It seems most Christians don't even follow this one...please be honest here...no more hyporcrites....or liars...even if you preach this that may mean you don't follow it.....
In my youth I was made fun of because I believed this.....and believed sex was for marriage....how foolish am I?
2007-07-30 10:05:47 · 20 answers · asked by Asker_765 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Christians go against the bible when it comes to premarital sex and claim that it is a sin. According to the Bible, it is not.
In Exodus, chapter 20, we read the Ten Commandments, and are told that we should not commit adultery. Adultery however is not defined as simply having sex outside of marriage. It's defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said to prohibit sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, if we look in the book of Leviticus, we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not, however, prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family.
Some places in the bible, such as Mark 7:21, state that "fornication" is a sin. Christians like to interpret that as meaning "sex outside of marriage." It's not true. The Greek translation identifies "fornication" as being any "illicit (illegal) sexual activity." However, as we saw above, God did not mention sex between two unmarried people as being illicit.
Interesting. And, in fact, we read in 2 Samuel chapter 5 where some of God's greatest leaders, such as King David (whom God called a man "after his own heart"), had hundreds of wives and hundreds of unmarried concubines (women kept in the house for the purpose of having sex). None of these were considered sins. It is only when David had sex with another man's wife (2 Samuel 11:1-5) that he committed the sin of adultery.
Because Christians go against the Bible when it comes to this, they will burn in "Hell" (according to their own beliefs) for not following the Bible 100% like it tells them to.
2007-07-30 10:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by gruz 3 · 5⤊ 4⤋
You are definately not foolish. In fact, The Bible says that sex outside of marriage is foolish (Proverbs 6:23-35)
Premarital sex is a sin, just like any other sin, no better or worse. The reason behind this is that Marriage is suppose to be a covenant not to be broken. If you study covenants in the Bible you would see that all covenants were sealed/signed with blood. That is why when a girl has sex for the first time, she bleeds. It's not a coincidence. God sees it as if you are saying to this person (the one who you have sex with) that you two are becoming one in Spirit. You give a piece of you away, literally! Sex should not be taken lightly (1 Corinthians 6:13-20). Today's society makes it OK to go around having sex before you are married, when in reality it is a sin. It is the only sin that we commit against ourselves. Now don't get me wrong, sex is not bad (when you are married) (Song of Solomon 4:1-16, Proverbs 5:15-21, Hebrews 13:4) It is a gift for a husband and wife. Not to say that if you have already had sex outside of marriage, God cannot make you whole again...God can do all things... But no you are not crazy to wait till marriage... That is how it is suppose to be! Honestly, in today's society I wouldn't say that sex is so much the problem... I think that big struggle point is lust. That's where it all starts, w/ lust... in the heart.
2007-07-30 17:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by TRV 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You're not foolish at all! I believe that sex is for marriage. I'm 23 and am still a virgin. I believe that my body belongs to God and my husband....that's what the Bible teaches us. Romans 12:1-2. We are to present our bodies a living sacrifice unto God which is our reasonable service. That's why are to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. Read 1 Corinthians 7. Why Christians follow it or not is their own issue between them and the Lord. We all have sinned have come short of his glory. God Bless you man of God!
GRUZ.....I want you to read the definition of fornication that you have. Explicit activity is pre-marital sex. If you read 1 Corinthins 7 you will understand why you aren't suppose to have sex before marriage. It says that the body belongs to the husband or wife, not boyfriend or girlfriend. Also, remember that the old testiment is the old laws. Make sure you read the whole Bible and not just certain parts.
2007-07-30 17:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Proverbs31 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I definitely think sex should only occur within marriage. My husband and I saved ourselves for marriage. And I think it is wonderful if everyone can. That is what God wants. The Lord delights in chastity. Virginity is a gift I strongly believe you should give your husband or wife.
Sex is God's gift for marriage.
Sometimes people think sex is just a physical thing but I don't think it is anything more than fulfilling carnal desires if outside marriage and love - not what it is meant for (though its fine within marriage to have your needs met! :D That is the blessing of marriage)
"What are some of the compelling reasons to save sexual expression for its exclusive enjoyment and fulfillment within marriage? Saving sex for marriage:
(1) Indicates trustworthiness
(2) Provides a profound sense of accomplishment
(3) Builds confidence and self-respect
(4) Avoids emotional turmoil and heartache
(5) Avoids regret
(6) Develops self-discipline
(7) Shows maturity
(8) Provides physical and emotional safety — from STDs and unwanted pregnancy
(9) Decreases depression and suicide, and increases overall happiness
(10) Reduces divorce"
http://www.meridianmagazine.com/familyconnections/050802gift.html
(God's gift of saving yourself marriage -
2007-07-30 19:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by fishcan'tseewater 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Fornication, or pre-marital sex, is outlined in the Bible as being a sin. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (Mormons) teach and preach to abstain from sexual intimacy until after marriage. Obvious blessings from obeying this law is to cut down on sexually transmitted diseases, abortions, and unwanted children born to single parent households. There are societal benefits to obeying this commandment.
2007-07-30 17:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
think its naive to teach abstinence. I had a catholic friend in school, who was taught that she should wait til marriage, and nothing else.
When she had sex, we were sixteen, and she had no idea what to do. It was lucky that her boyfriend had been taught safe sex, and that i was there as well.
I believe that you should wait til it feels right. Until you love someone and are mature enough to make it special.
But waiting to marriage very rarely happens, and even so, they should know more than just "don't do it' and what they picked up in the girl's or boy's bathroom.
2007-07-30 17:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jez 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
after marriage the two will become one, then its lawful to do it... its call act of fornication if done when u r not married... i'm a christian who follows the word, i been made fun of many times but i dont care; i rather been made fun of, then to disobey the Word of God... or i'll be taking wat he did on the cross for nothing! each time i move to the realm of lust or sin, i watch The Passion of Christ.
seeing the beating, torturing & suffering He receives, will stop u from sinning!
2007-07-30 18:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think that it is a selfish act, sex without the life long commitment of marriage is not fullfilling, and the ramifications and aftermath of premartial sex is emotionally damaging, and will be damaging to any future relationships that one may have. not to mention the potential for physical consiquence that may happen. Either way, i know that i have felt the pain of it, that would not have been experianced if sex was held in the confines of marriage.
2007-07-30 17:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by pstod 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You're not foolish for your beliefs. I know plenty of people who are saving themselves for marriage, and there's nothing wrong with that. Sex is not something to be taken lightly.
As a Christian, I feel morally obligated to believe virginity should be preserved for marriage. But personally, I can't entirely agree with it. Its something that should be shared between two people in love, married or not.
It comes down to your beliefs, and what you want in life. No one should make fun of you for this. There's nothing to make fun of.
2007-07-30 17:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Abby 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
pre-marital sex = fornication = sin. My wife and I both waited and were very glad we did. It more than compensated for the way I was made fun of for being a virgin.
2007-07-30 17:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋