I'm in love with a girl who is Turkish and Muslim, her religion is very important to her, and she's very important to me. I want to understand her as much as I can. Reading the Quran, a good idea or not? I'm not Muslim.
2007-07-30 10:20:32 · 25 answers · asked by Monkey Dancer 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
And I would become Muslim to be with her.
2007-07-30 10:29:34 · update #1
I know 100000000000% that she loves me. She didn't ask me to read the Quran, and doesn't expect me to become muslim unless I choose to be. I don't have religion, she already did, I wouldn't ever ask her to give up something which she feels has helped her so much. I'm happy she has it, and I want to learn more about what makes her the way she is.
I admire the strength she is given and shows because of Islam. I'm going to read the Quran, and try to understand it for my benefit and hers.
Thank you all for your input.
2007-08-01 08:54:05 · update #2
well if she is important to you, you are going to have to convert to Islam to marry her, and another thing you are going to have to get circumcised lol i hear it is very painful at an older age. If you still up to it reading the Quran should be the least of your worries. lol
2007-07-30 10:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
InshaAllah read the Quran and learn about Islam but know that you shouldn't become a Muslim for another person, rather for yourself. If you believe in the oneness of God and what Islam teaches then Alhumdulillah that's good.
I am reading the Quran with English translation, it is very interesting. Good luck.
2007-07-31 07:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by ¸.•*´`*•.¸ ℓανєη∂єr ¸.•*´`*•.¸ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, you can't just become a Muslim for a girl. You have to want to become Muslim by yourself and it has to come from your heart. Read the Quran, understand it, act upon it, and hopefully God will bless you both.
2007-07-31 07:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wish my lover boy did this, things would be much simpler for me and him :'( i soooooooo need to convince him and i am in the girl's postion. You should read the Qu'ran because it is the word of Allah and it is the truth. No book on earth can beat it...it says and i cant quote coz im not a scholor but in the Qu'ran it says that the water near cape town (mount table) i think or is it...i dunno which sea, theres 2 different waters running along side each other (one being sweet and the other being salty water and if u take water frm this side its sweet and salty if u take frm the other side) and this was when the verses of the Holy Qu'ran was revealed 1400 yrs ago and recently scientists have found out this but if they had read the Qu'ran, they would have had to waste time and effort and tests and energy and life and precious minutes of life finding this out when it already says in the Qu'ran. All the answers are there *shrug* you see.
2007-07-30 12:17:07 · answer #4 · answered by allgiggles1984 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That doen't sound an equal match.
You are prepared to give everything for her but she is unwilling to give up her religion for you?
Then you will always be ruled by another, her religion, which will in the end be a barrier between you, even if you convert.
She holds that between you.
Not an easy situation.
You are in a position of weakness which may threaten the very thing you desire.
This is not a situation I would wish any man to be in.
And have you thought?
What, just what would happen if, in time, you came to a different belief, whether religious, political or whatever?
Does she really love YOU?
2007-07-30 10:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by Jens Q 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am Turkish and Muslim as well :)
But you should never convert to Islam for a girl, unless you really have interest in Islam and truly want to convert. Convert only if you really want to because you want to embrace Islam, and not so that you can marry her. Think of it this way; if you are going to convert just so you can marry her, you should not convert. But if you want to convert and be a true Muslim, not just by name and for the girl, but because deep down inside you do, then by all means, convert. She can only marry you if you are Muslim anyway. Your liking of your girlfriend can, however, influence you to learn about Islam, which is making you want to convert. It is OK if you got help from her on Islam and that influenced you to convert, in other words, its ok if she made you want to convert by telling you how peacefful, great, right, perfect, etc. Islam is. We are not saying that you must find Islam on your own or anything, so its ok if she influenced your decision, as long as you are not converting stricly to marry her. So I would highly suggest speaking to an imam about the religion, and learn about the religion. Your girlfriend can definitely help you as well. Islam truly is a beautiful, peaceful religion. This, unfortunately, is not what the media makes it out to be. I'm sure your girlfriend has already told you how bias the media is.
If you are going to be a true Muslim and are sincerely interested in Islam, then I suggest you learn about the religion with the help of an imam and of course with help from your girlfriend. But if you are only doing it to marry her for lust's sake, and won't really feel like you are a Muslim deep inside, then do not convert. Just know about Islam; learn the truth about it (not what you see on TV), and if you are interested, you may convert. I sincerely wish you good luck, and I hope you make the right decision! Let us know how it goes, I am looking forward to it.
2007-07-31 07:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Omer 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Some moslems whose language is not arabic, and who don't know any arabic, still read the koran in arabic. They know the alphabet and make the correct sounds in their heads as they read, even though they do not understand the meaning of the text they are reading.
I suggest you do that. It's a lot more interesting than reading the koran in translation, and if you do ever try reading a translation you will see exactly what I mean.
2007-07-30 11:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by The Singing President 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well if you read the quran you will know about real Islam not bloody islam that stupid people follow. but his won't change anything in your relationship with that girl. if i were in your shoes i would read it just to know islam before judging muslims. any way you'll find a lot of similarities between islam, christianity and judhism.
2007-07-30 11:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't change for anyone apart from yourself. I started reading the quran to just know more about it and to understand a very religious friend of mine but I had to stop after a while. It just kept going on about praising Allah... pages and pages of 'praise allah or you will burn in hell'. If it is the word of God which it claims to be then this god is an egomaniac. What kind of god requires so much praise? It implies he needs this and therefore has a deficiency which he shouldn't by definition have.
I wanted to understand why my friend felt the way she did but after reading it, I actually just thought lower of her. I know that's bad but I really couldn't understand how she could believe any of it. I tried to understand, I really did but there are just too many problems in Islam... especially the negative way it portrays women.
Good luck with whatever you decide but please don't convert just for her sake... you may love her but if she truly loves you then she wouldn't expect to change. She would accept you like you accept her... would she give up islam for you?
2007-07-30 10:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by jenny84 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Read the Koran to expand your knowledge on the Muslim faith, girls will come and go in your life, but if she is the one for you then pursue her with your life and never let go.
Best things in life is to take it at the first opportunity on what your gut instinct tells you, in my opinion your first instinct is the best one.
Happy reading.
PS you shall need a good dictionary for your aid
2007-07-31 08:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋