well i was dating this girl and one reason we broke up is b/c we're 2 dif religions. so does anyone know b/c they have dont it or anything...but could it work still...i mean what will our children be, and i believe dif then she does so what ? i dont think it would work RIGHT? i really love her but i dont think its possible is it? if so i would really like to know really .....any help please...shes catholic and i'm apostalic...completely dif...
2007-07-30 09:48:31 · 18 answers · asked by Dan The Man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It really is not a good idea, Especially if you intend to have children. The kids will feel stuck in the middle. They will feel that they will have to choose sides, by choosing a religion.
A good marriage should be based on the same values and beliefs, you should be united in purpose and have a strong foundation of goals and values. You can't do that if you are two different religions.
Edit**
BabyG- Asian, American, Hispanic, African American, etc... those are races and nationalities, not religions. Interracial marriages don't have the problems that interfaith marriages do because people of different races can share the same values and beliefs.
2007-07-30 10:16:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can get married and it can still work. My husband and I are 2 different religions, I was raised Catholic and he is Episcopal. The important thing is that we respect each others beliefs. If you are two different Christian religions it should not be hard because the fundamental beliefs are the same, you will just have to work out a compromise for how you raise your children.
2007-07-30 12:03:49 · answer #2 · answered by Reba 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on a couple of things 1. are either one of you very serious about your religion or can you two have a "Agree to disagree" opnnion aboout things. and 2. How would both of you like to raise children someday? My husband is Jewish and i come from a very strict christian church. But the way that we can make it work is we both agree we want our children to know the bases, god loves you this is how he created the world. But when it comes to certain things that we disagree on (jesus, messiah, etc.) we're going to show our children the two sides and let them choose for themselves. It will be difficult, and the grandparents will be the ones taking them to church, and my husband and I will go to each other's churches with out causing any kind of scene. But when it comes to each other, i try to learn as much as possible about jewdiesm, and he does the same so that we can have open minds about each religion and we do NOT bash each other's churches! becaise both of us have been raised to beleive it, and you should never bash someones beliefs. I really hope this works, I'm a big believer in Love conquers all! but it's also a personal choice too.
2007-07-30 09:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Brittany M 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You can still get married. Just remember that you need to agree on certain things in order to be compatible as life partners. That doesn't make either of you right or wrong - you just need to be sure that your religious differences are not going to cause any problems down the road. For example, if one of you thinks that the other's religion is silly, or if one of you thinks that the other is going to hell, you in for some *big* disagreements. - especially if you're planning to have kids.
If you are non-practicing, then that makes life a little easier. My fiance and I are both non-religious (agnostic), so it doesn't matter that my family is Christian and his family is Hindu. We keep the cultural traditions we like and just ignore the parts that don't work for us. We're also having a non-religious wedding.
If religion is very important to you, you could talk to a trusted priest or other clergy person and ask him/her for guidance. If you truly love this young woman, then you can probably find a way to make it work. Just remember that both of you are going to have to make compromises. You also need to make decisions regarding your children *before* you get married. These are issues that a clergy person could help you work through. If after counselling you and your girlfriend think that you can make a long-term partnership work, then go for it!
Good luck.
2007-07-30 10:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're right to be concerned. Technically, you CAN still get married, but I don't think it's a good idea. My husband and I were different religions when we first started dating and it was hard. We both tried to convert the other. But...after 3 years of dating, I converted to his religion - for lots of reasons, which are not important right now. But my point is it's not fair to your kids - they'd have to choose between "Mom's Church" and "Dad's Church". Religion is supposed to unite a family, not divide it. Please, please think very carefully before making this decision. Love can't conquer everything.
2007-07-30 16:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two different religions CAN get married, but it is HARD.
You both need to agree prior to getting married how to raise your children with regards to teaching them about religion.
Most of the ones I know of fail because they each want to teach their children only one religion, instead of letting them experience each one and learn about them all.
There are ones that DO succeed, and they have said it is a struggle but they make do.
2007-07-31 03:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first marriage was to a man who practiced no religion. He believed in God, just didn't practice. I am Christian and we never had any problems before he was "born again". I'm now engaged to a Muslim and neither of us plan to convert. I'm currently reading the quran so I will know more about his religion though. I think the key is that you respect each other's beliefs and try to understand them. When it comes to teaching children you should teach them the beliefs of both parents without saying one religion is the right one. When they are old enough they will decide for themselves which religion to practice if any.
2007-07-30 09:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
My ex husband and I were different religions. I'm catholic and he is southern baptist.
I wanted a huge catholic church wedding so things we good because we had the ceremony at my catholic church and his pastor from the baptist church was able to do the ceremony together. It was the longest ceremony ever but it worked.
2007-07-30 10:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Valentina 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriends brother is not a particular religion but the girl he married was 1/2 greek orthodox....he was baptized greek orthodox in order to marry her. One of you could convert to the others religion if you really love one another. Hope that helps....
2007-07-30 09:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by jlynnc_84 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you love her you can still get marry.
Now a day there a lot of people who had different religion and get marry. Asian marry america, Africa america marry white. Chinese marry india.
She just have to except your religion and you have to except hers
Marriage is someone you wanted to spend time them and have family. Tell you about problems they have. You got to love that person to spend the rest of your life.
Marriage is taking another level in life of spending life together and starting your own family.
2007-07-30 09:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋