doesn't even answer the phone when I call.
I hate people that don't understand and try to make you look bad.
2007-07-30 10:47:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was a wonderful child, I am an adult now. I was a victim. My dad was awful and abusive. How dare you say, what did I do to contribute to his behavior. NOTHING.
2007-07-30 11:06:47 · update #1
You don't state your age.
For one thing, being ignored isn't as bad as all that. You can always find friends and their families to form your own support group. You can always also seek out professional counseling at your school, too.
I would say that the best you can do is knuckle down on your studies and get through your schooling as soon as you can.
You will feel better once you are out of the house and off to college... it will give you a new perspective. From there you can launch into a career.
The dynamic probably will not change for some years after you have left the house and have become self-supporting.
Been there, done that.
2007-07-30 10:58:09 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father was not there for you then why does it matter so much to you what others think. You say that he is a deadbeat dad. I would guess that that means that he never gave money to your mother to support you. Your message implies that he is not in the same house as you. I cannot help you because you do not give anything specific enough to help. If you hate him so much then why do you call him? You are not being honest with yourself and to us. It would be more in your favor if you would say that you are bothered by the fact tht he does not include you in his life. To say that you hate him would make it seem not important. It is and it only makes it you more of the victem that you really are. Okay. You are hurt and bothered. That makes sense and it would to anyone who was a caring person. You do not feel supported by your father. Then do not allow his selfishness turn you into an angry person. It is his loss that he will not have had the fortune to be in your life. You can be happy only if you decide to not allow him to be an influence in your life. Live on and just remember that you can be a good person. And that good person came about because you were the one that had to do it alone. You are a valuable person and how you turn out will show that you care about yourself enough to be that way. I am sorry but ....
2007-07-30 18:10:58 · answer #2 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I GET IT.
YOU HAVE REALLY NO REASON
TO PITY HIM
BUT DONT SAY HATE
MABYE SOME PEOPLE DONT UNDERSTAND THE SITUATION OR SOMETHING
I KNOW EVERYTHING GETS BETTER
TRY SEEING SOMEONE
IF YOU KEEP IT BOTTLED UP, UR BOUND TO EXPLODE
just like a soda bottle that you just shook,
it gonna exploded
but just twist the lid a little
and let a little spill out slowly
dont let it pop
2007-07-30 18:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by ★s a m y★ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋