Is it ugly to sit in a bar by yourself?

Question

I recently moved to San Francisco so I don't really know anyone and the past few weekends I've been going to singles bars to meet people. I'm pretty shy in these types of social settings, so I usually just sit there by myself sipping a drink. Is this ugly? If you saw me sitting in a bar by myself what would you think?

Answer 1

i would not think anything as long as you were not acting weird or trying to hard to get attention. Just do not make yourself look like a bar rat.

Answer 2

That's not the best place to meet people who you might want to befriend although there's nothing wrong with going to a bar alone...think about joining a local civic club, doing volunteer work, taking a class in something you're interested in, or developing a hobby that would get you around other people of a similar interest.

A lonely lady sitting at a bar sipping a drink will come across to many as someone loaded with emotional baggage, or someone waiting for some guy to hit-on-her/pick-her-up.

Answer 3

I think it's a nice get-away sometimes when you want to be alone and have 1 or a couple. But if you're looking to meet other people, you can do other things and meet people with similar interests then hang out...It's easier to make good friends outside the bar unless you just want someone to hit on you and assume you've found a friend. In other words meet people outside the party/club or bar scene then go hang out together. Find a hobby or group or sport/gym and take it from there. Good luck!

Answer 4

I would love to go to bars with you!! Although I live in so cal instead :( but I'm planning on moving there by the end of the year :) hehe but yea .. I'm pretty shy. and hardly know any folks. & going to a bar and sitting by myself just totally kills my esteem.

But when I go to bars and see someone sitting by themselves, esp. a girl .. I usually think she's waiting for someone or just wanting to get away from her normal people and have a drink by herself??

Answer 5

Its not!!!! I can also tell ya that me and my girlfriends are always picking up a new friend that looked like they needed to join in our fun.
I have done this a few times right after breaking up with some one myself for a change of scenery. I have been told its easier to approach ya when your alone than when your in a group by shy guys.

Answer 6

well if u lookin for sum bpdy all u got to do is go to eharmony if u are lookin forsomebody if a guy see u in the bar all he gonna be lookin for is a gurl so u can get drunk and take u home u kno the rest and them wake up and don't remember a thing im not sayin this would happen though but just be careful for who u try to pick just cuz they cute

Answer 7

Just be careful and stay alert to who you talk to. Please don't leave with someone you don't know very well, and make sure that no one follows you when you leave. It's probably not a good idea to do this as your only source of meeting people, find other places to go, in order to meet different types of people.

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with that. My suggestion is to just keep going back to the same bar, eventually you become a regular and get to know the other regulars.

Answer 9

It's not ugly - it's dangerous!! If you meet someone through the personals or something like that - meet for coffee at a well-lit diner or coffee shop. God Bless and Be Safe!!

Answer 10

I would think you may be waiting to meet someone. If there is someone you feel you would like to meet just make sure you make eye contact, smile and say hello. It may prompt them to start up a conversation with you and a friendship could begin.

Just be careful though.

Good luck!